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- Dear Dr. Romance: my wife has control and anger problems - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your responses from divorce 360 web site and was really impressed with your thoughts on relationships! I've been married for 18 years with 3 children. I am a very active Dad (Basketball/baseball coach for all of them) but my marriage has been very unhealthy for most of ...
Views: 1020 - Dear Dr. Romance: On Dating at Work - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2012 from Tina TessinaClick here to view the video. Work can be the ideal environment for falling in love: you are in close proximity for a long period of time, you may have developed a good working partnership, and from there it is a short step to romance. However, workplace romance can present big problems. Dr. ...
Views: 1932 - Dear Dr. Romance: On my death bed, I will not be in the mood to explain - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your newsletter "How to Heal a Rift with an Adult Child" with joy, how you simplify things for us. I already tried by email, but it got more complicated. I received two emails, the second one, had a picture with the message ''see what you ...
Views: 1678 - Dear Dr. Romance: Our sex life has been very bad - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance My husband of almost 9 years just told me about 2 months ago that he is in love with someone else. About 5 years ago I caught him cheating on me with this girl and he told me that it was over and it was just for the sex. Then 2 years later I found out that he was ...
Views: 1434 - Dear Dr. Romance: Please help me before I totally screw up - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: For several years, I’d been a self proclaimed lesbian who was only attracted to women and only involved in intimate relationships with women (the idea of intimacy with a man, even when one hit on me in public, literally made me nauseous)The one exception was my childhood ...
Views: 1290 - Dear Dr. Romance: She is verbally abusive to me - by Submitted on May 29, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a retired police officer who found his wife sneaking around with another man 3 years ago. We have 3 kids. I cook and clean and up all night doing laundry 3 to 4 nights a week. I work two jobs to support my kids and family. I love my wife and forgave ...
Views: 1449 - Dear Dr. Romance: She runs my life like a prison - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in my early twenties. I got to this country a few years ago from the mideast. I met this lady that was in her thirties, we dated for a couple years then she offered to marry me to improve my immigrant status. I used to ...
Views: 1157 - Dear Dr. Romance: She Slapped My Face and Departed - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently moved here from the British Isles. I discovered your Dr. Romance blog and thought you might have some good insight on an experience I had involving an American woman's image of her body. I met a really attractive and intelligent woman at a party a few weeks ...
Views: 3111 - Dear Dr. Romance: She started pushing me away and becoming distant - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 almost 6 months now. We hit it off from the very beginning and fell in love a couple months into the relationship. Both of us are independent people and level headed, but there's a deep connection between the two ...
Views: 7628 - Dear Dr. Romance: she wanted to still be friends - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I knew a girl for a long time and had a huge crush on her. I'm in my twenties, and she is a year younger than me. I am a very shy person and would freeze up whenever I tried to tell her. We knew each other for more than a year and were good friends, so I told her, trying ...
Views: 678 - Dear Dr. Romance: Should a grad student in her 20s date a man who's 70? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: We are co-workers and I've know him for about two years. He's very nice, funny and in very good shape. We've built a pretty solid friendship. We hang out a couple times a month (when I'm home from school). But, lately he's been pushing for a ...
Views: 1404 - Dear Dr. Romance: Should a grad student in her 20s date a man who's 70? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: We are co-workers and I've know him for about two years. He's very nice, funny and in very good shape. We've built a pretty solid friendship. We hang out a couple times a month (when I'm home from school). But, lately he's been pushing for a ...
Views: 673 - Dear Dr. Romance: Should he rent a room in his ex's house? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, Should a man expect a woman to want to become involved with him when he is still best friends with is ex-lover--and he is a renter in her house? He claims it is all over between them, but I don't see how he or the ex-lover should expect a woman to feel comfortable fitting ...
Views: 801 - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I give up on his love? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: We'd been really close and intimate. I thought we were going to be in a special relationship soon because he told me we were having something special. No matter how tired he was, he'd had his dinner with me. He got paranoid everytime I threatened to stop talking to ...
Views: 910 - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I stay in this relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I had a really bad ending on my last relationship we were engaged. I moved into another relationship a month after he ended it. I was very lonely and my new relationship seemed perfect. Now I'm starting to get mixed emotions about my man. We have together now 1 ...
Views: 1419 - Dear Dr. Romance: The most traumatic experience of my entire life - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Recently I have been trying to cope with the most traumatic experience of my entire life. I am a grandmother and homemaker who has been deserted by my spouse and left both homeless and penniless. (I am staying at the home of a friend now.) After weeks of ...
Views: 1636 - Dear Dr. Romance: the worst nightmare of my life - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: It's been months since I wrote to you and received your very excellent advice. In the meantime I was able to get therapy, and . Since then I have slowly been recovering from the worst nightmare of my life. I want to thank you ...
Views: 1612 - Dear Dr. Romance: They say I am a diamond as a man - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thanks for sharing the great article "A Good Cry" !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have a question about it: "....If you're trying to help someone cope with a loss, don't try to make the bereaved person feel better. It just ...
Views: 1423 - Dear Dr. Romance: Though we slept together while his wife was away, I regretted it - by Submitted on May 08, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a woman in my mid-twenties from India and working in the middle east in a professional job. I had a brief arranged marriage and am now getting divorced. One of my business clients, who is an arab and over forty has been married for many years but claims his ...
Views: 1367 - Dear Dr. Romance: Throughout the years, there has been financial infidelity - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I have been married for over thirty years. Our children are grown. We own our home , but have a mortgage. Throughout the years, there has been financial infidelity: When we got married, my husband was evading bills from retail stores. I ...
Views: 1655 - Dear Dr. Romance: twice I have been let down by this man I so love - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My partner whom I have been in a relationship with for the past year has changed and let me down twice. We were first friends for several years & became a couple for the last year. We both fell in love instantly and desire to live together to build towards a good ...
Views: 1419 - Dear Dr. Romance: We have had constant fights over little things - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Last week my husband and I had an argument over something so small like not getting up to give our kid his medicine. Just because I didn't get up he started calling me names and he pushed me from the bed. Currently, we decided we needed time apart so we ...
Views: 1068 - Dear Dr. Romance: We just had a small fight, but she doesn't want to talk - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My best friend isn't talkin with me since 2 months now. I'm frustrated. We are best friends since 3 yrs now. In feb suddenly she stopped talking. We just had a small fight as in regular nothing serious. When i asked she said she doesnt want to talk anything for ...
Views: 2044 - Dear Dr. Romance: We Still Love Each Other, but I don't know - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: i need some relationship advise really bad bad. Can you help?? I really need help, See, I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years And he found out and forgave me! And he went out And slept with 3 girls that night is it possible for us to still work? We love each other but I ...
Views: 1687 - Dear Dr. Romance: What can I do to give her reason to believe in us again? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been reading some of the articles on your web site and thought I would take a chance here. My wife and I are in the process of getting a divorce. She is divorcing me because she claims she fell out of love with me and no longer wants to be tied down. We ...
Views: 1198 - Dear Dr. Romance: What do I need to do to become a therapist? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a 25 year old M.A. student from the Middle East. This year is my final year to have my M.A. degree as a Family specialist to become a family counselor. I saw many things you wrote online as a family and couple therapists and i Loved them all! I was wondering if you ...
Views: 1585 - Dear Dr. Romance: What I fear has happened the second time round - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I hope you can help me. My boyfriend passed away two years back... We were pretty much engaged, living together and everything. I thought i was over the whole thing, but now I know I'm not. A month back, or so.. i was seeing a man, and today i found out he had ...
Views: 1225 - Dear Dr. Romance: Which one should he choose? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : A man loves woman #1 but he was unhappy with the relationship for some reason. He was stressed financially. He was supporting his family. He has 2 children with woman #1 all he wants is the best for them and them to be happy and have a family. He has been going ...
Views: 527 - Dear Dr. Romance: Why am i intimidating? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Why am i intimidating? after i start talking to guys and i've hooked up with them, some have told me i am intimidating and they become shy in person. I'm not like scary or creepy or anything. (i'm tall skinny, blonde hair n blue eyes.) but is there anything i can do to fix ...
Views: 863 - Dear Dr. Romance: why are men in their mid 40s-50s attracted to 20ish girls? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was wondering if in any of your books or articles you discuss about why men in their mid 40s-50s might be attracted to 20ish girls. I kind of know the obvious reasons, but being more curious about what that might mean maturity wise etc. Dear Reader: From your ...
Views: 2488 - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Can't I Spark the Interest of a Woman? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your Dr Romance Blog and a small paragraph on "10 Reasons to Dump a Guy." I'm trying to find out why I can't find a woman, or better put: why I cant I spark the interest of a woman? I'm 40 years old I was never married nor do I ...
Views: 1424 - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Does He Want a Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I met this guy through a phone call, but he contacted or got my profile through a friend of mine and he is satisfied through that, and he is convinced that he could have a relationship with me, he needs my affection, fear of God, caring, true feeling of sharing, happiness, ...
Views: 1953 - Dear Dr. Romance: Will this guy turn out like my wicked stepfather? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a problem. My mother has introduced me to a male co-worker at her work. We have been friends for a month. My problem is that I am afraid that this relationship may become serious. The gentleman that she introduced me to is real nice, but my stepfather was the same way ...
Views: 516 - Dear Dr. Romance: Won't solving the problem for myself create resentment? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read your No Cooperation? Solve it Yourself! If I am to solve the problem for myself won't that just create resentment that the other party is unwilling to help? Dear Reader: Well, you could choose to be resentful, or you could focus on how great ...
Views: 1221 - Dear Dr. Romance: You're giving advice on what YOU consider normal - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:Thank you for your free articles, you have a lot of good stuff in there. A couple of the girls at work and I read your articles and get a good laugh. You're giving advice assuming that our lives are what YOU consider normal. You have a good job, make good money, live in a ...
Views: 1485 - Dear Dr.Romance: No One I Meet Online Wants To Have a Serious Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have not had a relationship in 8 years because of a bad relationship. I needed time to heal. My favorite discussion board has closed, and I miss my friends! Emailing is nice but I miss the discussions and topics of the day. I have gone back to school and I'm much ...
Views: 709 - Dear. Dr. Romance: Every Time We Talk, I'm in Tears and He's Mad - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for 17 years and thought we had a great marriage. 10 years ago I got hurt and have had 6 back surgeries. At one point I would double up on meds and drink to ignore life. During this time my husband was an angel; until he discovered I was ...
Views: 2385 - Debunking Myths about Dating - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2014 from Tina TessinaI'm updating my book The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. The new version will be called Dr. Romance's Guide to Dating in the Digital Age. The following article is excerpted from the new book. A lot of the problems that come up in dating again are generated by social expectations (how ...
Views: 1594 - Detox Your Life - by Submitted on May 31, 2014 from Tina TessinaMany of my clients come in with complaints about personal habits that feel toxic in their lives. Just as you can detox your body when you’re feeling sluggish, it’s also possible to detox your emotional life. Here are some of the most common ways your life can back up on you, and how ...
Views: 1335 - Do You Understand Emotional Intelligence? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2015 from Tina TessinaEver since Daniel Goleman wrote Emotional Intelligence, we have heard that phrase a lot, but perhaps you never heard it explained. Emotional intelligence is a valuable skill, because it means you know how to work with all kinds of people, understand them and get along with them. Once you ...
Views: 1194 - Dr. Romance asks: Are the Post-Holiday Blues getting you down? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2015 from Tina TessinaEveryone is relieved when the holidays are over, and sometimes disappointed. If you're worn out, it's worth your while to take the time to recharge a little, and pamper yourself. Dr. Romance gives 4 Tips for handling Post-holiday blues * If you are disappointed, and the ...
Views: 1174 - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: "The Nail in the Fence: Healing Wounds" - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2017 from Tina TessinaThis arrived in Dr. Romance 's e-mail: “There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over ...
Views: 1388 - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: After Infidelity: Stay or Go? - by Submitted on May 14, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: When you get the devastating news that your spouse has had an affair, how do you decide whether to stay or go? Because you feel betrayed, your first impulse is usually anger, and wanting to leave – fight or flight. But, after you calm down, you realize there’s a lot you’ll ...
Views: 1004 - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: The Magic of Reassurance - by Submitted on May 06, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: There are a few simple communication techniques that work like magic in relationships, whether with committed partners, friends, co-workers or relatives. One of the most effective is reassurance, which is simple to do , and calms both of you down, which allows your ...
Views: 790 - Dr. Romance has a Santa sighting - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2010 from Tina TessinaWe were having lunch with our step-granddaughter, Natalie, 2 1/2 and her grandmother last week at Heritage Family Pantry in Lakewood, when a rather rotund gentleman with a flowing white beard, sweatshirt and jeans walked by our window and came into the cafe. Natalie's grandmother said he was ...
Views: 871 - Dr. Romance New Book: How to be Happy Partners: Working it out Together - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance is delighted to announce the publication of her new book, with co-author Riley K. Smith: How to be Happy Partners: Working it out Together By Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. and Riley K Smith, MA How to Be ...
Views: 1568 - Dr. Romance on Anticipating the New Year - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance wishes you a Happy New Year! Every New Year feels like a new beginning. The sun, at its furthest point at Winter Solstice, has begun its annual swing closer to Earth, you change your calendar, and we all feel the renewal of the fresh, new year. With this sense of ...
Views: 1334 - Dr. Romance on Bad Marital habits - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance sees many clients who are having marital problems because of the following bad habits. If you find yourself doing any of these things, consider changing your behavior or getting counseling. 1) You place social media above real communication; This can be a big problem, ...
Views: 1704 - Dr. Romance on Bad Marital habits - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2021 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance sees many clients who are having marital problems because of the following bad habits. If you find yourself doing any of these things, consider changing your behavior or getting counseling. 1) You place social media above real communication; This can be a big problem, ...
Views: 554 - Dr. Romance on Coping with Critics - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: No one likes to be criticized, fairly or not. It’s always difficult to deal with, and it can hurt. Because I’m a writer of books and columns, and because I’ve lectured, appeared on radio and TV, I am sometimes recognized in public. I’m glad ...
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