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- Your Alternative Career Search: Relax, Heal, and Play - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2010 from Tama KievesA “practical” career search won’t lead to an inspired outcome. I want you to have an inspired outcome. That’s because you have a calling inside you as bright as ten thousand shooting stars. You are not empty or misaligned or born in the wrong time. It’s not like the world doesn’t need exactly ...
Views: 894(3 votes) - Your Divine Assignment: Doing the Work You Love - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2009 from Tama Kieves(this piece originally appeared in the Omega Institute's online publication) When I had my career melt-down and fled the life of being an elite-law-firm-corporate-lawyer, (an honors graduate of Harvard Law School) I thought I was changing careers. I had no idea I was changing my definition of ...
Views: 2167(4 votes) - Life Can Be Fantastic: Your Joy is Your Power - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2009 from Tama KievesI am committed to allowing myself to receive more freaking goodness than I can imagine. To start with, I am going to know that, independent of anyone else's predictions or convictions, my life can be fantastic. I am going to stop calling negativity and limitation "realism." I'm going to just ...
Views: 874(4 votes) - Floundering Towards Grace: Making Big Moves with Small Steps - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2009 from Tama KievesI think one of the things that has made me successful in life is I’m willing to do things that are not flattering. I have been willing to not have it “all together,” and to still believe I stood on a path that promised more security than any other road in the world. I left a fancy legal career ...
Views: 1030(1 vote) - Perfect Timing: All the Way to Heaven is Heaven - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2009 from Tama KievesRecently a client of mine was sick of "having faith" while it seemed she slogged towards her dream in thick molasses. "I just want to get there now," she screeched, scoffing at all her previous progress. I felt sad. This wasn’t the combustible kind of frustration that would help her take ...
Views: 808(1 vote) - Diary of a Creative Mind - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2009 from Tama KievesWeek One: Get a creative idea and the slightest bit of encouragement and feel on top of the world, burning, singing, dancing, and feeling as though it all makes sense now and everything will come together. You are magnificent. You will be rich. Life is so beautiful. You will never be stopped. ...
Views: 880(1 vote) - Go Green: Turning Your Jealousy into Strength - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Tama KievesThe other day I read about an acquaintance, another author, I know who was featured in The New York Times. As I came upon the story, try as I might to fill my mind with the bird songs and daisies of good will, I felt sandpaper scrape my soul. Immediately, her shiny success became my ...
Views: 1360 - Stop Comparing Yourself: Dive into Your Own Sweet Life! - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Tama KievesSome years ago, I sat at this wedding and met a younger woman who had gone to two Ivy League schools and had a masters and a doctorate and had run marathons and traveled in countries like Cambodia and Vietnam. Not only that, but she was strikingly pretty, could belt out Hip Hop at the karaoke ...
Views: 894 - Allowing Life to Change You: Choosing Trust instead of Control - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Tama KievesI saw a coaching client recently who wanted to get right down to business and plan out her new, bold life. She wasn’t sure what that life was, but she wanted to map it out, pin it down, and make it happen. She looked at me with exhausted eyes and silently begged me for light. I wanted to tell ...
Views: 1407 - Your Secret Self: Awakening the Powers of the Inspired Self - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2009 from Tama KievesYou have no idea how strangely magical you are. Most of us could never imagine the fire and promise we hold. We live in a culture that tells us to be “realistic.” That means dampen our enthusiasms and compromise our vision. We are encouraged to bow to the known world, and shun our unknown ...
Views: 815 - Mothering Ourselves: Nurturing Yourself, Your Dreams and the World - by Submitted on May 11, 2009 from Tama KievesI have had to learn how to mother myself in this lifetime. I love my mother, more so these days than ever before, but for many years I felt like I got the short end of the umbilical cord. Like many of us, I didn’t get the movie mother in this lifetime, the tireless cheerleader, the fierce ...
Views: 984 - Getting Answers: You Can’t Figure it Out. You Can Only Let it Out. - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2009 from Tama KievesAs a coach, I’m in the business of helping people get answers to their most pressing decisions in life. Now, it’s not uncommon for a client to come or call and say, “I like gardening, playing the cymbals, hiking in the backcountry, helping people, and learning about color theory, healing energy ...
Views: 913 - In Celebration of Foolishness: Every Hero Begins as Fool - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2009 from Tama KievesIn celebration of April Fool’s Day and of all Spring’s new beginnings, I wanted to encourage you to be a little bit more “foolish” in your life. There is power in daring to be different. Great advances have never come from the conventionally minded among us. It’s always comes from us idiots ...
Views: 838 - Trust the Miracle of Change - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2009 from Tama KievesSurrender to the tidal wave. This fierce love is here to assist you in beginning a new, true, invincible life. If you’re feeling unsettled by the unknown and assaulted by change, remember, it’s a strength to be undoing that which no longer works. This is progress, not mayhem. The artist Pablo ...
Views: 866 - The Opportunity of Pain - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2009 from Tama KievesRecently I took a yoga class while in New York City. I claimed a space in the packed studio and drank in the peace of the altar, appointed with images of smiling gurus and blue Krishnas. The subway rumbled beneath us. The teacher, a low-keyed young man in a faded tee shirt, walked casually among ...
Views: 838 - The Ultimate Security: Doing What You Love - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2008 from Tama KievesHere is my dearest hope for our changing times. I hope more of us will turn our eyes away from the crumbling wreckage of conditions we knew, and turn our eyes toward what is now available. Alfred Lord Tennyson said, “The shell must break before the bird can fly.” Many of us put our ...
Views: 819 - Finding Your Next Step in the Midst of Fear, Pain, or Chaos - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2008 from Tama KievesSometimes life feels like a tornado touched down on an ordinary day and left broken shards of everything you knew. Change is often sudden and all-encompassing. When a major shift comes into your life, you may feel vulnerable and frightened. But keep this in mind. When a lobster grows, it sheds ...
Views: 1775 - An Invitation To The Dance - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2008 from Tama KievesThe following is a book excerpt from THIS TIME I DANCE! Creating the Work You Love (How One Harvard Lawyer Left It All to Have It All!) by Tama J. Kieves (www.ThisTimeIDance.com) reprinted by permission of the author. I invite you to this dance. We live in times that cry out for love and ...
Views: 935 - Never Alone Or Unanswered: Walking With Infinite Love - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2008 from Tama KievesThe more I cultivate a relationship with my own inner voice, the more I step into a precious, responsive life of abundantly answered prayer. These days, I often feel as though I’m walking with an Unseen Friend, a playful, quirky, Mojo-powered force that infuses my life with meaning and ...
Views: 869 - Go Green: Turning Your Jealousy into Strength - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2008 from Tama KievesThe other day I read about an acquaintance, another author, I know who was featured in The New York Times. As I came upon the story, try as I might to fill my mind with the bird songs and daisies of good will, I felt sandpaper scrape my soul. Immediately, her shiny success became my failure. ...
Views: 845 - If The Future Scares You, The Present Moment Can Heal You - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2008 from Tama KievesMoney has been on people’s minds these days. The media volleys the word “recession” around. It’s like a toddler learning to say a first word and saying it again and again. Personally, I don’t believe that staying obsessed about a future fear, is staying ...
Views: 1125 - The Secret To Living Your True Life: Stop Judging Yourself - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2008 from Tama KievesDo you want to discover your true life’s purpose? More ease? Maybe even more money? I have one simple answer, so simple you’ll push it away thinking that it could never work. Here it is: Stop judging yourself. That’s it. End of story. Oh, you have questions? Of course, just like me. When you ...
Views: 959 - Discover Diamonds In The Mud: Clarity, Creativity, or Genius - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2008 from Tama KievesHere’s a little secret. You can’t force clarity, creativity, or genius. Yes, it’s maddening when you don’t know what you want--and no one else knows--because it’s your life. Years ago, I felt very confused about a relationship issue. I journaled about it, cried about it, meditated about it, ...
Views: 872 - Launching Your Work Into the World: Just Start Dancing And The Band Will Find You - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2008 from Tama KievesI don’t know a better way to march our dreams into the world other than to just march our dreams into the world. You could wait for the world to invite you to the banquet and the ball. Or you could just show up in your red dress and your headdress ready to boogie. I think the red dress is in ...
Views: 806 - Scared Or Sacred? Our Response To Transition Times - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2008 from Tama KievesThese days, many of us are in the bog-swamp-fog of transition. Transition is that Jello-like place on the way to a new identity—a place that defies certainty in the meantime. Maybe we have chosen to leave something behind. Maybe we’ve been heaved off a crumbling ledge--with or without a ...
Views: 858 - Self-Love: The Practice That Allows Your Best Life To Unfold - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2008 from Tama KievesAs we approach “Valentine's Day season,” I wanted to send a Valentine's Day card to each and every one of you. And then I decided, better yet, I want you to send a Valentine's Day card to yourself. It’s appropriate you know. Just think of all the messages we hear on Valentine’s Day: “I ...
Views: 1092 - Cultivating Lover’s Eyes… - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2008 from Tama KievesHere comes Valentine’s Day, filled with roses, chocolates and the praise of romantic relationship. I don’t know about you, but I want to be in a romantic relationship with every bit of my life. I want to kiss the nape of its neck and write poetry about its most mundane moments. I want to look at ...
Views: 870 - The Only Road to Everything You Want - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2008 from Tama KievesWe commit to real change, and then we resist it. This cosmic dance has been going on forever in every ballroom since the beginning of time... I’ve committed to write more this year. It’s what I want. Now that I’ve said it, I know I will drag into my writing room, and it will ...
Views: 1029 - A New Practice For A New Year - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2008 from Tama KievesI ended 2007 feeling a little filmy, more than a little occupied, and slightly annoyed with the Universe, if I’m being really honest. I felt far away from the presence of a Caring Intelligence, like staring into the night sky, knowing the moon is somewhere, but feeling thin with shadows. I was ...
Views: 1058 - Your Life’s Purpose: You Don’t Get to Pick Your True Nature; You Get the Choice to Honor It or Ignore It - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2007 from Tama KievesI recently worked with a middle aged woman, an attorney in a large law firm. She felt panicked about her life’s direction. She felt stuck, hazy, and anguished. “I want to know my life’s purpose,” she said. I always get nervous when people want to know their “life’s purpose.” I feel like Moses ...
Views: 796 - Celebrate The Middle Of Things: Middle Moments Are Our Graduate School And Launch Pad - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2007 from Tama KievesWe live in a society where only “big success” is acknowledged. We don’t care about the small steps. We don’t hear about the stumbles. Yet it takes outrageous courage to be in the middle of your journey. The middle is where it’s at, baby. Maybe you’re growing a new business, writing the book of ...
Views: 794 - The Tremendous Gift Of Fear: Holding Onto the Past Will Block Your Potential - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2007 from Tama KievesAre you resisting fear in your life? So many of us want to scuttle into safety and security. But fear is the gateway to the sublime. We’re supposed to be scared “out of our minds.” That’s the point. That’s when we tap into another intelligence, a non-linear knowing. Best-selling author Sharon ...
Views: 1506 - The Tremendous Gift of Fear: Your True Self and Real Identity is Eternal, Enduring, and Regenerative - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2007 from Tama KievesAre you resisting fear in your life? So many of us want to scuttle into safety and security. But fear is the gateway to the sublime. We're supposed to be scared "out of our minds." That's the point. That's when we tap into another intelligence, a non-linear knowing. Best-selling author Sharon ...
Views: 1013 - 3 Secrets to Honoring Your Wondrous Devotion: Seizing Time for Your Creative Self - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2007 from Tama KievesThis summer I am pale and I love it. I don’t have the ruddy tan of the social. I haven’t gone to pool parties and I haven’t kayaked down any rivers. Instead, I’ve stared at a computer screen, but I am not talking about sitting in some cubicle, doing other people’s work. I am talking about doing ...
Views: 823 - Forget your “life's purpose” and live your life purposefully - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2007 from Tama KievesSam called me recently for a coaching session to help him find his “life’s purpose.” According to him, he’d taken classes, attended retreats, listened to tapes, talked to counselors, read books, treatises, and tea leaves, channeled and chanted, did his numerology and astrology, researched, and ...
Views: 1047 - Discovering Your Own Vibrant Guidance: Only the Lost Will Ask for Help - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2007 from Tama KievesIf you want to live a life that celebrates your gifts and fits you like silk…you might first have to lurch into brick walls or down blind alleys. Poet Galway Kinnell says, “And the first step, shall be to lose the way.” When I share this at workshops, participants gaze at their shoes. They don’t ...
Views: 912 - Creative Inspiration: Avail Yourself of the Most Untapped and Unsung Resource on the Planet - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2007 from Tama KievesThe following is a book excerpt from THIS TIME I DANCE! Creating the Work You Love (How One Harvard Lawyer Left It All to Have It All!) by Tama J. Kieves (www.ThisTimeIDance.com) reprinted by permission of the author. I invite you to this dance. We live in times that cry out for love and ...
Views: 937 - Three Steps to Overcoming Self-Attacking Beliefs: An Authentic Life is Not a Linear Process - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2007 from Tama KievesRecently a client of mine was sick of "having faith" while it seemed she slogged towards her dream in thick molasses. "I just want to get there now," she screeched, scoffing at all her previous progress. I felt sad. This wasn’t the combustible kind of frustration that would help her take ...
Views: 859 - Life in Transition: Trusting the Timing of Your Dreams - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2007 from Tama KievesThe other day an acquaintance remarked how great my life was now that I had published my book THIS TIME I DANCE! Creating the Work You Love and "made it." I could tell by the fame-drunk look in her brown eyes that she saw me as a weekly guest on Oprah, and as signing "made-for-t.v." movie deals ...
Views: 851 - Clarity, Creativity, or Genius: Finding your Diamonds in the Mud - by Submitted on May 26, 2007 from Tama KievesHere’s a little secret. You can’t force clarity, creativity, or genius. Yes, it’s maddening when you don’t know what you want--and no one else knows--because it’s your life. Years ago, I felt very confused about a relationship issue. I journaled about it, cried about it, meditated about it, ...
Views: 915 - Visionaries: Fools of Today; Heroes of Tomorrow - by Submitted on May 09, 2007 from Tama KievesThere is power in daring to be different. Great advances have never come from the conventionally minded among us. It's always comes from us idiots who believe in love and freedom and goodness and peace. The fools of today are the visionaries of tomorrow. Those crazy fools of the past gave us ...
Views: 1020 - Career Transition: You No Longer Have A Label, But You Do Have A Ticket - by Submitted on May 07, 2007 from Tama KievesExcerpted from THIS TIME I DANCE! Creating the Work You Love (How One Harvard Lawyer Left It All to Have It All!) (Tarcher/Penguin) by Tama J. Kieves by permission of the author. When I first dropped out of my lawyer life, I sometimes walked downtown on weekdays like some wayward ghost ...
Views: 1023 - Daring to Live Your Calling is a Path of Showing Up Fitfully and Fabulously - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2007 from Tama KievesI was talking to one of my coaching clients and she was talking about not being able to stay with a meditation practice, so she gave up meditating altogether. “I’m either gung ho all the way or I don’t show up at all,” she said in disgust. We were talking on an evening ...
Views: 849 - Change or Control: 3 Insights for Stepping Into Chaos and Unfolding the Life of Your Dreams - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2007 from Tama KievesI saw a coaching client recently who wanted to get right down to business and plan out her new, bold life. She wasn’t sure what that life was, but she wanted to map it out, pin it down, and make it happen. She looked at me with exhausted eyes and silently begged me for light. I wanted to tell ...
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