Dear Dr. Romance:

I read your Dr Romance Blog and a small paragraph on "10 Reasons to Dump a Guy." I'm trying to find out why I can't find a woman, or better put: why I cant I spark the interest of a woman?  I'm 40 years old I was never married nor do I have kids. Its pretty dam aggravating.  I haven't even had date in sense I was 16, and she was cross eyed and chewed tobacco and was on some kind of antidepressant. What's worst I seem to attract those types of woman, or some woman that's twice my age which I had that happened to me several times. I know you said to be positive, but why am I having such terrible luck? I read all the ten reasons mentioned in that article and it seems to me that article was telling its female readers that (Mr Perfect from God) exist and that just not true. I'm a fat guy to, but sense this problem of mine existed before I ever got fat, How I look can't be the only reason. Tell me what you think please.

Dear Reader:

I can't judge your appearance, but one of the problems of online sites is that they rely heavily on photos.  If you're putting up a photo, is it a good one? I'm sure you can figure out how to get a woman interested in you.  "The Fine Art of "Squirrel Hunting"   and "Where is Love?"  will give you some clues about what works. "10 Reasons for Not Falling in Love" will help you explore reasons you may be sabotaging yourself.  It's important to get to know some women --- they're not going to flock to you just because you're there -- you need to learn to converse with them. You're attracting some women -- so something is working,  you just don't seem to like the types you're attracting. Are there women you know that you could have a frank conversation with? If so, ask them to give you their honest feedback, and don't get mad, but think about what they're telling you. It could be a grooming issue, or lack of ability to carry on a conversation, or coming on too strong, or being too shy. It's not usually weight -- there are plenty of nice women who could deal with heaviness. From your letter, I'm guessing you
might sound angry to women you meet, which is a turnoff.

The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again will teach you how to meet women in many different situations and develop connections.  

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Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.

Dr. Tessina, is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for LoveForever.com, a website designed to strengthen relationships and guide couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as “Oprah”, “Larry King Live” and ABC News.