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- Millennials and the Holiday Spirit - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2013 from Phyllis GoldbergAlthough it may be the holiday season, as far as presents go that doesn't mean a whole lot to Millennials. Like so many other issues, they have their own ideas about gift giving. Apparently what they want is cash, mostly to pay down college costs and other debt. So much for the negative ...
Views: 2829(2 votes) - Costa Rica: New Ways to Nurture Family - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2013 from Phyllis GoldbergI recently traveled through Costa Rica, a small Central American country where peace of mind is a natural commodity. Visiting felt like a breath of fresh air with the slow pace of living and ecological mindfulness. The country has no need for a military presence and family life is a top ...
Views: 2542 - GEMS for Working Moms - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2013 from Phyllis GoldbergIs your life an endless cycle, revolving around work and taking care of the kids? If so, you’re not alone. In a recent study by the Families and Work Institute, ½ of American women say they don’t have enough time to spend on themselves and to choose the activities they enjoy. We all know that ...
Views: 1370 - AMOUR: Lessons from the 2013 Best Foreign Film - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Phyllis GoldbergAlthough the 2013 Academy Awards are history, one gem - Amour - will continue to shine. This heartbreaking and unflinching movie was painful to watch but it stimulated conversations with more questions than answers. As the people we love decline, how do we deal with the inevitable ...
Views: 1543(6 votes) - Are You a Helicopter Parent? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2012 from Phyllis GoldbergIf you’re a 'Helicopter Parent,' hovering and rarely out of touch, think about joining the grassroots movement that advocates giving teens space. As you’ve noticed, there are lots of hormonal and brain changes going on in adolescence. You may feel ambivalent about backing off at this time, ...
Views: 1770(3 votes) - How to Make a Good Marriage Better - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2012 from Phyllis GoldbergYou know what they say if something is moving along without any major hurdles - ‘if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.’ But your marriage may not yet have reached its full potential. Believe it or not, you can change boring routines and improve your relationship. According to the field of ...
Views: 1385(2 votes) - Three Cheers for the Sandwich Generation - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2012 from Phyllis GoldbergJuly is Sandwich Generation Month, a chance to pay tribute to adult children who are juggling the demands of raising kids while taking care of aging parents. The number of Americans 65 and older is projected to increase from 40 million in 2010 to over 88 million by 2050, doubling the ranks of ...
Views: 2102 - 2012 College Graduates Are Moving Back Home - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2012 from Phyllis GoldbergThis year over 1.75 million college students walked across the stage to pick up their diplomas. Seniors everywhere were excited to graduate as parents were thinking about words of wisdom to impart. With the scarcity of jobs and school loans due, it’s going to be harder than ever for these ...
Views: 1735 - Women and the Art of Play - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2012 from Phyllis GoldbergWe all know about the importance of play for the emotional growth and development of children. It can enhance their imagination, increase social skills and boost self-confidence. So why don't we place more value on play for ourselves? According to a recent study by the Families and Work ...
Views: 1283 - What Bhutan Can Teach Us About Happiness - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2012 from Phyllis GoldbergIt has been over ten years since I retired from my full-time practice and spent three months doing volunteer work and traveling in Southeast Asia. One of the best parts of my trip was spending time in the remote Himalayan kingdom of Bhutan. It was their monarch who defined the concept of Gross ...
Views: 1382 - When Boomerang Kids Move Back Home - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2011 from Phyllis GoldbergNot since the Great Depression have so many fledgling adults moved into the empty nest with mom and dad. This cyclical trend has accelerated along with the economic crisis. Faced with school loans, debts or no job, it makes sense to head for home - with its emotional security and financial ...
Views: 1432 - The New Normal After Separation - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2011 from Phyllis GoldbergDo you want to know an unexpected finding from the Framingham Heart Study, a research project that has been conducted over six decades? Happiness is contagious and the secret may very well be in the connection. Social relationships correlate positively with happiness. That is, if your friend is ...
Views: 1504 - Kids on Summer Vacation: A Working Parent's Dilemma - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2011 from Phyllis GoldbergFor families, June is a busy time with graduation parties, little league championships and music recitals. And we all know that right around the corner is summer vacation - lazy days for kids but often stressful for working parents. So if you haven't nailed down your plans yet, here are some ...
Views: 2147(2 votes) - Happily Ever After: Tips for Prince William and Kate - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2011 from Phyllis GoldbergThe 19th century English poet, Lord Alfred Tennyson, put this universal truth in writing: "In the spring, a young man's fancy lightly turn to thoughts of love." And there's no better time of the year for a royal wedding! Apparently the April 29, 2011 marriage of Prince William of Wales and Kate ...
Views: 1404 - How to Bypass the Road to Divorce - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from Phyllis GoldbergAre you and your partner worried about money in these uncertain times? During any economic crisis, couples have to face tough financial decisions. This can lead to an increase in stress and aggravate problems that already exist in your marriage. As you look back to when you first met, what ...
Views: 1311(4 votes) - Elizabeth Edwards: Lessons About Resilience - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2010 from Phyllis GoldbergElizabeth Edwards, diagnosed with breast cancer in 2004, died 12/7/10 at the age of 61. She ended an extraordinary struggle, having lived with the death of her teenage son, high political ambition, marital betrayal and advancing disease. She often said that she didn't want to be defined by ...
Views: 1534 - A College Lesson for Parents - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2010 from Phyllis GoldbergWhen you dropped your kids off at college, were you the one dragging your heels? This generation of parents has been described as clinging, especially when they refuse to leave the campus. In fact, a number of college administrators have introduced blunt language into orientation schedules, ...
Views: 1399(2 votes) - Why Sleep-away Camp Can Be Good for Your Family - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2010 from Phyllis GoldbergThe thought of sleep-away camp may stir up anxiety and ambivalence for you and your kids. As in any new situation there are unknowns, and it's easy to let them get the best of you. Yet camp can be a great opportunity for kids to develop their strengths, interests and independence. And believe ...
Views: 1905(4 votes) - How to Keep Your Relationship Resolutions for 2010 - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2010 from Phyllis GoldbergNow that we're well into 2010, how are you doing with your New Year's resolutions? Setting goals in the love department is just as important as losing weight or getting your finances in shape. So even though you may already be working on other resolutions, don't put your relationship on the back ...
Views: 1321 - Joannie Rochette: Olympic Courage Despite Tragic Loss - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2010 from Phyllis GoldbergJust hours after learning that her mother had died of a sudden massive heart attack, Canadian figure skater Joannie Rochette was back on the ice. One of the favorites to win an Olympic medal, she practiced her jumps over and over again while her father watched with tears in his eyes. ...
Views: 1453(1 vote) - The Haitian Tragedy: Healing after the Death of Loved Ones - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2010 from Phyllis GoldbergDays after a 7.0 earthquake devastated Port-au-Prince, the capital city of Haiti, family members battled for a proper burial of their loved ones. Time and again, tragedy followed moments of hope. Yet, despite the deaths and destruction, the people struggled to survive. And hundreds took to the ...
Views: 1557(1 vote) - Singles and Valentine's Day: Ten Tips for Less Stress - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2010 from Phyllis GoldbergValentine's Day is a romantic time for couples - a special day to express love. But it can also put pressure on people who, every other day of the year, are perfectly fine with their single status. Are you one of the millions of singles who is lonely on this day? Feeling alienated or insecure ...
Views: 1496(6 votes) - 7 Tips to Keep Your New Year's Resolutions Going Strong - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2009 from Phyllis GoldbergThe idea of New Year's resolutions is not really new. In Roman mythology, Janus was the god of gates, doors, doorways, beginnings and endings. Janus was usually shown with two heads facing in opposite directions. According to legend, one of his heads was looking backwards into the old year and ...
Views: 1454(4 votes) - Ten Tips for Keeping Peace in the Family during the Holidays - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2009 from Phyllis GoldbergTen Tips for Keeping Peace in the Family during the Holidays By Phyllis Goldberg, Ph.D. and Rosemary Lichtman, Ph.D. Media images of the holidays are often exaggerated and, before you know it, you're trying to conform to unrealistic ideals. Combined with the added pressures and demands on ...
Views: 1676(2 votes) - The Masks We All Wear - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2009 from Phyllis GoldbergDon't we all wear masks at one time or another, pretending that everything is OK? There are many reasons people may act out this charade. It's not uncommon to hide personal pain, because putting it on display for all to see can be embarrassing and even destabilize relationships. Yet studies show ...
Views: 1782 - New Freedom as Baby Boomers Embrace the Empty Nest - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2009 from Phyllis GoldbergNow that autumn is here and your college-aged kids have moved out, you may be feeling unsettled, even melancholy. So what is it that you're more worried about - how they'll get along in school or how you'll adjust to the empty nest? For some parents 'no kids at home' represents a fresh start. ...
Views: 1502(4 votes) - Lessons Sandwiched Boomers can Learn from Senator Ted Kennedy - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2009 from Phyllis GoldbergSenator Ted Kennedy was the last of the Kennedy brothers whose power, challenges and triumphs dominated a generation of politics. He was eulogized as an inspiration to his family and to those in public service. His body of work toward progressive causes in the U.S. Senate was proof that he ...
Views: 1031(2 votes) - Michael Jackson and the High Cost of Fame - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2009 from Phyllis GoldbergComing from a family of entertainers with a demanding stage-dad, Michael Jackson had been in the limelight since he was a young boy. Super stardom was all he knew. Although talented, famous and adored, his was a lonely life - one full of contradictions. He tried to create his own private reality ...
Views: 1932(2 votes) - Recover from Financial Panic by Investing in Yourself - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2009 from Phyllis GoldbergThe financial crisis has affected many people and involved losses on many levels –jobs, income, money in the stock market, a certain comfort level, retirement funds, a sense of security, dreams for the future. And, inevitably, these feelings of loss are accompanied by a period of grieving. Ever ...
Views: 1105 - Marital Harmony Despite Financial Woes - by Submitted on May 30, 2009 from Phyllis GoldbergA perfect marriage would be free of financial controversy. But during this economic crisis, the reality is that couples need to learn new money management skills and face tough financial decisions – while at the same time making their relationship work. Not an easy task. When you use these five ...
Views: 1202 - Susan Boyle's Beauty on the Inside - by Submitted on May 05, 2009 from Phyllis GoldbergThanks to the Internet, we all had a chance to learn a lesson from Susan Boyle when she sang "I Dreamed a Dream" before judges of the TV show, "Britain has Talent." What a surreal and thrilling moment for her. And what a wake-up call for the rest of us. Her 15 minutes of fame aren't over yet. ...
Views: 1325 - How Rihanna Can Be a Positive Role Model for Teenagers - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2009 from Phyllis GoldbergChildren today are caught in the crosshairs of modern media. Technology has become their babysitter – reality TV, nude photos on the Internet, bizarre videos on YouTube, seductive text messages. It's time for these young people to be exposed instead to role models who have the potential to ...
Views: 2783 - Captain Sullenberger: Heroes and Lessons Learned - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2009 from Phyllis GoldbergBravery and humility - often at the heart of fairy tales – are qualities that can inspire all of us to be the best that we can be. And, with the doom and gloom of the economic crisis, we were primed and about ready for a miracle. People want to feel hopeful again. Chesley B. "Sully" ...
Views: 1510 - How to Manage Depression Short of Having Octuplets - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2009 from Phyllis GoldbergNadya Suleman is a 33 year old unemployed single mother who recently gave birth to octuplets, conceived through in vitro fertilization. She grew up as an only child and had always dreamed of having a large family. Reporters, pundits and bloggers have called her irresponsible and selfish, as she ...
Views: 1208 - The Obama Family and Family Values - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2009 from Phyllis GoldbergIn a recent letter to his girls, President Barack Obama wrote: "I want you to grow up in a world with no limits on your dreams and no achievements beyond your reach....." Now that's a strong message from a father to his daughters. Some say that the Obamas are the kind of family they would like ...
Views: 2170 - 7 Ways to Delay Gratification in a Troubled Economy - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergIn years of plenty, American society operated largely on the pleasure principal – embracing the notion that ‘I want what I want when I want it.’ Accustomed to instant gratification and a sense of entitlement, people were emotionally conditioned to have it all. The average American carries nine ...
Views: 1333 - Celebrate the Holidays with the Gift of Time - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergThe meltdown in the economy and the crisis in confidence couldn't have come at a worse time. Have you been feeling stretched by the financial pressure? If you're facing tough buying decisions, the responsibilities of the holiday season may even be getting you down. These are challenging times. ...
Views: 1153 - Five Ways Sandwiched Boomers Can Think Positive in Tough Times - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergThese are unprecedented times. With the breakdown of traditional financial institutions, the wildly fluctuating stock market and the 700 million dollar government bailout, Americans are confused about how to respond. Some are in denial, not prepared to grasp the problems and potential ...
Views: 1132 - The Relationship Between Madonna’s Divorce And Sandwiched Boomers - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergAs a Sandwiched Boomer with changing family responsibilities, you have the toughest of balancing acts - attending to kids, parents and personal needs while still nurturing your marriage. You may envy celebrities like Madonna who seem to have it all - a personality that draws people in, the ...
Views: 1117 - How Boomers Can Sing Rock & Roll Instead Of The Blues - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergThe new Pew Research Center Social and Demographic Trends survey measured dissatisfaction and pessimism in close to 2500 participants. The data indicates that Baby Boomers worry more than any other generation. And a recent study from the University of Chicago suggests that the boomer generation ...
Views: 1046 - The Real Face of the Beijing Olympics - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergThe anticipation of the Beijing Olympics was palpable - and the spectacular opening ceremonies, at the impressive Bird's Nest, proved it was well worth the wait. Yet the ideals of the summer games are also well represented behind the scenes: 1. Lopez Lomong was elected by his teammates to be ...
Views: 1434 - 7 Stops On The Less Stress Express - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergWould you like to spend less time racking up emotional debt and more time receiving dividends from your 'feeling better' bank account? Research findings show that the complex demands of family and work can really get you down. When inundated with a myriad of responsibilities, daydreaming about ...
Views: 1175 - What Sandwiched Boomers Can Learn From Tim Russert - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergThere have been non-stop tributes to Tim Russert - from erudite political friends to strangers traveling long distances to pay their respects. He was the toughest interviewer in broadcast journalism and few had come even close to rattling him. He clearly understood how the media game is played. ...
Views: 1132 - Boomer Couples: 5 Tips For Fighting Fair - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergAll couples get angry and have arguments, so know that you're not alone. But remember, when resolving conflict, to keep your words sweet - you may have to eat them. When in conflict, you can minimize emotional overload by focusing only on the issue at hand. And try not to blame your partner or ...
Views: 1194 - Sandwiched Boomers: 6 Ways To Beat The Blues - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergYour thoughts are mental products although they don't necessarily reflect an absolute reality. However, for you, they do represent how you feel. Some people can't help but wear their hearts on their sleeves. Others are more able to manage their emotions and function as if everything is fine. ...
Views: 1077 - Boomer Women And Friendship: The Gift You Give Yourself - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergWe can say without a doubt that intimate friendships have always been important to women. But have you noticed that they've become even more so as you face the transitions of children growing up and parents growing older? Findings from a recent MacArthur Foundation Study indicate that the ...
Views: 1168 - Sandwiched Boomers: 7 Tips On Fighting Inertia - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergOn almost a daily basis, as Sandwiched Boomers, you are bombarded by a variety of tasks involving aging parents and growing children. In addition, you're balancing a myriad of responsibilities at home with those that confront you at work. And that's without mentioning your ongoing commitment to ...
Views: 1440 - Eliot Spitzer's Morality Lessons For Sandwiched Boomers - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergThe media spotlight the past few days has been on Eliot Spitzer, the Governor of New York, and his link to the Emperor's Club VIP prostitution ring. Whether his damaging behavior is related to an inflated sense of entitlement, the dark side of his self righteous attitude, a feeling that he's ...
Views: 1174 - The Politics Of Change And Sandwiched Boomers - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergThe soaring rhetoric from presidential candidates has been about the concept of change - and the electorate is energized by the buzzword. But is the idea of change really so new? In 1944, the Republican governor of New York, Thomas E. Dewey, ran for President against three-term incumbent ...
Views: 1049 - What the Sandwich Generation Can Bring to the Holiday Table - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergAre you wondering whether your longstanding family dynamics at the holiday dinners are going to scare off your daughter's new boyfriend? Do you want to take the family conversation up a notch or two this year and talk more than turkey? Are you tired of stuffing the bird and ready to pass the ...
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