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- Dear D. Romance: I've learned my lesson - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaClick here for video Dear Dr. Romance: I saw your video "Don't Call Your Ex" Great video post, good advice. I couldn't agree with you more. It was a very timely message for me. Just recently, I decided to let go of my partner...for ...
Views: 1466 - Dear Dr Romance: he said I was expecting too much from this relationship - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr.Romance: I can't get over this man, he is 61, I'm in my mid thirties, he is Europe and I'm in North America, we started corresponding and we stopped I was suffering but time healed me after a year. This year we re started talking back, by facebook, and when ...
Views: 1818 - Dear Dr Romance: How Do You Dump Someone without Hurting Them? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in a bit of a weird situation... Im 16 and I am engaged to a guy I only met 2 months ago. I thought he was joking so I just went along with it, and it was only when he gave me a ring and started talking about venues and dates that I realised he was serious. I only ...
Views: 1737 - Dear Dr. Romance: "My Girl's younger sister proposed to me" - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in college in another country. I have relation with my girl friend since last 3 and half years ago. We have done sexual job in 4 times. She is very honest and easy going girl. But she stopped her study. I have a good relationship with her still today, As ...
Views: 999 - Dear Dr. Romance: Although I had to let go, I still care a lot. - by Submitted on May 30, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance Your articles are very helpful to me. Can you tell me what book of yours can help me heal from my last relatioship. The pain is still there and although I am sure I had to let go, I still care a lot. Dear Reader: I'm sorry you're hurting. I know how ...
Views: 2090 - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I Ready to Have a Girlfriend? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: i hope u are doing good. You know i really want to show appreciation for all the "Happiness Tips from Tina" newsletters. they are really helping me. really i should say. i print them and read them just to correct some little mistakes aside the Bible. ...
Views: 1374 - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I Single? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr.Romance: My friends were joking that I have never been single, and I argued that I have - but they said my definition of being single was wrong! true, I tend to have long term relationships, but before I met my last boyfriend I was "single" for nearly a year. I define this as not ...
Views: 1750 - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I Strange? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a university student majoring in English Translation in a Mid Eastern country. I find it difficult to attract other people's attention and it makes friendship nearly impossible. I love loneliness in a way that most of my friends don't ...
Views: 652 - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I wrong for asking for more time for us? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I've been in a relationship for 6 1/2 years with a man I can see myself marrying and growing old. The first 4 years we were on our long distance relationship because I was in college in another state. We then lived together for a year to realize we could ...
Views: 2056 - Dear Dr. Romance: Are there dating guidelines for single parents? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am an elementary school counselor. If you wouldn't mind, I would like to ask you a question that involves a child of a single parent. This 12 year old boy's father died less than a year ago. His mom has started dating again (I believe this to be too soon). I ...
Views: 1212 - Dear Dr. Romance: At first I was hurt, but now I'm irritated. - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I do not like my job, I have two more classes before I complete my masters in HR to move to a better position and recently passed the PHR certification. I was talking with my boyfriend about the environment at the company and how they are always threatening ...
Views: 1348 - Dear Dr. Romance: at funerals, how do you comfort families in morning? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What suggestions can you offer for guests at funerals in regards to comforting families in morning? Thanks! Dear Reader: Your presence at the memorial or funeral, honoring their loved one who passed, is the most comfort, so go if you can. When you are greeting the family ...
Views: 690 - Dear Dr. Romance: at funerals, how do you comfort families in mourning? - by Submitted on May 16, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What suggestions can you offer for guests at funerals in regards to comforting families in morning? Thanks! Dear Reader: Your presence at the memorial or funeral, honoring their loved one who passed, is the most comfort, so go if you can. When you are greeting ...
Views: 1514 - Dear Dr. Romance: Can short guys date? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : I'm a 5'4" 34yr old male. I've searched online dating sites for a few years now and read thousands of women's profiles. In doing so, I recognized a peculiar trend in women's descriptions of their ideal mate. It's exhilarating to read ...
Views: 530 - Dear Dr. Romance: Can you help me save my relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am having trouble in my relationship. My biggest problems are fibbing and patience. Fibbing is what my fiancee calls it, I call it extending the truth a little further than it really is. But, Patience is the thing I've really having trouble with and that I need your help ...
Views: 855 - Dear Dr. Romance: Do I Surprise Her with a Gift? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I know I feel strongly about a certain someone. Do I surprise her with a gift or e-mail her with my recent feelings through a tough time? Dear Reader: It sounds like you're way ahead of yourself and her. I think a gift would be completely out of line at this point. ...
Views: 1774 - Dear Dr. Romance: Do you feel that she is wanting out and doesn't want to tell me or hurt me? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a question for you. I normally don't ask questions like this. But I was looking at your Facebook page and reading some of your responses. Here goes. I have been with this female for almost 1 year. I really love her a lot. The last month things have changed. We ...
Views: 1196 - Dear Dr. Romance: Do you feel that she is wanting out and doesn't want to tell me or hurt me? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:I have a question for you. I normally don't ask questions like this. But I was looking at your Facebook page and reading some of your responses. Here goes. I have been with this female for almost 1 year. I really love her a lot. The last month things have changed. We don't ...
Views: 1165 - Dear Dr. Romance: Do you have information on developing autonomy? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I hope you don't mind me emailing you for advice. I am looking for some books/info on developing autonomy. I have had a lot of problems with this in my childhood, due to family environment/mother etc. I feel I have no sense of personal power and it is badly affecting my ...
Views: 473 - Dear Dr. Romance: Does Friends with Benefits Work? - by Submitted on May 19, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was browsing the net and came across one of your articles "From Friends to Lovers and Back" which I found very interesting as it relates to a situation I am facing currently. I am a young male and I cannot handle having sex for a while ...
Views: 608 - Dear Dr. Romance: Even after several years, I still feel stigmatized - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I enjoy reading your "Happiness Tips Newsletter" I actually want to ask you some questions. I know you are a psychotherapist, So i thought you might to explain the difference between the mental health unit of an hospital and a psych ward? Why would one feel ashamed to have ...
Views: 1203 - Dear Dr. Romance: Even after several years, I still feel stigmatized - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I enjoy reading your "Happiness Tips Newsletter" I actually want to ask you some questions. I know you are a psychotherapist, So i thought you might to explain the difference between the mental health unit of an hospital and a psych ward? Why would one feel ashamed to ...
Views: 950 - Dear Dr. Romance: Even though i dont want to talk to him, i miss him - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a college girl doing master degree. I am facing some problems pertaining to my love life and i wan help from u. My relation with my boyfriend is about a year old. After we got committed he is transferred to a different state. We are away from each other for the past ...
Views: 1281 - Dear Dr. Romance: Every time we talk, I'm in tears and he's mad. - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for nearly 20 years and thought we had a great marriage. 10 years ago I got hurt and have had 6 back surgeries. At one point I would double up on meds and drink to ignore life. During this time my husband was an angel; until he discovered I ...
Views: 615 - Dear Dr. Romance: he can't forgive me because I did it first. - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in high school and going through a rough patch in my relationship I have been with my boyfriendFor 17 months, sort of on an off, but 5 months ago we broke up and I slept With another male an yesterday he told me he had sex with another female after I told him ...
Views: 1469 - Dear Dr. Romance: He is selfish and controlling - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I heard you on the radio and I thought of writing to you. This is about my daughter. She has been married for a couple of years. They are both professionals. Since you listen to many cases and have a vast experience on divorce cases, I would like to ask you based on the ...
Views: 930 - Dear Dr. Romance: He isn't shy about holding hands with a black girl - by Submitted on May 26, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I started dating a man 2 years younger than me, who is from another country. I thought he was very sweet and gentlemanly and of course I'm really attracted to him, and he eventually asked me on a date. We've had several dates, and he's very considerate, very ...
Views: 1678 - Dear Dr. Romance: He said I was a false friend. - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I love reading your articles here and on Divine Caroline, and I always look forward to the new ones. I have a long time online friend. We have been friends for about three-four years, and I even felt I was in love with him for a while - and told him so. He said he ...
Views: 1477 - Dear Dr. Romance: He Spends More Time with His Friends Than Me - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My boyfriend spends more time with his friends than me by a long shot. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months now and he all of a sudden started spending way more time with them than me. I've tried talking to him about it and he said "i need two days per week ...
Views: 3337 - Dear Dr. Romance: He wants me to wait on him - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I heard you on the radio today and I think that this is my last hope. My dad told me to listen to you this afternoon, since I have been having problems with my marriage. I am in my late twenties and I have 3 children under four years old. My husband is two years older. We ...
Views: 6160 - Dear Dr. Romance: His Clutter Drives Me Crazy! - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I found you online when i googled "How to Live with a Slob". My husband and I are opposites in the area of how to keep a house -- i am very clean and he is, well, not at all. The clutter drives me crazy! It is just one more issue that impacts our relationship. ...
Views: 1443 - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I get over the nervousness of dating again? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one get over the nervousness of dating again when its been quite a few years since their last date? Dear Reader: If your last relationship lasted for a while, dating again can be a scary proposition. These guidelines can help: Dr. Romance's ...
Views: 1657 - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I let go of a toxic relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I wonder if you have an article that you've written that you can point me too on how to let go of a toxic relationship. I've been involved for 7 months with a man who is continually evasive, avoidant-attachment, manipulative and I need to figure out ...
Views: 1466 - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I move forward when I hit a setback? - by Submitted on May 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: When one hits a setback in life what are some healthy ways to keep moving forward? How can one build a healthy mental outlook when things go wrong? Dear Reader: The most important and uplifting thing you can do is look for what you can learn from the problem. ...
Views: 1763 - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I move forward when I hit a setback? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: When one hits a setback in life what are some healthy ways to keep moving forward? How can one build a healthy mental outlook when things go wrong? Dear Reader: The most important and uplifting thing you can do is look for what you can learn from the problem. ...
Views: 649 - Dear Dr. Romance: How can we find low cost counseling? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am in a same sex relationship of a year and 3 months. My girlfriend Phyllis and I have a constant communication problem that we want to address. Neither of us are currently working. I do get unemploymnet but my bills out weigh my income. Do you know how we can find low ...
Views: 1748 - Dear Dr. Romance: how do I forget that she is married and I am single? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a high school assistant and I fell in love with mother of one of my students. She doesn't know anything about and has some difficulty with her son's wife. I told her I want to help you to sort out your problem, but I have no idea how to help her and ...
Views: 1389 - Dear Dr. Romance: How Do I Stop My Husband's Ex-Wife from Smothering Their Son - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband has a son with his ex-wife. He is 12, but she still invites him to sleep in her bed. How old is too old to be sleeping with Mom? I know kids from divorced parents have different issues-- one being how a child should sleep, what ...
Views: 1399 - Dear Dr. Romance: How do we reorder our brain for positive motivation? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your article "Motivation And How to Create It (Good Boss/Bad Boss)" and found it very interesting. I understand your point about celebrating and appreciating yourself to motivate your inner potential. However I am confused about how to order my brain for ...
Views: 1313 - Dear Dr. Romance: How do you get unstuck and really talk? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was so interested in your article "Getting to Yes" about Attentive listening...what a powerful strategy and descriptive techniques. Here is a but.....I have????? Now, what if ....as you are listening you recognize the signals you ...
Views: 1082 - Dear Dr. Romance: How should I tell her I have feelings for her - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in my first year of high school, but I have no experience in relationships. I'm in contact with a friend who is a year younger than me, and I recently realized I have feelings for her. She's funny and playful, and I just can't help myself. What's your advice on how I ...
Views: 1258 - Dear Dr. Romance: I actually forwarded him the conversation by accident - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a woman in my thirties. It's been over a month since I last spoke with my ex-boyfriend of one year. He gave me the silent treatment because I hurt him. Or it might be his way of breaking up with me. I lied to my girlfriend about him and he found out. I actually ...
Views: 1350 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am a married man infatuated with a coworker half my age - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a happily married man in my mid-forties with 2 small kids who has become overwhelmingly infatuated with a 22 year old co-worker. She is friendly but certainly not coquettish and there is no suggestion she reciprocates. I have no intention of trying to pursue ...
Views: 7659 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am a Native American woman who has been abused and betrayed - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a native American woman who has been abused and betrayed by my husband. He was my coresearcher and advisor for several years. We were married according to tribal custom, which he later denied happened and disowned me in the courts where he was ...
Views: 1268 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am a substance abuse counselor - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I work at an Indian health clinic in northern California. I am a substance abuse counselor, or Certified Addiction Treatment Counselor . After scanning a book I found on a colleague's bookshelf called The Real Thirteenth Step I felt compelled to seek it out, and I ...
Views: 563 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am allowing my narcissistic ex to run circles around me - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am mindful that I am allowing my soon to be controlling, narcissist ex ( civil law attorney) to run circles around me, just as we did when we were married. After attending a divorce group session at my local church, they recommend that I set up some specific boundaries ...
Views: 1527 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am considering being a licensed psychotherapist - by Submitted on May 10, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am considering being a licensed psychotherapist. What was your education track if I may ask? Dear Reader: Of course you may ask. I was licensed in 1978, so things were quite different then. I took an independent study curriculum at Lindenwood Colleges, and I used ...
Views: 1438 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am considering being a licensed psychotherapist - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am considering being a licensed psychotherapist. What was your education track if I may ask? Dear Reader: Of course you may ask. I was licensed in 1978, so things were quite different then. I took an independent study curriculum to get my Masters in Counseling Psychology ...
Views: 461 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am in my forties, and hadn't had sex in years. - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. RomanceI am in my forties, and hadn't had sex in years. I met someone and we CLICKED. We had sex on the 2nd date, I know you can't unring the bell, and I'm betting that was probably a mistake, but there is a serious physical attraction between this man and myself ...
Views: 1595 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sexually as attracted to him as I'd like to be - by Submitted on May 07, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was hoping for a little advice on my relationship now that is truly wonderful and appears to be the best relationship of my life. Things are souring from my end, which I could not understand why, until this morning when it dawned on me. I have never been as happy as I am now ...
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