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- Dr. Romance on Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2021 from Tina TessinaLast month, Dr. Romance received the following letter from a reader: “A topic I would like you to cover/explore is that curious phenomenon which permits otherwise independent women to be dominated...even abused...by males with whom they share some sort or relationship. Why is it that a ...
Views: 882 - Dear Dr. Romance: My ex is violent, abusive and obsessed with me - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your post on line about How Not to Repeat Past Relationship Mistakes, and it answered a lot of questions that I have about my ex husband. We were married for 10 years. He's violent, abusive and obsessed with me. I have dealt with him for the almost 3 years ...
Views: 881(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Still Miss Him Terribly - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband/best friend crossed-over a few years ago and I still miss him terribly. I think of him every day and his essence is always with me. I am still in love with him and cannot imagine having a relationship with another man. At this time, however, I have two ...
Views: 880(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why am i intimidating? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Why am i intimidating? after i start talking to guys and i've hooked up with them, some have told me i am intimidating and they become shy in person. I'm not like scary or creepy or anything. (i'm tall skinny, blonde hair n blue eyes.) but is there anything i can do to fix ...
Views: 880 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm afraid the age difference means our relationship won't work - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance; I read your article "Age Differences in Dating" I am dating a man who is 22 yrs, younger than myself. He appeared older and I appeared younger to him. Now I'm afraid the age difference means our relationship won't work. Would you be ...
Views: 879(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Dating a Younger Woman - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:I read your article on the Age Differences in Dating and found it to absolutely be brilliant. I'm wondering though since I'm dating a younger woman, what tips you have on dealing with that. Thanks. Any help you can provide would be greatly appreciated. Dr. Romance ...
Views: 876(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I really wish I could go back in time and fix this. - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I have read some of your articles and am very impressed. I am about to write about something that will probably be one of the most bizarre cases you have ever heard. About 12 years ago, I felt a strong attraction towards a girl who was in my high school. We ...
Views: 875(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: No Cooperation? Solve It Yourself! - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: What do you do after you have tried everything and your partner, friend, child or colleague still won't negotiate? In previous articles, like “Asking for What you Want,” “Couples Can Cooperate for Success” and “Gentle Persistence” we’ve explored a lot of communication ...
Views: 874(1 vote) - Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things that Can Ruin Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2021 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance is pleased to announce the publication of a new edition of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things that Can Ruin Your Relationship “With a Ph.D., fifteen books, and 40 years of counseling experience, under her belt, [Redbook Love Expert] Tina ...
Views: 874(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Gentle Persistence - by Submitted on May 28, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Have you noticed that nagging, whining, complaining, sternly directing, yelling, criticizing and freaking out don’t seem to get you what you want from a partner, family member, friend, colleague or child? In a previous article, “Asking for What You Want” I explained how ...
Views: 871(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother, and I feel I'm past my prime. - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a 23 year old single mother and believe me when I say my life has been crazy and very rough. I have no relationship with the father of my child. He's pretty much abandoned our four year old son after his 1st birthday. He doesn't help out, and blames everything ...
Views: 868(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is it more important to be balanced or compatible? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:What is more important in a relationship: being balanced or compatible? Dear Reader: Compatibility trumps balance, but balance may be an important component of compatibility. Compatibility means having similar core values, living together well and comfortably, and ...
Views: 866(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to resent my wife - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your article "Attitude Adjustment" and some of the things you said really resonated. In recent years, I have found myself developing more and more resentment toward my wife (who thinks very differently than I do). I want to dissolve ...
Views: 864(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I like the feeling of getting cut - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: is it normal to like the feeling of glass cutting your skin?I like the feeling of getting cut.......this isnt good is it?... Dear Reader: You're right --it's not good. What it means is that you are emotionally numb, and looking for sensation to feel alive. The ...
Views: 863(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Can you help me save my relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am having trouble in my relationship. My biggest problems are fibbing and patience. Fibbing is what my fiancee calls it, I call it extending the truth a little further than it really is. But, Patience is the thing I've really having trouble with and that I need your help ...
Views: 861 - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I get over the nervousness of dating again? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one get over the nervousness of dating again when its been quite a few years since their last date? Dear Reader: If your last relationship lasted for a while, dating again can be a scary proposition. These guidelines can help: Dr. Romance's Guidelines for ...
Views: 861(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: 5 tips to moving on emotionally after divorce - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2020 from Tina TessinaGoing through a divorce is devastating. You not only lose the marriage and break up your family; you also lose all the hopes and dreams you had for happiness here. Dr. Romance helps you to pick yourself up from the rubble and move on emotionally. Dr Romance's 5 tips to moving on ...
Views: 861(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is this unhealthy and what should I do about it? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Do I have an unhealthy celebrity obsession? I really need answers and help! I feel this is still unresolved? Does anyone else have an obsession with a particular celebrity to the degree that you wanna look, act, talk, dress and live like them. I do, I wanna look like ...
Views: 860(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: How to Propose Marriage - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaOK, guys, you're (gulp) ready to pop the big question. But you've seen those videos of lavishproposals that went wrong. How do you ask her in a way that's got an excellent chance of getting a happy "yes!" in response? Here's how to set ...
Views: 858(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to be the victim of any Jezebel - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a gentle young graduate of about 30 years. Throughout my staying on the campus, I decided not to enter into any real relationship that could eventually lead to marriage (I mean I had nothing in common with girls). Now, I need a life partner, wish must be a graduate like ...
Views: 857(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: How to be civil to an Ex - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The divorce was ugly, your ex was a jerk, but you still need to have contact because of your kids or finances. You hate to have to deal with the ex, but you have to. What can you do to make it better for yourself and your kids? Here are ways to ignore your ex's ...
Views: 854(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am just tired of our fights. - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I are always getting into arguments and fights. I am writing to you through someone else's email because if I tell my husband about contacting you we will probably get into a fight. He does not want to go to a therapist or get any type of counseling. Do you ...
Views: 852(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Your Inner Mentor Can Create New Meaning - by Submitted on May 21, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Sooner or later all of us question the meaning of life. The sooner we get to it, the better chance we have of finding a satisfactory answer. If you're at home alone, due to the pandemic, this is a great time to learn introspection, the awareness of self. As a ...
Views: 852(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress. I met my ex husband online, we fall in love and got married. He was a Middle Eastern guy. We had a daughter, the marriage didn't last long and we got a divorce. I was aggressive, I used to break things, yell at ...
Views: 850(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm sick of waiting and feeling I'm not good enough - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I am a young adult male who has always had some sort of complication in relationships. I need help on deciding what I should do from the point at where I’m at now. The situation is that I have been talking to this girl. She first started talking to me but I didn't really ...
Views: 848(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What type of dating safety precautions should one take? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one be sure that a person they met through a dating service is not disturbed in any way? What type of safety precautions can one take? Dear Reader: Love has a much better chance to be realized if you make some of your choices mentally, as well as by emotional ...
Views: 847(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Do I Stop My Husband's Ex-Wife from Smothering Their Son - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband has a son with his ex-wife. He is 12, but she still invites him to sleep in her bed. How old is too old to be sleeping with Mom? I know kids from divorced parents have different issues-- one being how a child should sleep, what ...
Views: 844(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: 16 things to consider before moving in together or making financial commitments: - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2020 from Tina TessinaMoving in together is a financial commitment, and so is marriage, so it’s important to consider the tough issues you’ll face as a cohabiting or married couple. Dr. Romance's Financial Questions to Ask Before Marriage or Moving in Together The family you grew up in shapes an ...
Views: 843(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I find a good man to love me for me? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mom, of a teenage son. I was never married to his dad (if you want to call him that). I have the hardest time finding a relationship cuz I am on SS income and I am judged by that. I am a loving person, the good guys want a woman that works or is very ...
Views: 842(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: Is it normal to argue with your spouse about your kids? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2021 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance: It is not necessary to argue about parenting your kids. Couples usually argue about how their parents raised them, and they want to do the same (or the opposite) of what their parents did. How Not to Pass Your Family Dysfunction on to your kids: 1. Don't do it the way ...
Views: 842(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm just wondering what I can do for him to like me - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr.Romance: i wear make up skinny jeans hollister shirts cardigans uggs and converse or just boots I love to act sing dance I'm a gr8t actress I'm always working out love to run I'm smart funny short brown hair sometimes jewlery now I have a crush on someone I always talk to him we ...
Views: 841(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I threw temper tantrums, broke things, yelled and demanded a divorce - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a middle eastern single mother in my late twenties. suffering from depression and stress. As a child, I always wanted extra care and attention from my parents. I was closer to my father than my mother. When I was molested by an uncle, I complained to my parents ...
Views: 840(1 vote) - Dr. Romance writes: Should you stay in your marriage? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Should you stay in your marriage? Marriage can be frustrating and disappointing, especially if you don't have the skills to fix it. But giving in to the frustration and leaving may turn out to be the worst thing you ever did. Consider these reasons to stay: 1. You ...
Views: 837(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Is there a right way to ask for more sex? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2021 from Tina TessinaIf you and your partner are not on the same page sexually, you need to learn how to talk with each other about sex: Dr. Romance's Guidelines for Creating a Sexual Agreement: * Set up a problem-solving session: * Having a time to talk about sex will help you create trust and sexual ...
Views: 837(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I loved her then and I love her today - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have read several of your comments in articles on the dadsdivorce.com website concerning when to introduce a new girlfriend to your children. I have a unique situation. I have been divorced for over a year two teenage boys. A few months ago a woman I met long ...
Views: 836(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have strong feelings for my plastic surgeon - by Submitted on May 09, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw you on the web and thought I would ask you about my attraction to my plastic surgeon. I am almost 50, and have been having procedures done for 6 months now. He is my age and married with 2 school-age children and a younger wife. I have very strong ...
Views: 834(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: It is your Christian duty to forgive - by Submitted on May 27, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for your article on "Apology and Forgiveness". The process of forgiving is powerful and extremely helpful. I have searched for such information many years and have truly believed that forgiveness is not something you just do. ...
Views: 833(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My sisters are now calling me 'The Black Widow' - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance:Thank you for your article "Age Differences in Dating". I am a fortysomething woman whose fiance' died in my arms of heart failure three years ago. He was in his late sixties. Then I dated an ex-pro athlete who had a stroke and lost the use of his left ...
Views: 832(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Strangely, I still love this man - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Last year, my boyfriend he broke up with me 3 days before my birthday. On the actual day, he didn't even so much as text or call to wish me a happy birthday - or even send me a card. I was devastated, esp because I really made a big deal of his birthday last ...
Views: 832(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: "How to Deal with a Partner's Annoying Quirks" - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2019 from Tina TessinaMany guys, especially younger ones, are well known for having 'courting behavior' and then relaxing into their old, slobby selves once you're committed. It's not that men are from Mars, women from Venus - it's more like all of us have grown up on different planets. Couples can get caught up in ...
Views: 832(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: When Therapy Isn’t Working - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes:As a therapist, I have worked with many clients who had been going to a previous therapist for years, and getting nowhere. Some therapists just listen and sympathize, but will not challenge a client to move through and past trauma and stuck places. If talking to friends and ...
Views: 832(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: She cannot forgive all the hurt I have caused her - by Submitted on May 24, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I came across your name in an article titled "How Not to Repeat Past Relationship Mistakes". My wife and I have been together since for over ten years, and have 3 children. and my wife has a daughter from a previous relationship. We have been seeing a marriage ...
Views: 831(1 vote) - What is the key to Hugh Jackman and Deborra-Lee Furness long- term marriage? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2019 from Tina TessinaAccording to twentytwowords.com, Hugh said “You love each other — and respect each other. You truly want to be together.” Respect and caring are so important in determining who will stay together. Respect and caring create what I call mutuality in the relationship. Mutuality means that love, ...
Views: 827(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Do I surprise her with a gift? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I know I feel strongly about a certain someone. Do I surprise her with a gift or e-mail her with my recent feelings through a tough time? Dear Reader: It sounds like you're way ahead of yourself and her. I think a gift would be completely out of line at this point. If she's ...
Views: 826(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like such a fool - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I read your article, Gentle Persistence, followed the instructions, and got the truth. You were right. You were sooooo right! I've finally come to the realization that the married man I've been having an affair with for almost two years now has been using me. ...
Views: 826(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like we have to sneak around and hide - by Submitted on May 13, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in a relationship with a man who twenty years younger. He is black, and I am white. We are very much in love. The problem is that my parents are very much against my dating a black man. They do not like the age difference either, but the being black is worse. This ...
Views: 823(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I got very drunk and kissed another man - by Submitted on May 15, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm nearly 30 and have been living with my boyfriend for several years. Last year we encountered a rough patch and I felt neglected and unloved and like all respect had gone from our relationship. Unfortunately during this time I got very drunk and kissed another man. I ...
Views: 822(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am worried about marrying him - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was reading your article "When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships" and need your advice. My boyfriend of 5 years is quite selfish and literally a narcissist. He never did anything as a gesture of love except for buying calling cards to call me from overseas. ...
Views: 821 - Dear Dr. Romance: You're giving advice on what YOU consider normal - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:Thank you for your free articles, you have a lot of good stuff in there. A couple of the girls at work and I read your articles and get a good laugh. You're giving advice assuming that our lives are what YOU consider normal. You have a good job, make good money, live in a ...
Views: 821(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: how do I forget that she is married and I am single? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a high school assistant and I fell in love with mother of one of my students. She doesn't know anything about and has some difficulty with her son's wife. I told her I want to help you to sort out your problem, but I have no idea how to help her and ...
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