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- 5 Steps to Loving Your 60s (even if you're dreading them!) - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2010 from Bonnie McFarlandAre you bothered about turning 60? If you’re like many women “in the neighborhood” of 60, you are feeling apprehensive or concerned about being in your sixties. You might even be dreading it. Yep, some women just sail through 60 but many other aren’t feeling good about their future and ...
Views: 2024(3 votes) - Skip Those Resolutions, Create a Vision - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2009 from Bonnie McFarlandIt's January, a time that many people, hoping to improve their lives, make New Year's resolutions. Unfortunately experts say that in less than a month the majority of those resolutions will already be broken. So why not completely skip the resolutions and create a "lights on" vision for 2009 ...
Views: 614 - 5 Tips For Transitions - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2008 from Bonnie McFarland"Transitions are good and I hate them," I said only half-jokingly to a dear friend a few years ago. I love my life these days. I'm happily married, doing work that's meaningful to me, and living on the water. But I never would have gotten to this point without making my way through many ...
Views: 778 - How To Keep Doubt From Destroying Your Dreams - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2008 from Bonnie McFarland"I can't make any money doing this." "This is too good to be true." "Maybe I just don't have what it takes to do this." "I'm never going to figure this out." "I guess I'm not going to find something I'm passionate about." "I'm not sure any more that I really want to do this." I've heard ...
Views: 2113 - Critical Voice? How To Stop Your Monkey Mind - by Submitted on May 20, 2008 from Bonnie McFarland"That will never work." "What is wrong with you?" "Who do you think you are?" "That's a stupid idea." If a friend talked to you this way you probably wouldn't be friends for long. Surprisingly, though, most people do have someone who talks to them like this. It's their Monkey Mind! Monkey ...
Views: 1325 - Savoring Life's Sweetness - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2008 from Bonnie McFarlandWho isn't busy these days? Our lives are filled with responsibilities, obligations, family, work, friends, volunteer commitments, and "to do" lists. A few of us even try to squeeze in a teensy bit of time for ourselves. But what if, in the midst of all this busyness, you're missing your ...
Views: 1114 - Not Getting What You Want? Stop Trying - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2008 from Bonnie McFarlandFor more than a decade I yearned to know my calling. I tried many, many books, processes, and workshops to figure it out. All to no avail. Eventually, I began to despair of ever discovering a purpose for my life. Are you in a similar circumstance, wanting something in some area of your life ...
Views: 715 - Unsure Where You’re Going In Life? Step Through The Fog - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2008 from Bonnie McFarlandImagine for a moment that you are driving into a dense evening fog on a country road. Surrounded by white, you can barely see past the front of the car, much less the end of the road or your destination. With the headlights only able to provide visibility on the asphalt directly ahead, you ...
Views: 764 - What Do You Really Want? How To Find Your Answers To Life's Questions - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2008 from Bonnie McFarlandWhat should I do with the rest of my life? What am I passionate about? In which direction shall I head? How can I bring more meaning to my life? These are the kinds of big questions my clients seek answers to when they come to me. So far, not one client has been searching for answers to life's ...
Views: 678 - The Happiness Combination: 2 Keys To Open The Door - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2008 from Bonnie McFarlandIt is in our nature as humans to want to be happy. We strive for many things such as success, wealth, love, and peace because we believe they will make us happy. Sometimes though, no matter what we do or how hard we try, happiness eludes us. There is, however, a path to happiness for each of us ...
Views: 618 - Stuck? Wouldn't It Be Nice If . . . .? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2008 from Bonnie McFarlandWouldn't it be nice if there were an easy way to get unstuck, move out of a slump, feel better, and create what you want in life? There IS a light and playful process you can use to accomplish all this and more. It is so simple, though, that you might not think it could do much at all for you. ...
Views: 667 - Controlling What You Can Control - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2008 from Bonnie McFarlandOne morning a few months ago, my sister called to report, "The doctor says Mom has Alzheimer's." We'd suspected this and still, hearing that dreaded diagnosis, my heart broke. I didn't want it to be true. I wanted my mom back, to forever be as she'd always been. I didn't want to face what lay ...
Views: 685 - How To Choose From Life's Many Choices - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2008 from Bonnie McFarlandIs it possible to have too many choices? You might not think so yet the many choices we have today cause us to be overloaded, stressed, and less satisfied with our lives according to Barry Schwartz, author of "The Paradox of Choice." Here's a way to be clearer and more at ease with life's many ...
Views: 692 - Skip Resolutions - Create A Life Vision - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2008 from Bonnie McFarlandIt's January, a time that many people, hoping to improve their lives, make New Year's resolutions. Unfortunately experts say that in less than a month the majority of those resolutions will already be broken. So why not completely skip the resolutions and create a "lights on" vision for 2008 ...
Views: 661 - Increase Your Energy - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2007 from Bonnie McFarlandDo you have enough energy to create the life you want? Energy is the critical, invisible force that creates your vitality and aliveness. Without it, you drag through life, tired, stressed, and drained. With it, you feel good, enjoy yourself, and have the fuel to create what you want in life. ...
Views: 632 - Life Transitions: How To Navigate The "In Between" Times - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2007 from Bonnie McFarlandHave you ever been caught in the "in between" of a life transition? A time when instead of excitedly moving forward to your next chapter in life, you were stuck, confused, lost, and adrift? Frustrating as it can be, this is a natural and normal part of life transition and you can learn to ...
Views: 802 - How To Calm Yourself In Stressful Situations - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2007 from Bonnie McFarlandHas something stressful or upsetting happened to you recently? Maybe it was a fender bender car accident, or telling a friend she did something that hurt you, or being triggered by something your spouse said, or stepping on stage to make a presentation. Even when you are following what lights ...
Views: 1397 - To Do List Draining You? Brighten Up The Tasks You Dread - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2007 from Bonnie McFarland****************************** Vampire Tasks ****************************** Everyone has at least one of them. Something you hate to do. Something you dread. You procrastinate about it or do your best to avoid it. When you have to do it you get crabby about it. What is it for you? Your staff ...
Views: 822 - Are You Focusing On What You Really Want - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2007 from Bonnie McFarlandImagine you're happily driving down a country road on a clear, sunny day. Suddenly a semi truck crosses the center line and is heading right at you. Heart pounding and adrenaline rushing, you react. Will you avert disaster? Maybe. Maybe not. In this moment, your life depends on where you ...
Views: 913 - Stuck In Life? Stop Asking This Question - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2007 from Bonnie McFarland"Why?" seems like a good question, doesn't it? I certainly used to think so. I've asked "Why?" often in my life so I must have thought it was a good question. Or maybe I never had thought about it or noticed what happened when I asked that particular question. Over time, I've gone from the ...
Views: 725 - Healthy Selfishness: Put Yourself On Your To Do List - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2007 from Bonnie McFarland****************************** Are You Last on the List? ****************************** When was the last time taking care of yourself or doing something just for fun made it to the top of your to do list? If your answer is a "long time ago" or "can't remember" or even "never," you're not ...
Views: 1845 - Three Keys To Successful Change - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2007 from Bonnie McFarlandIs there a change you want to make in your life but you're stuck and stymied by it? Perhaps you're at that point in midlife where you long to find something entirely different to do with the rest of your life but you're not taking action to discover what that might be. Maybe you already know ...
Views: 929 - Finding Passion & Purpose - Uncover Your Hidden Clues - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2007 from Bonnie McFarlandDid you ever have a parent tell you, possibly after you had asked one too many questions, "Curiosity killed the cat!" Were you taught the story of Pandora who was given a box of gifts from the gods with instructions never to open the box? Unfortunately her curiosity got the better of her and ...
Views: 762 - Gratitude Improves Your Attitude - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2007 from Bonnie McFarlandIn the 1980s, I started a daily practice that I still maintain today. I was attending an intense personal growth workshop at Deerwood, Minnesota. One night, as I lay on the top bunk in a rustic dorm room filled with a dozen women, someone mentioned her practice of gratitude. Aware of my ...
Views: 964 - Discover What You Really Want - Ask This Question - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2007 from Bonnie McFarland**************************************** Kids Know What They Want **************************************** When I was a child, it was easy. I'd sit down with a cup of hot cocoa, some cookies, and a sheet of paper to write my letter to Santa. I'd tell him everything I wanted for Christmas. I had ...
Views: 684 - What Kind of Difference Are You Making? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2007 from Bonnie McFarlandDo you wake up every morning and say "I'm going to change the world today!"? Most of us would feel a bit grandiose saying that, yet many of us really DO want to change the world, we DO want to make a difference. And we often feel discouraged and disheartened at our inability to do that. But ...
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