Self Improvement Site
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
Articles from Tina Tessina | Selfgrowth.com
- Dr. Romance Video: Guidelines for Relating with Love - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2012 from Tina TessinaClick here to view the video. A good marriage can be the most precious thing in your life, and bring you lasting comfort and joy. There's nothing better than a long-lasting, solid, loving relationship you can count on. Dr. Romance shows you how to open up the love and joy in your ...
Views: 1727(3 votes) - How to Cope with the Loss of a Friend - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2014 from Tina TessinaI was recently sitting in my favorite coffee shop, and remembering my dear friend who used to meet me there and who died not long ago. As I get older, I’m experiencing more and more loss, and so are my friends of a similar age. Those of us who survive loss still have to “keep calm ...
Views: 1727 - 4 Tips for a Cheater: Get Your Marriage Back on Track - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2013 from Tina TessinaTo recover from infidelity and save your marriage: 1. Tell the Truth. Assuming your spouse found out, you didn't confess—this is the time to tell the whole truth. It's probably best done with a therapist present, to keep a lid on the emotional reactions. 2. Give your Spouse the ...
Views: 1723(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: Four Steps to Success - by Submitted on May 03, 2011 from Tina TessinaIn my private counseling practice, writes Dr. Romance, clients often tell me, “I want to be happy!” We then set about making it a reality. As a psychotherapist, I know that Your habits, your relationships, your environment, and especially what you think about them determine more about how ...
Views: 1722(1 vote) - Less Talk, More Action - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2013 from Tina TessinaThose of you who have read my articles know that I am always talking about the importance of good communication, urging better communication, and giving skills for being better understood. Communication is one of the most important aspects of relationships; positive and negative. However, talk ...
Views: 1719(6 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is This Unhealthy? What Should I Do? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Do I have an unhealthy celebrity obsession? I really need answers and help! I feel this is still unresolved? Does anyone else have an obsession with a particular celebrity to the degree that you wanna look, act, talk, dress and live like them. I do, I wanna look like ...
Views: 1717 - Dear Dr. Romance: Does Viagra give him Insomnia? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am 39 & my boyfriend is 51. He takes Viagra & Cialis (on an as needed basis). We have a terrific relationship. We seem to have no problem lying there & falling asleep for a short time after making love. I have a really comfortable bed, ...
Views: 1716(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Is your Partner too Selfish? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2013 from Tina TessinaRelationships: Tips to Recognize if your Partner is Emotionally Abusive Ever look around at who stays married, and who doesn't? Overweight people far outnumber the thin and beautiful in successful marriages. The svelte and attractive get far more dates, but don't seem as able to close the ...
Views: 1716(4 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can now free myself and enjoy helping people - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I came across your web site when I was desperately looking for motivation. I'm a salesman selling first class products but I couldn't get motivated and it's been a problem for months. It's been getting worse. I read "Motivation and How to ...
Views: 1711 - Dr. Romance: Ending your Marriage - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaRelationships: 3 Tips to Know when to Get Out of your Marriage and File For Divorce As a counselor, I’ve helped lots of couples solve difficult relationship problems, but it isn’t always possible. Here are three reasons to know it’s time to let it go: 1. Your partner keeps going out of ...
Views: 1709(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: he's a drug dealer and she says that's why she loves him. - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My wife and I have been married for 17 yrs and we have a 14 yr old daughter. My wife has stated to me that she is unhappily married and wants her own place. I recently found hotel receipts, 1 day vacation cruise receipt, and FaceBook ...
Views: 1706(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm having major anxiety about the guy I'm dating - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm having major anxiety about the guy I'm dating. I wanted to talk with him, but I lost my strength when I asked about his ex and he gave me an answer like, "There are things you need to know and things you don't need to know and when things don't affect ...
Views: 1705 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm Living with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am having issues with my boyfriend. I was searching something on WebMD and found an article that spoke of your book How to Be a Couple and Still be Free. I started doing some research on you and your other books (It Ends With You, How To Be A Couple and Still Be Free, ...
Views: 1705 - Dr. Romance on Bad Marital habits - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance sees many clients who are having marital problems because of the following bad habits. If you find yourself doing any of these things, consider changing your behavior or getting counseling. 1) You place social media above real communication; This can be a big problem, ...
Views: 1704 - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to hear my kids cry anymore - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I feel like I am going crazy I don't want to hear my kids cry anymore, I don't have enough money for anything, I don''t have anyone that I can trust to watch my kids, because they are going through some seperation anxiety because I am the one that takes care of them day in and ...
Views: 1702(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: she wanted to still be friends - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I knew a girl for a long time and had a huge crush on her. I'm in my twenties, and she is a year younger than me. I am a very shy person and would freeze up whenever I tried to tell her. We knew each other for more than a year and were good friends, so I told her, trying ...
Views: 1698(1 vote) - 7 Must Do's Before Moving In - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaAccording to results from a recent GfK Roper poll, more than 80 percent of divorced Americans still believe in marriage, but we all know more than half of marriages don’t make it, for various reasons. Cupid, the ancient Roman god of love, was blind. In mythology, he’s been represented as a ...
Views: 1697(2 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: Dating after Widowhood - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance discusses advice on dating after widowhood. To view the video, click here. Dr. Romance's 3 Tips for Finding New Love For a while after a relationship ends, you may not feel like considering a new relationship, which is probably good. Jumping right from ...
Views: 1697 - The Road Map: Why Writing Down Your Goals Works - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2014 from Tina TessinaWe see a lot of advice to write down your goals and dreams, but does it really help? Actually, it does. For one thing, it helps you get clear on exactly what you want, and makes the goals more imaginable. They seem more real when you have thought through them clearly and written them ...
Views: 1696 - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Make My Family Understand I Love Him? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Ok so I am 19 and am kinda falling for a guy who is 20 years old than me. I am not asking your opinion on if it's wrong and nor do I want to hear "that's disgusting" my mother and father were 23 years apart in age. I like older guys cause I can relate to them better than ...
Views: 1693(2 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: Resolving Couple Fights over Finances - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2013 from Tina TessinaClick Here for Video Dr. Romance on MONEY TALKS Money talks need to be a part of scheduling weekly meetings - not just for money, but also for catching up with one another. Bills, social planning, long-term goals and working on your relationship are just some of the issues you'll ...
Views: 1690(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want to find myself - by Submitted on May 23, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was married at the age of 21, was married for 7 years, separated from my spouse a little over a year ago, and I'm in the process of divorce. I dated various people shortly after separation, but I was lost, broke some hearts, and simply didn't know ...
Views: 1687(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: We Still Love Each Other, but I don't know - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: i need some relationship advise really bad bad. Can you help?? I really need help, See, I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years And he found out and forgave me! And he went out And slept with 3 girls that night is it possible for us to still work? We love each other but I ...
Views: 1687 - Dr. Romance: Married, Different Shifts - How to Stay In Touch When You Barely See Each Other - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2013 from Tina TessinaIn this tougher economy, couples are finding it necessary to take the jobs they can get, and that means more couples work different shifts. If one of you works a “graveyard shift” or rotating shift job that limits your time together; the difference in your shifts and commutes may mean you ...
Views: 1685 - Turn on Your Charm - by Submitted on May 16, 2014 from Tina TessinaEver wondered how con artists can get away with all they do? They know how to charm people, and they have mastered the art of looking as if they belong. Because they have no feelings of guilt about misrepresenting themselves, they can pull it off. But you don’t have to be dishonest and ...
Views: 1685 - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't get my ex out of my head and heart - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2013 from Tina Tessinap>Dear Dr. Romance: Several years ago I met this man. it was instant attraction for both of us. we fell instantly for each other but he had a girlfriend. I gave him the space he needed and we both agreed to just be friends. we tried it once when they broke up but it was difficult. ...
Views: 1683(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm married and I still can't forget about my first love - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I don't even know where to start… I just did the most stupid thing alive!! I send the man I can't forget a text message…and he did not reply. I don't think he wants to speak to me. He knows I'm married. I was 20 years old when I fell in love with him. I was ...
Views: 1683(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He isn't shy about holding hands with a black girl - by Submitted on May 26, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I started dating a man 2 years younger than me, who is from another country. I thought he was very sweet and gentlemanly and of course I'm really attracted to him, and he eventually asked me on a date. We've had several dates, and he's very considerate, very ...
Views: 1678 - Dear Dr. Romance: On my death bed, I will not be in the mood to explain - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your newsletter "How to Heal a Rift with an Adult Child" with joy, how you simplify things for us. I already tried by email, but it got more complicated. I received two emails, the second one, had a picture with the message ''see what you ...
Views: 1678 - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't know if this is retaliation - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read "Does First-Love ever die? How to deal with a flame that still flickers" While my situation doesn't parallel the situations you described in the article, it's very similar. About 8-9 mos ago, I ran into a highschool crush on a social ...
Views: 1677(2 votes) - Are You The One Who Wanted It To Work? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2013 from Tina Tessina3 Must Do's + 2 Don'ts That Can Help You Today Are you about to be dumped? Your mate/date is losing interest? The signs are: lack of attention in conversation and being together; irritability -- refusal to talk about it, no sex or less interest. Here's what to do if you ARE dumped. 1. DO ...
Views: 1676(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I guess we don't separate the "math" from the "emotion!" - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2014 from Tina TessinaTo watch video, click here Dear Dr. Romance: I saw your video about couples fighting over finances I am totally on board as I think what you share is phenomenal. The challenge is my approach I suppose as my wife Mel is almost NEVER on board. I guess we don't ...
Views: 1673 - Dear Dr. Romance: My Parents Are Racists - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years with a great person whom I've known for the 5 years I've been in this country. We studied together, were genuine friends before feelings started to develop, and we decided to be together. He and I are from a different ...
Views: 1672(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Can you make your wife fall in love again? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I would like to know if it's possible to make your wike fall in love with you again? She just recently announced to me that she wanted to go our seperate ways. I am devestaded we have 2 kids together and she told me that she just grew appart from me. I'm madly in love ...
Views: 1670(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Resolving Inner Anarchy - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Recent events have me thinking about political anarchy: riots, bombings, civil wars, threats, and other bad and dangerous behavior around the world. Politically, anarchy means obeying no laws. It’s frightening to watch a mob take over. Anarchy is the result of two things: ...
Views: 1670(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: How to Deal with Partying Roommates - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: [My roommates] are loud, they're drunk, they keep me up or wake me up at night. What can I do? Dr. Romance Responds: The best way to have a good roommate situation is to talk about your arrangements in advance, including writing them down so they're clear. It's important ...
Views: 1666(1 vote) - Caring For Parents = Divorce? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2013 from Tina Tessina7 Tips To Keep Your Marriage On Track When Helping Family Members If your parents are elderly and becoming infirm, or if there are others who require special care in your family, due to disability or illness the situation you will need to figure out how to maintain a balance between your ...
Views: 1663 - Looking For Love After Divorce? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDon't Repeat Past Mistakes. Follow These Three Tips Looking for love after divorce? Here are three tips to help as you begin dating after your divorce. 1. Be suspicious if it all seems “too good to be true” – it probably is. If your subconscious, neurotic needs are running the show, it’s ...
Views: 1663(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I find her volatile and aggressive - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I came across your name and contact details on a web it whilst trying to find info' to help my relationship. I wonder if you might be able to offer me any advice please ? My girlfriend always wants to take control and the way she speaks to me at times is though ...
Views: 1660 - Make New Friends, Keep Good Friends - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2014 from Tina TessinaResearch conducted by Dr. Dean Ornish and others shows that the happiest and healthiest people are those who are well-connected to friends and family. But, in our mobile society, keeping friends is not always possible. Long-term friendships are wonderful and valuable, but if you don’t make ...
Views: 1659 - Dr. Romance Video: On Spreading Kindness - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Tina TessinaIf video doesn't load, click here. Kindness is the lubrication for life, love and relationships. When you spread kindness, it comes back in many ways, and it’s the foundation of happiness. "Dr. Romance" shows how kindness works and why it’s important to learn to live kindly, even in today’s ...
Views: 1658(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I get over the nervousness of dating again? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one get over the nervousness of dating again when its been quite a few years since their last date? Dear Reader: If your last relationship lasted for a while, dating again can be a scary proposition. These guidelines can help: Dr. Romance's ...
Views: 1657 - Dr Romance Video: Should you stay in your marriage? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2013 from Tina TessinaClick here for video. Dr Romance: Should you stay in your marriage? Marriage can be frustrating and disappointing, especially if you don't have the skills to fix it. But giving in to the frustration and leaving may turn out to be the worst thing you ever did. Consider these ...
Views: 1656(2 votes) - Jealousy, Faithfulness, and Distance - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2013 from Tina TessinaSo many couples are now separated part- or full-time because of military deployment and/or work travel and schedules, I get a lot of questions about faithfulness. Your marriage vows may have said, “'til death do us part” but no one said anything about what happens when a military career or ...
Views: 1656(2 votes) - The Magic of Reassurance - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2013 from Tina TessinaThere are a few simple communication techniques that work like magic in relationships, whether with committed partners, friends, co-workers or relatives. One of the most effective is reassurance, which is simple to do, and calms both of you down, which allows your discussion move on without ...
Views: 1656(1 vote) - Your Bestest Friend – You - by Submitted on May 04, 2014 from Tina TessinaI have a friend, Maggie, who has been my friend since 1968, and she calls me her “bestest” friend as a way of appreciating our connection. It always makes me smile, and I feel the same about her. Often, my clients have trouble learning to appreciate and trust themselves, and I think ...
Views: 1656(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Throughout the years, there has been financial infidelity - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I have been married for over thirty years. Our children are grown. We own our home , but have a mortgage. Throughout the years, there has been financial infidelity: When we got married, my husband was evading bills from retail stores. I ...
Views: 1655 - Dear Dr. Romance: I still can't seem to get over it -- Is that normal? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years now. There is a seventeen year difference in age. I left for two and a half months to help my older sister during her second pregnancy because her husband was in Iraq. When I came back I found out ...
Views: 1652(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am worried about marrying him - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was reading your article "When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships" and need your advice. My boyfriend of 5 years is quite selfish and literally a narcissist. He never did anything as a gesture of love except for buying calling cards to call me from ...
Views: 1646(1 vote) - Don't Make The Same Mistake Twice! - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDating Again? Use These Five Tips On Every Date! You’re fresh out of a disaster, and you are terrified of the thought of dating again, but you’re going to try anyway. Good for you! Here are some guidelines to help you avoid repeating old mistakes: 1. Pay Attention! You Have Things to ...
Views: 1646(1 vote)