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- Dear Dr. Romance: Which one should he choose? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : A man loves woman #1 but he was unhappy with the relationship for some reason. He was stressed financially. He was supporting his family. He has 2 children with woman #1 all he wants is the best for them and them to be happy and have a family. He has been going ...
Views: 1026(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: she refuses to remove the dead roses her ex gave her - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am confused, i am in love with this woman but she refuses to remove the dozen roses her ex gave her and are now dead. She says she doesn't want him she just wants me but it's hard to swallow when every time we are in the bedroom there are the dead roses from her ...
Views: 1025(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Careers in Psychology - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance is delighted to be interviewed on Careers In Psychology Dr. Tina Tessina PsychoTherapist / PhD LMFT The best therapists often refer to their career as a calling, a natural talent that was laying in wait until their clients, friends and families managed to bring it ...
Views: 1024(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My wife has no sexual fantasies - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married to my wife for 19 years and I have ask her to tell me her fantasies for along time, she says she has none, Is this possible? She always wants oral sex buts never ...
Views: 1022(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: my wife has control and anger problems - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your responses from divorce 360 web site and was really impressed with your thoughts on relationships! I've been married for 18 years with 3 children. I am a very active Dad (Basketball/baseball coach for all of them) but my marriage has been very unhealthy for most of ...
Views: 1020 - Dr. Romance on Dating: The Fine Art of "Squirrel Hunting" - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The most frequent problem I hear from single clients is that of how and where to search for a partner. Other clients are searching for friends. Many of them have been searching for a long time, without success; others have been afraid to go out and search at all. Most ...
Views: 1018(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: "that fantasy thing is right on the money for me" - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read "Surviving Loss & Thriving Again" and it helped me a lot. I find the older I get the more I can understand why I do what I do. But, of course, we hope things will be different (see 'Insanity' in the dictionary)! lol Anyway, that fantasy ...
Views: 1015(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I went through hell on earth with him until he quit drinking. - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I had two divorces, and both men turned out to be gay. By this time my self esteem was shattered, I felt there was something wrong with me. To make a long story short, I basically started dating and slept with men, just because they showed they desired me. ...
Views: 1014(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He's simply taking advantage of my affections for him - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I don't want to be here anymore. Be here on this earth that is, be here in this ole' body of mine. Perhaps you can help. I think I'm simply looking for some inspiration. Also, when I think about no longer being "alive"... I am comforted. This feeling of calm comes over ...
Views: 1013(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Your Job on Earth - by Submitted on May 11, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: It's easy to get discouraged when we become aware of the suffering throughout the world: natural disasters; racial prejudice; addiction and self-destruction; political oppression in its many forms (starvation, war, torture, misinformation, imprisonment, denial of ...
Views: 1008(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm lonely and hate it!! - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Almost all of my friends have boyfriends, (we're 22, turning 23) and i don't. i never have. i feel really alone during the wk bc all my friends are with their boyfriends. i basically work, take class, and that's it. i either need a boyfriend, or more friends, bc i'm lonely and ...
Views: 1007 - Dear Dr. Romance: He wants me to wait on him hand and foot. - by Submitted on May 29, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I heard you on the radio today and I think that this is my last hope. My dad told me to listen to you this afternoon, since I have been having problems with my marriage. I am in my late twenties and I have 3 children under four years old. My husband is two years ...
Views: 1006(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Many people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?” Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and work ...
Views: 1005(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't live like this any more - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've seen your website and I think you may be the exact person to be able to help me. My wife and I have been married for just about 10 yrs., we have 3 beautiful children, and we live fairly comfortably (money is not too big of an issue). I grew up in a fairly affluent ...
Views: 1004(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't have the strength to file for divorce - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I have been separated for almost 2 years now but don't have the strength to file for divorce. In part this is because I feel bad (I decided to separate because I was unhappy) and he has no immediate family in the US, but also because of our daughter ...
Views: 1004(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: After Infidelity: Stay or Go? - by Submitted on May 14, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: When you get the devastating news that your spouse has had an affair, how do you decide whether to stay or go? Because you feel betrayed, your first impulse is usually anger, and wanting to leave – fight or flight. But, after you calm down, you realize there’s a lot you’ll ...
Views: 1004 - Dr. Romance on Less Talk, More Action - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Those of you who have read my articles know that I am always talking about the importance of good communication, urging better communication, and giving skills for being better understood. Communication is one of the most important aspects of relationships; positive and ...
Views: 1003 - Dr. Romance: Peace Begins at Home - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: There is so much unrest in the world today: we are still in two wars, terrorism seems to be endemic worldwide, and domestic violence still dominates the news. We still need to heed the old bumper sticker: TEACH PEACE. The more current one on my car says “Peace is ...
Views: 1003 - Dr. Romance Video: Dr. Romance on How to Be a Loving Couple when You Have Kids - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2019 from Tina TessinaIf video doesn't load, click here Parenthood is an overwhelming job. Kids, especially babies, seem to need you there constantly. It's very easy for parents to get so into the role that they lose sight of the couple relationship they used to have. "Dr. Romance" shows ...
Views: 1002(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: why do I always have sex on the first date? - by Submitted on May 05, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm trying to find out why I always have sex on the first date. This is not to say that I have sex with every girl I date, or even that every girl I've gone out with has even been interested in me. It is simply to say that the overwhelming majority of my "situations" have been ...
Views: 1000(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: "My Girl's younger sister proposed to me" - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in college in another country. I have relation with my girl friend since last 3 and half years ago. We have done sexual job in 4 times. She is very honest and easy going girl. But she stopped her study. I have a good relationship with her still today, As ...
Views: 999 - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't like this game - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a problem with this girl I like who's four years younger, we've been friends for a year. She recently broke up with her boyfriend. One week after they broke up, I went out with her. We had some drinks, and started making out. I asked her how long she had ...
Views: 998(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: "Don't Panic" - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: There is always something in the news or on TV to scare us. Hysterical articles in the media sell papers, and attract eyeballs to websites, but are usually exaggerating the facts. If you listen without evaluating what you’re being told, it’s easy to become ...
Views: 997(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel my sister's life is in danger - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently stumbled upon your article "Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence." The information you provided resounded heartily with me. Last fall my brother in law discharged a weapon DIRECTLY NEXT to my sisters head. She was 8 months pregnant at the ...
Views: 994(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Handling The Green-eyed Monster - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance says: I can’t escape it, it’s in the news every day, and it fills my counseling office. Recently, the news told of a four-year-old who was shot to death by his own father, because the father was jealous of his divorced wife’s new relationship. "O, beware... of jealousy; ...
Views: 992(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Guidelines for Co-Parenting after divorce - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2020 from Tina TessinaNo matter how angry or hurt you may be after a divorce, if you have children, you’ll still share a lifetime with their other parent, your ex. Dr. Romance offers guidelines for moving past the anger and hurt, and finding a way to co-parent your children that is good for ...
Views: 989(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Detox Your Life - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Many of my clients come in with complaints about personal habits that feel toxic in their lives. Just as you can detox your body when you’re feeling sluggish, it’s also possible to detox your emotional life. Here are some of the most common ways your life can back up on ...
Views: 987 - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel almost embarrassed about being a virgin at my age - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I came across your blog while searching the internet for help for women In dysfunctional relationships. . Your language and spiritual, yet non judgmental approach really resonated with me. I am an ethnically mixed woman in my thirties. My parents ...
Views: 986(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I haven't told anyone i'm in this relationship out of fear - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I want to thank you for the article you wrote "Age Differences in Relationships" I've been dating a guy that is 6 years younger than me (he's 20 and i'm 26) for about 10 months now and I've felt so guilty that i'm "robbing the crib" or a "cougar"...I haven't told anyone ...
Views: 986(1 vote) - Dear Dr Romance: How do you dump someone without hurting them? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in a bit of a weird situation... I'm 16 and I am engaged to a guy I only met 2 months ago. I thought he was joking so I just went along with it, and it was only when he gave me a ring and started talking about venues and dates that I realized he was serious. I only ...
Views: 978(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: i am not sure whether i should let go - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance I've got some questions about my relationship, which is rather complicated. We both started dating 13 months ago, from the very beginning i sensed that my girl has a troubled mind, she did told me that she has gone through some horrible experiences such as rape. At that time I ...
Views: 976(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He is selfish and controlling - by Submitted on May 04, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I heard you on the radio and I thought of writing to you. This is about my daughter. She has been married for a couple of years. They are both professionals. Since you listen to many cases and have a vast experience on divorce cases, I would like to ask you based on the ...
Views: 975(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: If I am not strong, I cannot be an example for my children - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am mid-thirties mom with 3 children looking to divorce. I read your article "Family Violence Q & A" and I decided to write to you for help to stand on my feet again. I was a homemaker since I had my first child, but had lived very unfulfilled ...
Views: 974(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Turning Poison Into Medicine - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The revered Sufi poet, Rumi, wrote: “We turn poison into medicine and our sorrows into blessings” I’m thankful for many things. I live a wonderful life, surrounded by loving friends and my beloved husband, Richard; I have the privilege of doing work which I love, and I’m ...
Views: 973(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Now That We Are Together, Things Have Changed. - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been dating this girl for 3 months now but we were talking and going on occasional dates for a good 5 months before we finally made it offical. Now that we are together things have changed. She ignores me when we are around friends and family. When I ask her if she ...
Views: 965(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My baby momma is a lesbian and wants me to marry her. - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have had baby with this girl and we are planning to marry this year. Just last we were talking about things we do not like and the things that we like. I said she was unfaithful before we had the baby and she said that not true but that she was lesbian was sleeping ...
Views: 964 - Dr. Romance: Make your love life sparkle! - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's Top 5 ways to take your marriage from good to great. 1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other about your frustrations, about sex, about anger, about disappointment, about your appreciation of each other, about the meaning of life, about everything. No topic should be ...
Views: 964(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: Kindness and Happiness - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Recently, I went through very unpleasant and difficult dental work, and the outpouring of kindness I received -- from my husband, who held onto my ankle all through the two and a half hours (and had nightmares that night about it) to my dear friends, who offered me support ...
Views: 963 - Dear Dr. Romance: I do not want to be alone the rest of my life - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I like what I have seen on your tips for happiness. I am in my late 60s, a Christian and twice divorced. This past January, I met a wonderful Christian woman, also divorced after 20 years of marriage. She is a Labor and Delivery Nurse who has traveled the ...
Views: 962 - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't know if this is retaliation - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read "The One Who Got Away." While my situation doesn't parallel the situations you described in the article, it's very similar. About 8-9 mos ago, I ran into a high school crush on a social media site – I took the first leap, and shot her a "hey how you ...
Views: 959(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I had to pay for everything - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance: I recently met a divorced Russian woman with her teenage old son while on vacation, we spent a lot of time together. I enjoyed their company very much. We keep seeing each other and I recently spent 4 days at her lavish home in the United States. I was really suprised to see ...
Views: 957(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: she slapped my face and departed - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently moved here from the British Isles. I discovered your Dr. Romance blog and thought you might have some good insight on an experience I had involving an American woman's image of her body. I met a really attractive and intelligent woman at a ...
Views: 957(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why does he want a relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I met this guy through a phone call, but he contacted or got my profile through a friend of mine and he is satisfied through that, and he is convinced that he could have a relationship with me, he needs my affection, fear of God, caring, true feeling of sharing, happiness, ...
Views: 954(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: 4 Tips for handling Post-holiday blues - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr Romance writes: Everyone is relieved when the holidays are over, and sometimes disappointed. If you're worn out, it's worth your while to take the time to recharge a little, and pamper yourself. Here are some hints: * If you are disappointed, and the holidays let you down in some way, ...
Views: 954(1 vote) - Dr. Romance On Infidelity -- Stay or Go? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2019 from Tina TessinaDiscovering your partner has been unfaithful is a shock. Your first instinct may be to run, but if you have a shared history, children and finances, you may wonder – should you stay or go? Dr. Romance shows you how to decide. When you get the devastating news that your spouse has had an ...
Views: 952(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in my seventies and he's 25 years younger - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I'm in my seventies, and he is 25 years younger.we met on a senior dating site almost two years ago, and have been living together for over a year. He and my daughter went to the same high school, and he says he was attracted to me then and always compared his other ...
Views: 951(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Even after several years, I still feel stigmatized - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I enjoy reading your "Happiness Tips Newsletter" I actually want to ask you some questions. I know you are a psychotherapist, So i thought you might to explain the difference between the mental health unit of an hospital and a psych ward? Why would one feel ashamed to ...
Views: 950 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not needy but I am very picky - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have met a new guy and I am very interested. He's a veterinarian. I first talked to him on the phone about my ailing horse. The attraction was there even before I met him. When he came to check on my horse the spark was there and it seemed that it was the same on his ...
Views: 950(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: let the small things go and don't pick each other apart - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance: I just wanted to say thank you for the article you wrote "Relationships 101: Do Opposites Attract?" I just read it today and you have really made my day. I'm currently in an interracial relationship with a wonderful man from Africa. Not only are we from ...
Views: 950(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I make sure he's not looking for a visa green card marriage? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I met a cute guy that's a foreigner in the USA from Russia so....... How do I make sure he's not looking for a visa green card marriage? Dear Reader: Whether or not he wants a green card isn't the real question. The real question is, does he have good character, and does he ...
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