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- Dr. Romance on Staying Young - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance is aware that there is a heavy emphasis on youth in today's culture. Companies and individuals want to sell you potions, clothing, makeup, diets, exercise and attitudes and other magic to help you stay young. But, scientific research shows that these things ...
Views: 1237 - Attitude: From Negative to Gratitude - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaDespite the occasional temporary setback, my life is good, and I’m grateful. It wasn’t always that way, however. At 18, just after I left for college, I was essentially orphaned, and have had to go from no education or support to finding a purpose, supporting myself through a ...
Views: 1236 - Dear Dr. Romance: I cannot compete with a dead man - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a sixty something divorced man, I have not had a relationship for a long time. Last year, I met a wonderful lady from Colombia, who is a little bit younger, well educated and has a green card here. She has taken me out of my ...
Views: 1236 - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel quite abandoned by the both of them - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a number of people I would consider friends - two in particular, that have lately become acquaintances, rather than friends, per se. One, in particular, my ex-girlfriend (who was a good friend 12 years prior to romance), no longer contacts me: calls, notes in the mail, ...
Views: 1234 - Watch Out for Bad Relationship Habits - by Submitted on May 10, 2015 from Tina TessinaI often write about good relationship habits, so this month, I thought I’d explore some of the bad habits I see in my counseling practice that lead to strife and struggle in relationships. Hopefully, if you recognize any of these habits in your own relationship, you’ll work ...
Views: 1234 - Looking Backward, Looking Forward - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2015 from Tina TessinaHappy New Year! May you be filled with renewed energy for life, and the wisdom to put it to effective use. The month of January is named after the Roman god Janus—the god of beginnings and transitions. If you have seen depictions of him, you know he had two faces which ...
Views: 1232 - I am so sad because I don't see this marriage working - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband complains that life is a habitrail that he has to get on everyday and he is not being reloaded. I have tried everything I know how to make things better for him. I don't know how to reply anymore, and honestly I am not sure there is ...
Views: 1231(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't bear to think of life without her - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am unusually confident that you can help me.Well I hope you can anyway. I am 18 years old, I live in England, and I am a lesbian. A year ago,I escaped from a extremely abusive and violent relationship with a woman that I was with for two years.There was an extreme age ...
Views: 1229(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Through the eyes of love - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: When I was about 7, I had a doll, originally a "Betsy-Wetsy" doll, who had eyes that would close and who drank a bottle and wet her diaper (big toy technology when I got the doll, about 1949) I had had the doll a few years, left her out in the sun and rain, so her latex ...
Views: 1229(1 vote) - Why Couples Fall out of Love - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaIn my counseling office, I frequently deal with people who’ve heard the dread phrase, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” How can it happen that a couple who were once thrilled with each other can fall out of love? It seems like a mystery, but it’s not. And, ...
Views: 1229(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: "Love advice would be greatly appreciated!" - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I am in my late 20's and single. My problem is that I am in love with a man (who is the same age as I am) who reciprocates my feelings, but when we start getting close he backs completely off. When we run into one another while we are out with friends we talk and it is like we ...
Views: 1225(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What I fear has happened the second time round - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I hope you can help me. My boyfriend passed away two years back... We were pretty much engaged, living together and everything. I thought i was over the whole thing, but now I know I'm not. A month back, or so.. i was seeing a man, and today i found out he had ...
Views: 1225 - Dr. Romance: Peace Begins at Home - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: This is often called the Season of Peace, as in "Peace on Earth; Good Will to Men" Yet there is so much unrest in the world today: the world is still involved in wars, terrorism seems to be endemic worldwide, and domestic violence and hatred still dominate the news. ...
Views: 1225(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: my sisters are now calling me 'The Black Widow' - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance:Thank you for your article "Age Differences in Dating". I am a fortysomething woman whose fiance' died in my arms of heart failure three years ago. He was in his late sixties. Then I dated an ex-pro athlete who had a stroke and lost ...
Views: 1223(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I need your help fast! - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am so happy I could find someone like you to talk to. I am a regular guy and I use your articles for my relationship and it has really helped me. But I am sending you this mail because I need your assistance and i need it fast. The problem is I have a very hot temper and it ...
Views: 1222(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: This roller coaster of emotions has changed me. - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My husband has always suffered from abandonment issues. His mother & maternal grandmother were abusive and non-nurturing. They dangled the carrot of money as his reward but criticized him for everything about himself and cited the reason he helped them and ...
Views: 1222(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Won't solving the problem for myself create resentment? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read your No Cooperation? Solve it Yourself! If I am to solve the problem for myself won't that just create resentment that the other party is unwilling to help? Dear Reader: Well, you could choose to be resentful, or you could focus on how great ...
Views: 1221 - Dear Dr. Romance: he is even a few years younger than my daughter - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:I am going crazy. I am attracted to a young man who is young enough to be my son, he is even a few years younger than my daughter. He has shown interest in me as well and I think this is absurd and yet I can't help the way I feel. He talks to me and shows an interest when I ...
Views: 1220(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: Without Ego - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: When reading philosophical teachings and writings, I often wonder why the body and the ego are seen so negatively, as if they somehow are antithetical to spirituality. Although ego, body and mind are not all we are, each is part, an ...
Views: 1220(1 vote) - Lighten Up - Cures for Marital Boredom - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2014 from Tina TessinaThe old folk songs say it: Oh, love is handsome, love is fine Love is a jewel when it is new; ...
Views: 1218 - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1216(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1216(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1216(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1216(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1216(5 votes) - Mirrors and Teachers - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2014 from Tina TessinaThere are people I love who are easy to be around, and others I love who are more difficult for me. It’s not that they’re bad people, others get along with them fine, and, actually, so do I. It’s just that I have to work a little bit more to understand what they mean, to ...
Views: 1216 - New Book: Dr. Romance's Guide to Finding Love Today - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaAnnouncing: Dr. RomanceTM’s Guide to Finding Love Today Please order and review on Amazon.com "I learned so many skills from reading this Guide. When I went out this weekend I was SO aware of going out to have a good time instead of going out in hopes of ‘meeting someone.’ Hung out with ...
Views: 1215(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to keep making the same mistakes - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a 51 year old divorced Mom who recently began seeing someone. I like him and want to pursue this relationship, but I don't want to keep making the same mistakes! Some people say "be yourself" other say "don't do too much too soon, keep ...
Views: 1214 - Dear Dr. Romance: I grew up with a mother who said hateful things - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I really need your help. Could you please recommend one of your books for myself. I grew up in a home with a mother who was famous for saying hateful things that she didn't mean when she was mad. Lately I am doing the very same thing. I am newly married and I love my ...
Views: 1214(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Are there dating guidelines for single parents? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am an elementary school counselor. If you wouldn't mind, I would like to ask you a question that involves a child of a single parent. This 12 year old boy's father died less than a year ago. His mom has started dating again (I believe this to be too soon). I ...
Views: 1212 - Dear Dr. Romance: I believe he is a good man at heart - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband left to be with a much younger women. The problem became obvious in our marriage 3 years ago. I thought It would be something we would surpass. I was confused and did not act until one Friday night he did not come home to sleep. He came back that Saturday night and ...
Views: 1210(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have never put up with any crap until this one came along - by Submitted on May 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I met a girl about three years ago at work. We both saw a connection, but neither one of us followed up on it. We were both in relationships, she was married. Several months later she told me things weren't good at home and we had started talking. She and I became ...
Views: 1210(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm no closer to meeting the one for me than I was 15 years ago - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I just read your post to the 'nice guy' who asked for advice why he keeps getting passed over for the 'bad boy' types, and he was 100% right in saying women consistently say they're looking for a 'nice guy'. I'm in the same position. I'm 35 years old and I've had ...
Views: 1210 - Dear Dr. Romance: It's tough because we work together and I see her everyday - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I ran across the post from the man who was being "patient" with the wounded woman who kept projecting her thought and blowing him off. I thought it was so close to my situation, it blew me away. I am a drug and alcohol counselor and found myself attracted to a coworker. ...
Views: 1210(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Help me deal with this person without going insane - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I'm a victim of emotional & mental abuse by my hopefully soon-to-be-ex husband. The sad truth is that this person doesn't or refusing to recognize what he's doing and I'm very worry for my 8 years old son who I'm sharing 50% custody with the father. I ...
Views: 1207(2 votes) - Dr. Romance Wishes You a Happy Thanksgiving - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance on giving thanks: A lot of people aren’t very good at looking at the positive. I hear a lot of negativity, blaming and complaining daily in my counseling office, and I find the more negative people are, the worse their lives work. Talking about how bad it all is seems ...
Views: 1207(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Will this guy turn out like my wicked stepfather? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a problem. My mother has introduced me to a male co-worker at her work. We have been friends for a month. My problem is that I am afraid that this relationship may become serious. The gentleman that she introduced me to is real nice, but my stepfather was the same way ...
Views: 1205(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on The Meaning of Life - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: A seeker goes to Nepal and climbs into the Himalayas to find a teacher, a guru he’s heard about. After months of searching and struggle, he finds the famous man, and asks his burning question: "What is the meaning of life?" "The meaning of life is a ...
Views: 1205(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Even after several years, I still feel stigmatized - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I enjoy reading your "Happiness Tips Newsletter" I actually want to ask you some questions. I know you are a psychotherapist, So i thought you might to explain the difference between the mental health unit of an hospital and a psych ward? Why would one feel ashamed to have ...
Views: 1203 - Dear Dr. Romance: Can you refer me? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaI read your book How To Be a Couple and Still Be Free several months ago and re-read it recently. I would love to receive more one on one help. Do you have anyone you could refer me to? Thank you for your help! Dr. Romance ...
Views: 1198(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I need a man to stand behind me - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm an Iraqi woman in my forties. I am divorced & I have a daughter in her twenties. I read your article "Age Differences in Dating". 3 months ago I fell in love with a man a few years older than my daughter. At first I didn’t know ...
Views: 1198(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What can I do to give her reason to believe in us again? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been reading some of the articles on your web site and thought I would take a chance here. My wife and I are in the process of getting a divorce. She is divorcing me because she claims she fell out of love with me and no longer wants to be tied down. We ...
Views: 1198 - Dr. Romance on Handling The Green-eyed Monster - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance says: I can’t escape it, it’s in the news every day, and it fills my counseling office. Recently, the news told of a four-year-old who was shot to death by his own father, because the father was jealous of his divorced wife’s new relationship. "O, beware... of jealousy; ...
Views: 1198(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He´s a Jehovah Witness and am a Pentecostal - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I just saw write up on the issue of older woman and younger man. This have been a great issue for me, I make friends easily with people and at the end of the day they want a relationship and all to find that am older than them. Its been happening to me for ...
Views: 1197(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Do you feel that she is wanting out and doesn't want to tell me or hurt me? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a question for you. I normally don't ask questions like this. But I was looking at your Facebook page and reading some of your responses. Here goes. I have been with this female for almost 1 year. I really love her a lot. The last month things have changed. We ...
Views: 1196 - How to Have Happier Holidays! - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Tina TessinaRichard and I just indulged in our favorite December tradition—we watched our favorite Christmas movie (Scrooge! the musical starring Albert Finney) which kick-starts our holiday spirit every year. No matter what you observe: Ramadan, Kwaanza, Chanukah, Solstice or Christmas, ...
Views: 1196 - Dr. Romance: No Two Miracles Alike - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaJust as no two snowflakes are alike, no two miracles are, either. I believe in miracles, but the ones that are important to me don’t involve big, showy events. I like the everyday miracles: The food we eat becomes body cells, muscles, thoughts and even emotions. Our ...
Views: 1195(1 vote) - Do You Understand Emotional Intelligence? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2015 from Tina TessinaEver since Daniel Goleman wrote Emotional Intelligence, we have heard that phrase a lot, but perhaps you never heard it explained. Emotional intelligence is a valuable skill, because it means you know how to work with all kinds of people, understand them and get along with them. Once you ...
Views: 1194 - Dear Dr. Romance: It seems to be going in a circle. - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I would like your advice in my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been living together for a year and a half and known each other for 3 years. He calls me names and puts me down when i try to communicate with him and every time i want to break it off he tells me we should ...
Views: 1192 - Dear Dr. Romance: He hasn't told his Mum - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am having a little issue which I'd like some advice on; Firstly my partner had liked me for a few years before asking me out. We have been together for almost a year, yet he hasn't told his Mum that we are in a serious relationship. I have approached the subject but ...
Views: 1191(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't decide if she's as in to me as I am her - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My situation is different that some. See I have only been in 2 relationships, but they were really long term. My first I was 16 till I was 21. Second from 22 till 26 years old. Both of those relationships were an on off kind of relationship. So inbetween the ons and off, ...
Views: 1190(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have always been a good mom - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am writing to you for your professional opinion regarding my teenage son. His behavior overall is good but when he gets angry he throws things swears a lot and just a few minutes ago destroyed my vacuum cleaner in one blow to the floor. I am a single parent about 9 ...
Views: 1190(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have a crush on this person - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need some advice. I'm a university student and I'm finishing my last semester there and getting a degree in Speech/Communication Studies. I'm also a single mixed-raced person. I worked at a communication firm as an Intern Coordinator. What I have here is that I'm ...
Views: 1189 - Dear Dr. Romance: Should she tell the man she's in love with him? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a friend who's asking for an advice and accidentally, I saw in the internet your advice to some heart problems. So I told myself to try ask help from you also. This lady friend of mine is well, kind of in love with a man who's also in love with her. However, a ...
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