Dear Dr. Romance :
I'm a 5'4" 34yr old male. I've searched online dating sites for a few years now and read thousands of women's profiles. In doing so, I recognized a peculiar trend in women's descriptions of their ideal mate. It's exhilarating to read ... Views: 1115
Dear Dr. Romance:
I fell for a man that I work with. He was married, and I was in a lesbian relationship. When I first saw this man, who I will refer to as John, I thought he was the most handsome man I had ever met in my life. I had dated men off and on, but my two long-term relationships were ... Views: 1115
Dear Dr. Romance:My husband has always suffered from abandonment issues. His mother & maternal grandmother were abusive and non-nurturing. They dangled the carrot of money as his reward but criticized him for everything about himself and cited the reason he helped them and ... Views: 1115
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am a 51 year old divorced Mom who recently began seeing someone. I like him and want to pursue this relationship, but I don't want to keep making the same mistakes! Some people say "be yourself" other say "don't do too much too soon, keep ... Views: 1113
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am unusually confident that you can help me.Well I hope you can anyway. I am 18 years old, I live in England, and I am a lesbian. A year ago,I escaped from a extremely abusive and violent relationship with a woman that I was with for two years.There was an extreme age ... Views: 1109
Dear Dr Romance:
I just wanted to say thank you for the article you wrote "Dating 101: Do Opposites Attract?" I just read it today and you have really made my day. I'm currently in an interracial relationship with a wonderful man from Africa. Not only are we from different races but he is ... Views: 1109
Dr. Romance reflects:
One of the things I'm very grateful for in my life is the opportunities I have had to travel and see the world. When I see a world in turmoil: earthquakes, war, terrorism, famine, political upheaval, inflation, human rights violations: I think not of the ... Views: 1109
Dear Dr. Romance:
I recently read your No Cooperation? Solve it Yourself! If I am to solve the problem for myself won't that just create resentment that the other party is unwilling to help?
Dear Reader:
Well, you could choose to be resentful, or you could focus on how great ... Views: 1107
Dr. Romance writes:
Almost forty years of marriage counseling and thirty-four years of a second marriage have convinced me that fights are not necessary in a marriage. Married couples need to have discussions, they need to solve problems, and sometimes they need to ... Views: 1107
In my counseling office, I frequently deal with people who’ve heard the dread phrase, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” How can it happen that a couple who were once thrilled with each other can fall out of love? It seems like a mystery, but it’s not. And, ... Views: 1106
Dear Dr. Romance:
I ran across the post from the man who was being "patient" with the wounded woman who kept projecting her thought and blowing him off. I thought it was so close to my situation, it blew me away.
I am a drug and alcohol counselor and found myself attracted to a coworker. ... Views: 1104
Dear Dr Romance:Thank you for your article "Age Differences in Dating". I am a fortysomething woman whose fiance' died in my arms of heart failure three years ago. He was in his late sixties. Then I dated an ex-pro athlete who had a stroke and lost ... Views: 1104
Dear Dr. Romance:
I hope you can help me. My boyfriend passed away two years back... We were pretty much engaged, living together and everything. I thought i was over the whole thing, but now I know I'm not.
A month back, or so.. i was seeing a man, and today i found out he had ... Views: 1104
Dear Dr. Romance:
I have a problem. My mother has introduced me to a male co-worker at her work. We have been friends for a month. My problem is that I am afraid that this relationship may become serious. The gentleman that she introduced me to is real nice, but my stepfather was the same way ... Views: 1104
Dr. Romance writes:
Recently, as we were eating in an Italian restaurant, the music being played transported me back to holidays with my Italian/American family. Traditional, sentimental Italian songs were such a large part of our gatherings for the holidays. After a huge, slow, multi-course ... Views: 1104
Dr. Romance is aware that there is a heavy emphasis on youth in today's culture. Companies and individuals want to sell you potions, clothing, makeup, diets, exercise and attitudes and other magic to help you stay young. But, scientific research shows that these things ... Views: 1103
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am an elementary school counselor. If you wouldn't mind, I would like to ask you a question that involves a child of a single parent. This 12 year old boy's father died less than a year ago. His mom has started dating again (I believe this to be too soon). I ... Views: 1102
Dr. Romance writes:
The most frequent problem I hear from single clients is that of how and where to search for a partner. Other clients are searching for friends. Many of them have been searching for a long time, without success; others have been afraid to go out and search at all. Most of ... Views: 1099
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a sixty something divorced man, I have not had a relationship for a long time. Last year, I met a wonderful lady from Colombia, who is a little bit younger, well educated and has a green card here. She has taken me out of my ... Views: 1098
Dr. Romance writes:
When I was about 7, I had a doll, originally a "Betsy-Wetsy" doll, who had eyes that would close and who drank a bottle and wet her diaper (big toy technology when I got the doll, about 1949) I had had the doll a few years, left her out in the sun and rain, so her latex ... Views: 1098
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a 32 yr old man who is lost when it comes to relationships. I just had a chance with a nice woman which I subconsciously messed up. I didn't accept her for who she was . I was controlling, verbally abusive, and not compassionate with her. The ... Views: 1097
There are people I love who are easy to be around, and others I love who are more difficult for me. It’s not that they’re bad people, others get along with them fine, and, actually, so do I. It’s just that I have to work a little bit more to understand what they mean, to ... Views: 1096
Richard and I just indulged in our favorite December traditionwe watched our favorite Christmas movie (Scrooge! the musical starring Albert Finney) which kick-starts our holiday spirit every year.
No matter what you observe: Ramadan, Kwaanza, Chanukah, Solstice or Christmas, ... Views: 1094
Dear Dr. Romance: My husband complains that life is a habitrail that he has to get on everyday and he is not being reloaded. I have tried everything I know how to make things better for him. I don't know how to reply anymore, and honestly I am not sure there is ... Views: 1094
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am so happy I could find someone like you to talk to. I am a regular guy and I use your articles for my relationship and it has really helped me. But I am sending you this mail because I need your assistance and i need it fast.
The problem is I have a very hot temper and it ... Views: 1092
Dear Dr. Romance
I met a girl about three years ago at work. We both saw a connection, but neither one of us followed up on it. We were both in relationships, she was married. Several months later she told me things weren't good at home and we had started talking. She and I became ... Views: 1091
Dr. Romance writes:
No matter what you observe: Ramadan, Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, Solstice or Christmas, this is a celebratory time of year, and most of us are thinking of family, whether they’re near or far. My family is somehow both, since I lost all my aunts and uncles and my father before I was ... Views: 1091
Dear Dr. Romance:
I just read your post to the 'nice guy' who asked for advice why he keeps getting passed over for the 'bad boy' types, and he was 100% right in saying women consistently say they're looking for a 'nice guy'.
I'm in the same position. I'm 35 years old and I've had ... Views: 1088
Dear Dr. Romance:I am going crazy. I am attracted to a young man who is young enough to be my son, he is even a few years younger than my daughter. He has shown interest in me as well and I think this is absurd and yet I can't help the way I feel. He talks to me and shows an interest when I ... Views: 1086
Dear Dr. Romance,
I am in my late 20's and single. My problem is that I am in love with a man (who is the same age as I am) who reciprocates my feelings, but when we start getting close he backs completely off. When we run into one another while we are out with friends we talk and it is like we ... Views: 1085
Ever since Daniel Goleman wrote Emotional Intelligence, we have heard that phrase a lot, but perhaps you never heard it explained. Emotional intelligence is a valuable skill, because it means you know how to work with all kinds of people, understand them and get along with them. Once you ... Views: 1085
Dr. Romance writes: This is often called the Season of Peace, as in "Peace on Earth; Good Will to Men" Yet there is so much unrest in the world today: the world is still involved in wars, terrorism seems to be endemic worldwide, and domestic violence and hatred still dominate the news. ... Views: 1085
Dear Dr. Romance:
I heard you on "How to Stay Happily Married" podcast. I am getting married in June to someone I know for 3 years and lived with. He is now deployed in the Army and has been since last May. This is my 3rd marriage and I feel like my eyes are wide open now and I know ... Views: 1084
Dear Dr. Romance:
I just saw write up on the issue of older woman and younger man. This have been a great issue for me, I make friends easily with people and at the end of the day they want a relationship and all to find that am older than them. Its been happening to me for ... Views: 1080
Make new friends, keep the old. One is silver, the other is gold.——adage
Research conducted by Dr. Dean Ornish and others shows that the happiest and healthiest people are those who are well-connected to friends and family. But, in our mobile society, keeping friends is not always possible. ... Views: 1079
Dr. Romance writes:
When reading philosophical teachings and writings, I often wonder why the body and the ego are seen so negatively, as if they somehow are antithetical to spirituality. Although ego, body and mind are not all we are, each is part, an ... Views: 1078
Dear Dr. Romance:
I really need your help. Could you please recommend one of your books for myself. I grew up in a home with a mother who was famous for saying hateful things that she didn't mean when she was mad. Lately I am doing the very same thing. I am newly married and I love my ... Views: 1077
Dr. Romance writes:
A seeker goes to Nepal and climbs into the Himalayas to find a teacher, a guru he’s heard about. After months of searching and struggle, he finds the famous man, and asks his burning question: "What is the meaning of life?"
"The meaning of life is a ... Views: 1077
Dear Dr. Romance,
I'm a victim of emotional & mental abuse by my hopefully soon-to-be-ex husband. The sad truth is that this person doesn't or refusing to recognize what he's doing and I'm very worry for my 8 years old son who I'm sharing 50% custody with the father. I ... Views: 1075
Dear Dr. Romance:
I've been reading some of the articles on your web site and thought I would take a chance here. My wife and I are in the process of getting a divorce. She is divorcing me because she claims she fell out of love with me and no longer wants to be tied down. We ... Views: 1074
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"I learned so many skills from reading this Guide. When I went out this weekend I was SO aware of going out to have a good time instead of going out in hopes of ‘meeting someone.’ Hung out with ... Views: 1073
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm an Iraqi woman in my forties. I am divorced & I have a daughter in her twenties. I read your article "Age Differences in Dating". 3 months ago I fell in love with a man a few years older than my daughter. At first I didn’t know ... Views: 1071
Dear Dr. Romance:
I have a friend who's asking for an advice and accidentally, I saw in the internet your advice to some heart problems. So I told myself to try ask help from you also. This lady friend of mine is well, kind of in love with a man who's also in love with her. However, a ... Views: 1071
Dear Dr. Romance:My situation is different that some. See I have only been in 2 relationships, but they were really long term. My first I was 16 till I was 21. Second from 22 till 26 years old. Both of those relationships were an on off kind of relationship. So inbetween the ons and off, ... Views: 1070
Dr. Romance on giving thanks:
A lot of people aren’t very good at looking at the positive. I hear a lot of negativity, blaming and complaining daily in my counseling office, and I find the more negative people are, the worse their lives work. Talking about how bad it all is seems ... Views: 1070
I read your book How To Be a Couple and Still Be Free
several months ago and re-read it recently. I would love to receive more one on one help. Do you have anyone you could refer me to? Thank you for your help!
Dr. Romance ... Views: 1068
Many years ago, an Edwin Markham poem inspired me, and I’ve tried to live by it
Outwitted
by Edwin Markham
He drew a circle that shut me out
Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout.
But Love and I had the wit to win:
We drew a ... Views: 1064
Everyone is relieved when the holidays are over, and sometimes disappointed. If you're worn out, it's worth your while to take the time to recharge a little, and pamper yourself.
Dr. Romance gives 4 Tips for handling Post-holiday blues
* If you are disappointed, and the ... Views: 1064
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a sixty something divorced man, I have not had a relationship for a long time. Last year, I met a wonderful lady from Colombia, who is a little bit younger, well educated and has a green card here. She has taken me out of my lonelines and made me feel alive again. Her ... Views: 1063
Dear Dr. Romance,
I would like your advice in my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been living together for a year and a half and known each other for 3 years. He calls me names and puts me down when i try to communicate with him and every time i want to break it off he tells me we should ... Views: 1063