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- How to Wiggle Out of the Mud! - 14 - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2016 from Ronald RossPut Your Best Face Forward By Dr. Ron Ross The first thing people notice about you is your face. Its expression tells others whether you are friend or foe, trustworthy or not, happy or sad, etc. It is the initial mode of nonverbal communication between you and other people. What does your ...
Views: 958 - Manners Matter 11 - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2016 from Ronald RossPunctuality By Ron Ross “We will wait a few minutes before we begin our meeting as some folks are still arriving.” I hate it when the guy in charge of the meeting says that. Rude late arrivers should not be awarded for being tardy while those on time get punished for their ...
Views: 958 - 2.8 Prepare for Action Set Real Priorities - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2015 from Ronald RossWould you like a simple definition of priorities? Here it is: The things that matter most. That may be far too simple a definition for a time management expert, but many books, blogs, songs and poems use that definition. “First Things First” is a book about separating the urgent from the ...
Views: 956 - 2.0 Five Questions to Ask Yourself When Thinking About Your Own Personal Success - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2015 from Ronald RossQuestion 1: Which is easier to accomplish: to make the world adjust to my particular needs or for me to adjust to the world as it is today? Singer/songwriter Lauryn Hill wrote, “That strong mother doesn’t tell her cub, Son, stay weak so the wolves can get you. She says, Toughen up, this is ...
Views: 953 - 3.0 Five Questions to Ask Yourself When Thinking About Your Own Personal Success Question 2: Who is best suited to fix my personal problems, politicians in Washington DC or me? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2015 from Ronald RossThere are an increasing number of people who think Washington DC has all the resources and all the wisdom necessary to solve their daily personal problems. This kind of thinking is music to the ears of professional politicians and government bureaucrats because they want as many people as ...
Views: 953 - How You Define Yourself Makes a Difference - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Ronald Ross“I’m just the bastard son of an L.A. whore.” The comment startled me as I conversed with a handsome gentleman before church began. His definition of himself makes clear my assertion that how you define yourself makes a difference. The easiest way adults define themselves is by their ...
Views: 949(1 vote) - How to Wiggle Out of the Mud! - 18 - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2016 from Ronald RossLearn the Laws of the Farmer By Dr. Ron Ross Over one hundred years ago my grandfather homesteaded on a quarter section of land near Deer Trail, Colorado. On his treeless high-prairie land about 50 miles east of Denver he built a sod hut for him and his horse, then planted a crop of pinto ...
Views: 948 - The Top Ten Excuses for NOT Talking to Your Mate Part Two - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2014 from Ronald RossLast week I began listing the Top Ten Most Common Excuses for NOT Talking to Your Mate. Here is a brief review of Excuses 10 – 6: Excuse # 10: The Smartphone. A text or phone call is allowed to interrupt anything. Excuse # 9: The job. For some, the dirty little secret is that one partner ...
Views: 947 - Success Equals ??? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Ronald RossWhat is your definition of success? There is nothing more personal than the definition of success. Quite honestly, the dictionary definition is inadequate, and though your mother’s opinion is probably still important, only you can define success for you! And that definition can change ...
Views: 946 - How a Baby Changes People - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2015 from Ronald RossThe troubled marriage, parents who want their child to change, good people who want a good job, middle-class families who have too much month left at the end of their money, and seniors who worry about outliving their welcome and/or suffering some debilitating disease—they all want something to ...
Views: 940 - How to Wiggle Out of the Mud! - 13 - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2016 from Ronald RossGet Better At Something By Dr. Ron Ross A man who worked in a rock quarry for several years one day decided to become an attorney. He talked to his wife and kids about his dream to get away from the dirty, backbreaking work in the quarry and get a college education. They got behind the ...
Views: 939 - 3.5: Protect your mind from Self-criticism - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2015 from Ronald RossSelf-talk, whether positive or negative, is your inner voice that says things you seldom speak out loud. How you talk to yourself determines the kind of person you are becoming. The good news and the bad news about self-talk is that what you say is what you get. Speak critically to yourself ...
Views: 938 - 5.0: Persevere Power - Introduction - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2015 from Ronald RossConfidence does not come easy. Fear does, disappointment does, anger does, failure does; each with little or no effort. But confidence, courage, composure, or conquest does not. If it did, more people would display it in their daily lives. Because it takes effort, because it takes risk, ...
Views: 938 - Anger Fever: How to Express Your Anger without Getting Arrested! - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2015 from Ronald RossBy Ron Ross My neighbor came charging across the street. His eyes bulged out and his fists were clenched as he came screaming into my yard, “Why the ____ did you call the cops on me?” “Because you cannot keep you dogs from barking and the entire neighborhood is fed up with it,” I said in ...
Views: 937 - Anger Fever: How to Express Your Anger without Getting Arrested! – Part 3 - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2015 from Ronald RossBy Ron Ross Anger can be expressed in six common ways. Five of them do not work well. Those five are BLOW OUT, STRIKE OUT, FAKE OUT, SNUFF OUT, and PULL OUT. Read about them at RonRossToday.com The best way to deal with anger is to learn how to effectively SPEAK OUT your anger without ...
Views: 937 - How to Wiggle Out of the Mud! - 8 - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2016 from Ronald RossEliminate the Twin Killers of Success Part 1 By Dr. Ron Ross Many worthy goals, promising relationships, and terrific business ideas are ruined by the Twin Killers of Success: speed and greed. This week the focus is on speed (impatience), next week on greed. A cute little girl in “Willy ...
Views: 933 - Prepare for Action - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2014 from Ronald RossNow that you have discovered and refined your purpose for living it is time to prepare for action. This is an important step. Do not deceive yourself that just because you have defined your purpose for living that everything from now on will be downhill. After exploring a variety of jobs and ...
Views: 933 - 5.4: Persevere Power – When Quitters Win - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2015 from Ronald RossQuitting seems to be a way of life for so many people. How many teenagers do you know who quit school a few months before graduation? Look up and down your street – how many divorced people live around you? Did you ever get so mad at your boss that you walked off the job? What’s with all the ...
Views: 931 - Anger Fever: How to Express Your Anger without Getting Arrested! – Part 5 - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2015 from Ronald RossFor weeks now I have been writing about anger and how it can destroy your relationships. To help you deal with your anger by speaking out using appropriate words and communication techniques I have developed an acrostic from the word S-P-E-A-K. The acrostic looks like this: S - Supervise ...
Views: 931 - How to Wiggle Out of the Mud! - 17 - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2016 from Ronald RossMake a List of Ten By Dr. Ron Ross Getting something done usually starts with a list. Wives make “honey-do-lists” for their husbands and “to-do” lists are a staple on every busy person’s desktop. Before you leave on your vacation you make a list of everything you want to take with ...
Views: 929 - 5.3: A Purposeful Life Creates Perseverance Power - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2015 from Ronald RossPeople without purpose are not living they are only existing. They are like a rudderless ship on a vast ocean driven hither and yon by the winds and tides. They wonder what the heck happened in the past while they wander aimlessly into the future. On the other hand, people with a purpose are ...
Views: 924 - Your True Source of Confidence - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2014 from Ronald RossWhat makes one person confident and another one insecure? Money makes some people think they are invincible. The idea is, the more money they have the more secure their life is. Remember Bernard Madoff? He “managed” millions of dollars for thousands of people who put their trust in ...
Views: 921 - Five Forces That Hinder or Enhance Togetherness: Part 5 - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2020 from Ronald Ross“Everyone in your family is a _________.” Cultural/social differences “Ron, would you like to knock me up?” a rather shy single female British schoolteacher asked me one afternoon. I was puzzled by her request but sat quietly for a few moments until I figured out what she meant, and it wasn’t ...
Views: 919 - How to Wiggle Out of the Mud! - 10 - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2016 from Ronald RossDon’t Trust Dumb Luck By Dr. Ron Ross Are you lucky or unlucky? Do good things usually happen to you or are you a constant victim of trials and tribulations? Do you get the good breaks or are you always broke? If you want to be lucky then you might be interested to know that both ...
Views: 919 - How to Wiggle Out of the Mud! - 2 - by Submitted on May 16, 2016 from Ronald RossLive With Purpose By Dr. Ron Ross Who am I and why am I here? Those are the two most important questions you can ask yourself. Question 1: Who am I? Some say you’re the product of a bit of slime that squirmed its way out of some prehistoric bog and evolved from this to that, then ...
Views: 919 - How a Baby Changes People – Part 2 - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2015 from Ronald RossThe innkeeper was changed from apathy to sympathy You probably know the story of the birth of Jesus, especially the part where “there was no place for them in the inn.” Though the Bible does not speak of an innkeeper, there must have been one. Someone had to tell Joseph the inn was full and ...
Views: 914 - Manners Matter 13 - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Ronald RossConversational Manners By Ron Ross Good conversations are fun to be a part of – unless someone is rude. Bad manners in conversation will stifle communication and short-circuit camaraderie. Here are a few simple guidelines for mutually satisfying conversations: Share the floor. To talk ...
Views: 913 - 4.3: Proceed Forward – Tests Your Theories - by Submitted on May 04, 2015 from Ronald RossThe first powered airplane took flight on December 17, 1903 on a wind-swept beach in North Carolina. Bicycle shop owner brothers Orville and Wilber Wright had long been testing theories of powered flight and on this day, their hard work paid off. Orville piloted the first flight that lasted ...
Views: 912 - 1.0: Five Questions to Ask Yourself When Thinking About Your Own Personal Success - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2015 from Ronald RossSuccess is not an accident. It takes planning, effort and discipline. One way for you to seek your own personal success is to ask the right questions. When you ask the right questions you have a better chance to get the right answers. The kinds of questions I refer to are not ...
Views: 911 - How to Wiggle Out of the Mud! - 19 - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2016 from Ronald RossThink About What You Think About By Dr. Ron Ross The trip to Santa Monica (California) Beach was supposed to be fun; but for this six-year-old boy from Colorado, it was not. I had never seen an ocean, did not know how to swim, and after I waded a few steps into the gentle waves discovered ...
Views: 910 - Self-confidence and self-esteem – the real way to get it - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2014 from Ronald Ross“9 Self-assuring Affirmations for When You Need a Little Boost,” boasted the headline. I clicked on it hoping I might learn something new. I didn’t. It was a series of nine little pictures with clever sayings on them. The “writer” provided no content beyond a short introductory paragraph that ...
Views: 910 - Texting Addiction – How bad is it? Part 1 - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2014 from Ronald RossShe: “You hang up first.” He: “No, you hang up first!” She: “No, YOU hang up first.” If you are over 50 years old you might remember that little game teenagers played back in the 50s, 60s and 70s. A boyfriend would call his girlfriend, then after 45 minutes or maybe a couple of hours on the ...
Views: 910 - Four Cheap and Futile Ways to Acquire Confidence - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2014 from Ronald RossGoogle “self-confidence” and you will get three-bazillion web pages that suggest a variety of ways for you to gain self-confidence. Some promise instant self-confidence if you do this or act like that. Common sense tells you nothing as powerful as quiet self-confidence comes ...
Views: 899 - I’d quit my church if... - by Submitted on May 05, 2014 from Ronald RossFlipping through the channels the other day I stopped briefly to watch a tattoo-covered “artist” rap about abusing women and hating cops while he grabbed his genitals to the fast beat of loud noise pretending to be music. His appearance was disgusting, the lyrics depraved, and his music was ...
Views: 899 - How to Wiggle Out of the Mud! - 23 - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2016 from Ronald RossTwenty Tips for Lively Living By Dr. Ron Ross Tips 1 – 10 were previously printed; here are tips 11 – 20. Be sure to read the special offer at the end of the column. 11. Persevere. Difficulties are sure to come, some failure is likely, but anything worth having is worth working for. As ...
Views: 898 - How to Wiggle Out of the Mud! - 21 - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from Ronald RossFail Forward By Dr. Ron Ross You may be stuck in the mud because of some kind of failure. Perhaps you bet the family farm on a business idea and lost. Or maybe you lost an important client or you were recently fired from a good job. Maybe you have failed in a relationship that has you ...
Views: 897 - Manners Matter 8 - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2016 from Ronald RossImpolite Children By Ron Ross The child sitting down the row from me in a dark movie theater needed to go to the bathroom. As he passed me in the darkness he stepped on my toe. He did the same thing on his way back. He never said, “Excuse me” or “I’m sorry!” He acted as if I was the ...
Views: 894 - Manners Matter 7 - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2016 from Ronald RossIngratitude By Ron Ross Kids are ungrateful because that is how they were raised. At birth, if they were hungry, all they had to do was scream until their mother fed them. The baby had no concept of what the mother just went through to bring the child to full term and give birth, then ...
Views: 893 - 4.1: Proceed Forward – Accept Responsibility - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2015 from Ronald RossThe airport departure lounge was crowded with family and friends bidding us farewell for a 3+ year commitment in Central Africa. I was only 25-years-old and had a wife and two children, had never travelled internationally and had little idea of what to expect upon our arrival in Africa. In ...
Views: 889 - The 5000+ Percent Advantage 4.0: Proceed Forward - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2015 from Ronald RossHow would you like to have a 5000+ percent advantage over everyone else? Steven Covey in his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People tells you how: “The difference between people who exercise initiative and those who don’t is literally the difference between night and day. I’m not ...
Views: 889 - Bad Belief Systems You Must Lose if You Want to WIN - Part 8 FUTILISM - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2020 from Ronald RossFutilism believes that life is meaningless, all religious beliefs are fantasies, and moral principles are pointless. Like nihilists, futilists allege that you have no particular purpose for living because life itself is empty, trivial, and spurious. It is literally a dead-end philosophy – life ...
Views: 886 - Acquire Confidence - Purpose for Living: Who are YOU? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2014 from Ronald RossWho am I, and, why am I here? Those are the two most important questions you can ask yourself. Let’s answer question 1, “Who am I?” Some say you’re the product of a bit of slime that squirmed its way out of some prehistoric bog and evolved from this to that, then to something else until ...
Views: 884 - Five Realities of Loneliness And Five Actions You Can Take to Overcome It - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2014 from Ronald RossBarbra Streisand sang in her portrayal of Fanny Bryce in Funny Girl? “People who like people are the luckiest people in the world.” Notice she did not sing, “People who are liked by other people are the luckiest people in the world.” Yet that is what many lonely people think. Barbra’s lesson is: ...
Views: 883 - How to Wiggle Out of the Mud! - 4 - by Submitted on May 30, 2016 from Ronald RossBegin Now By Ron Ross The easiest thing you can do if you’re stuck in the mud is to PROCRASTINATE! Do nothing. Just sit there and wallow in the sticky, putrid, dreary muck you have been comfortable in for years. After I earned my 4-year bachelor’s degree I wanted to get a master’s ...
Views: 882 - Where do You Find the God Who Created You? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2014 from Ronald RossTo answer the question, “Who am I” requires you ask, “Where did I come from?” Many try to answer that question with a genealogical search. That only answers part of the question. A genealogical search may teach you about your ancestors but it does not tell you anything about your origin. ...
Views: 875 - How a Baby Changes People – Part 3 - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2016 from Ronald RossThe wise men were changed from wanderers to worshippers. For the record, the wise men did not come to the manger, as is usually depicted in Christmas pageants, but the Bible does say that some time after the birth, they came to the home of Jesus. Their visit is a part of the birth of Jesus, ...
Views: 874 - No One Experiences Things Like You Do! - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2013 from Ronald Ross“My gosh you guys are twins!” declared a young lady who entered a retail store as my brother and I walked out. To be honest, I had never thought my brother was that good looking, but who was I to argue with the absolutely unsolicited and unbiased opinion of a rather lovely young ...
Views: 874 - Part 2.1: Pray: Seek wisdom from the source of all wisdom - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2014 from Ronald RossYou pray, not because you are a wimpy, helpless, crybaby who is so insecure you think you must depend on some invisible power in the sky to get you through the day. No, you pray because you have, or at least you desire, a personal relationship with God. You believe God lives and he is interested ...
Views: 874 - How to Enter the Friendship Zone and Have All the Friends You Want and Need - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2014 from Ronald RossLoneliness ends when friendship begins, right? So, how do you go from all alone to all the friends you want and need? The solution, though not quick and easy, begins with you, within your own heart and mind. Here are five steps you must take to enter the friendship zone and create and maintain ...
Views: 873 - 5.7: One Easy Thing You Can Do to Help You Persevere! - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2015 from Ronald RossDo you have someone around you who whines about the sun when it’s hot and then when it is winter he/she complains about the cold? Do you have a friend or relative who dumps their problems on you but they never attempt to change the way they think, speak or act? Some people feel so bad about ...
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