Dear Dr. RomanceI am in my forties, and hadn't had sex in years. I met someone and we CLICKED. We had sex on the 2nd date, I know you can't unring the bell, and I'm betting that was probably a mistake, but there is a serious physical attraction between this man and myself ... Views: 908
Dear Dr. Romance:
I dated a woman for about a year who was divorced with a small child. For most of our time together, I believed that I had found the best person ever. She was very honest, open minded, considerate, respectful, loving, and kind. Our relationship was excellent. ... Views: 907
Dear Dr. Romance:
I read "Surviving Loss & Thriving Again" and it helped me a lot. I find the older I get the more I can understand why I do what I do. But, of course, we hope things will be different (see 'Insanity' in the dictionary)! lol Anyway, that fantasy ... Views: 902
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Parenthood is an overwhelming job. Kids, especially babies, seem to need you there constantly. It's very easy for parents to get so into the role that they lose sight of the couple relationship they used to have. "Dr. Romance" shows ... Views: 902
Dr. Romance writes:
The most frequent problem I hear from single clients is that of how and where to search for a partner. Other clients are searching for friends. Many of them have been searching for a long time, without success; others have been afraid to go out and search at all. Most ... Views: 901
Dear Dr. Romance :
A man loves woman #1 but he was unhappy with the relationship for some reason. He was stressed financially. He was supporting his family. He has 2 children with woman #1 all he wants is the best for them and them to be happy and have a family. He has been going ... Views: 900
Dear Dr. Romance: I was very attracted to a lady and I did things for her with out asking for any thing in return. She was single and I fixed her jeep, I put down new linoleum in her kitchen for her, we did go out together for drinks, dinner, dancing, movies as ... Views: 897
Dear Dr. Romance:
I had two divorces, and both men turned out to be gay. By this time my self esteem was shattered, I felt there was something wrong with me. To make a long story short, I basically started dating and slept with men, just because they showed they desired me. ... Views: 896
Dear Dr. Romance:
I saw your responses from divorce 360 web site and was really impressed with your thoughts on relationships! I've been married for 18 years with 3 children. I am a very active Dad (Basketball/baseball coach for all of them) but my marriage has been very unhealthy for most of ... Views: 896
Dr. Romance writes:
We are such an inventive species. We are also a species with a sense of humor. I think the two are connected. It takes a sense of humor to be able to stumble around in an unfamiliar situation until you figure it out.
Current research has indicated that humor, ... Views: 896
Dear Dr. Romance:
I heard you on the radio and I thought of writing to you. This is about my daughter. She has been married for a couple of years. They are both professionals. Since you listen to many cases and have a vast experience on divorce cases, I would like to ask you based on the ... Views: 895
Dear Dr. Romance:
Almost all of my friends have boyfriends, (we're 22, turning 23) and i don't. i never have. i feel really alone during the wk bc all my friends are with their boyfriends. i basically work, take class, and that's it. i either need a boyfriend, or more friends, bc i'm lonely and ... Views: 891
Dear Dr. Romance:
I read your monthly "Happiness Tips" newsletter and thank you your advice. However, I noticed that you try to help resolve or forestall relationship problems. My problem is still meeting a man that I like. When I go out and see a guy I am attracted to, I do look towards that ... Views: 890
Dear Dr.Romance:
My friends were joking that I have never been single, and I argued that I have - but they said my definition of being single was wrong! true, I tend to have long term relationships, but before I met my last boyfriend I was "single" for nearly a year. I define this as ... Views: 887
Dr. Romance writes: You have probably entered relationships madly in love, convinced that your feelings for each other were so strong your dream would carry you through the tough times, but wound up feeling more like you were living in a nightmare than a dream, struggling with conflicting wants ... Views: 886
Dr. Romance writes:
Those of you who have read my articles know that I am always talking about the importance of good communication, urging better communication, and giving skills for being better understood. Communication is one of the most important aspects of relationships; positive and ... Views: 886
Dear Dr. Romance:
I recently stumbled upon your article "Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence." The information you provided resounded heartily with me. Last fall my brother in law discharged a weapon DIRECTLY NEXT to my sisters head. She was 8 months pregnant at the ... Views: 883
Dear Dr. Romance:
I want to thank you for the article you wrote "Age Differences in Relationships" I've been dating a guy that is 6 years younger than me (he's 20 and i'm 26) for about 10 months now and I've felt so guilty that i'm "robbing the crib" or a "cougar"...I haven't told anyone ... Views: 883
Dear Dr. Romance:
I saw your article "Guidelines for Improving the Odds to a New Relationship with your Ex" in divorce360.com
Can this really happen? My wife is divorcing me because she has fallen out of love with me. We aren't divorced yet but are in the process by going to a mediator. ... Views: 882
Dr. Romance writes:
It's easy to get discouraged when we become aware of the suffering throughout the world: natural disasters; racial prejudice; addiction and self-destruction; political oppression in its many forms (starvation, war, torture, misinformation, imprisonment, denial of ... Views: 881
Dear Dr. Romance:
I have a problem with this girl I like who's four years younger, we've been friends for a year. She recently broke up with her boyfriend. One week after they broke up, I went out with her. We had some drinks, and started making out. I asked her how long she had ... Views: 879
Grief is an essential life skill -- knowing how to survive grief means feeling safe to take another risk, and grieving actually expands one's capacity to love.Expression of grief, and respect for the dead, is very important to the grieving process. A symbol of grief for the loss of one ... Views: 878
Dr. Romance writes: Many people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?”
Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and work ... Views: 877
Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in college in another country. I have relation with my girl friend since last 3 and half years ago. We have done sexual job in 4 times. She is very honest and easy going girl. But she stopped her study. I have a good relationship with her still today, As ... Views: 876
Dear Dr. Romance:
I came across your blog while searching the internet for help for women In dysfunctional relationships. . Your language and spiritual, yet non judgmental approach really resonated with me.
I am an ethnically mixed woman in my thirties. My parents ... Views: 875
Dear Dr Romance
I've got some questions about my relationship, which is rather complicated. We both started dating 13 months ago, from the very beginning i sensed that my girl has a troubled mind, she did told me that she has gone through some horrible experiences such as rape. At that time I ... Views: 873
Dear Dr. Romance:
I've seen your website and I think you may be the exact person to be able to help me.
My wife and I have been married for just about 10 yrs., we have 3 beautiful children, and we live fairly comfortably (money is not too big of an issue). I grew up in a fairly affluent ... Views: 873
Dr. Romance writes:
When you get the devastating news that your spouse has had an affair, how do you decide whether to stay or go? Because you feel betrayed, your first impulse is usually anger, and wanting to leave – fight or flight. But, after you calm down, you realize there’s a lot you’ll ... Views: 872
Dear Dr. Romance:
I have had baby with this girl and we are planning to marry this year. Just last we were talking about things we do not like and the things that we like.
I said she was unfaithful before we had the baby and she said that not true but that she was lesbian was sleeping ... Views: 871
Dear Dr. Romance,
I have been separated for almost 2 years now but don't have the strength to file for divorce. In part this is because I feel bad (I decided to separate because I was unhappy) and he has no immediate family in the US, but also because of our daughter ... Views: 866
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The best therapists often refer to their career as a calling, a natural talent that was laying in wait until their clients, friends and families managed to bring it ... Views: 865
Dr. Romance writes: There is always something in the news or on TV to scare us. Hysterical articles in the media sell papers, and attract eyeballs to websites, but are usually exaggerating the facts. If you listen without evaluating what you’re being told, it’s easy to become ... Views: 865
Dear Dr. Romance:
After experiencing alot of physical and emotional abuse in my life, my last relationship was very damaging emotionally and physically. Now, many years later, I haven't had a serious relationship or even a date since. I've had two opportunities this year, but one wanted ... Views: 862
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm trying to find out why I always have sex on the first date. This is not to say that I have sex with every girl I date, or even that every girl I've gone out with has even been interested in me. It is simply to say that the overwhelming majority of my "situations" have been ... Views: 862
Dr. Romance says: I can’t escape it, it’s in the news every day, and it fills my counseling office. Recently, the news told of a four-year-old who was shot to death by his own father, because the father was jealous of his divorced wife’s new relationship. "O, beware... of jealousy; ... Views: 861
Dear Dr. Romance:
I heard you on the radio and I thought of writing to you. This is about my daughter. She has been married for a couple of years. They are both professionals. Since you listen to many cases and have a vast experience on divorce cases, I would like to ask you based on the ... Views: 856
Dear Dr. Romance:
I enjoy reading your "Happiness Tips Newsletter" I actually want to ask you some questions. I know you are a psychotherapist, So i thought you might to explain the difference between the mental health unit of an hospital and a psych ward? Why would one feel ashamed to ... Views: 854
Dr Romance writes:
Everyone is relieved when the holidays are over, and sometimes disappointed. If you're worn out, it's worth your while to take the time to recharge a little, and pamper yourself. Here are some hints:
* If you are disappointed, and the holidays let you down in some way, ... Views: 851
Dear Dr Romance:
I just wanted to say thank you for the article you wrote "Relationships 101: Do Opposites Attract?" I just read it today and you have really made my day. I'm currently in an interracial relationship with a wonderful man from Africa. Not only are we from ... Views: 848
Dr. Romance writes:
The revered Sufi poet, Rumi, wrote: “We turn poison into medicine and our sorrows into blessings” I’m thankful for many things. I live a wonderful life, surrounded by loving friends and my beloved husband, Richard; I have the privilege of doing work which I love, and I’m ... Views: 848
Dr. Romance's Top 5 ways to take your marriage from good to great.
1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other about your frustrations, about sex, about anger, about disappointment, about your appreciation of each other, about the meaning of life, about everything. No topic should be ... Views: 845
Dear Dr. Romance:
I read your monthly "Happiness Tips" newsletter and thank you your advice. However, I noticed that you try to help resolve or forestall relationship problems. My problem is still meeting a man that I like. When I go out and see a guy I am attracted to, I do look ... Views: 844
Dear Dr Romance:
I recently met a divorced Russian woman with her teenage old son while on vacation, we spent a lot of time together. I enjoyed their company very much. We keep seeing each other and I recently spent 4 days at her lavish home in the United States. I was really suprised to see ... Views: 842
Dr. Romance writes: Recently, I went through very unpleasant and difficult dental work, and the outpouring of kindness I received -- from my husband, who held onto my ankle all through the two and a half hours (and had nightmares that night about it) to my dear friends, who offered me support ... Views: 842
Dear Dr. Romance:
I recently read "The One Who Got Away." While my situation doesn't parallel the situations you described in the article, it's very similar.
About 8-9 mos ago, I ran into a high school crush on a social media site – I took the first leap, and shot her a "hey how you ... Views: 840
Dear Dr. Romance:
I have been dating this girl for 3 months now but we were talking and going on occasional dates for a good 5 months before we finally made it offical. Now that we are together things have changed. She ignores me when we are around friends and family. When I ask her if she ... Views: 840
Dear Dr. Romance:
I have met a new guy and I am very interested. He's a veterinarian. I first talked to him on the phone about my ailing horse. The attraction was there even before I met him. When he came to check on my horse the spark was there and it seemed that it was the same on his ... Views: 837
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am mid-thirties mom with 3 children looking to divorce. I read your article "Family Violence Q & A" and I decided to write to you for help to stand on my feet again. I was a homemaker since I had my first child, but had lived very unfulfilled ... Views: 836
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm in need of some serious advice, and I hope you can help. I've been in an extremely long distance relationship with someone for the past year and a half off and on. I live in the US, he lives in Central America. I am 6 years older than he is. I'm ... Views: 834
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am in my late sixties, and I . For over the past 14 months I was in a very loving, intimate relationship with a man in his mid thirties. It has ended because I could not let go of the age issue in my mind. We live in different states and we traveled back and forth to ... Views: 834