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- It's Not Fair! - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2014 from Janet PfeifferAt one time or another, we've all complained that life isn't fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they're being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was ...
Views: 1492 - Rumors and Gossip: Damage Control, Part 2 - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2014 from Janet PfeifferThey all complained about the daily gossip that ran rampant among them. Every one participated in it yet ironically no one could understand why they would be targeted. In the fifteen years I worked at the battered women's shelter, both staff and residents criticize those who engaged in rumors ...
Views: 2438 - You Can 'Thank' Away Anger - by Submitted on May 06, 2015 from Janet PfeifferI'm a very polite person. I was taught to always say "please" and "thank you" when I was a child, a practice that has continued throughout my adult life. However, I never realized the latter phrase could be used as a means of eliminating anger. You might think it an odd concept but let me ...
Views: 1307 - "AR You Ready to Reduce Anger in Your Relationships?" - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2016 from Janet PfeifferRelationships are the most challenging aspect of life whether personal, professional, casual or intimate. Even with those we love deeply, such as family members, getting along can prove challenging. Consider this: more than half of all American families are estranged from one another due in part ...
Views: 1380 - "Did You Hear About...? A Look at Rumors and Gossip" - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2014 from Janet PfeifferI abhor rumors and gossip. They're petty, destructive, and hateful. Yet, truth-be-told, I have engaged in gossip from time-to-time. I'm not proud of it, just honest. I could try to justify it by saying that I've only done so out of concern for others. Sometimes the sharing of information about ...
Views: 2095 - "GO AHEAD - GET GOOD AND ANGRY!" - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIt's hard to avoid getting angry. Even those who are relatively easy going find themselves irate from time to time. At the most inopportune moments, anger can rear its ugly head and create all sorts of havoc in our lives. Consider these examples: You've been under extraordinary amounts of ...
Views: 1553 - "S~T~A" Away From Anger - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2016 from Janet PfeifferI love creating simple strategies individuals can use to experience less anger or stress in their lives, to improve their communications skills, resolve conflicts easier or create inner peace. From the SWaT Strategy* to TECO Magic*, The Great Duck and Dishtowel Debate* or the Seven C's of ...
Views: 1448 - "THE 12 YEA'S OF CHRISTMAS: "GETTING ALONG WITH FAMILY DURING THE HOLIDAYS" - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIs world peace really possible? Maybe, but peace begins within, then extends into the home before it can reach global proportions. Sadly, the holidays, proclaimed the most wonderful time of the year, are more realistically the most stressful, bringing out the worst in people rather than the true ...
Views: 1466 - "THE F~B~I WAY TO WARD OFF ANGER - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2017 from Janet PfeifferI've been teaching people about anger for nearly twenty five years. What I do is commonly referred to as anger management training. However, this implies that people must first become irate and then seek methods of how to manage it effectively, express it appropriately, and ultimately put it to ...
Views: 1533 - "Who's To Blame For Your Anger?" - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2007 from Janet Pfeiffer"Who's To Blame For Your Anger?" Have you ever noticed how angry people seem to be? They can fly off the handle for the least little thing. Insignificant events become valid excuses to lash out at someone or something. The damage they do can be irreparable. The pain they can cause others is ...
Views: 5278 - "WHY" This Gets Rid of Anger - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2015 from Janet PfeifferIt doesn't take much for some people to get angry. For others, the process takes a bit longer. There must be certain criteria present before one is willing to relinquish their serenity. For those who fly off the handle rather quickly, there is a simple one word question they can ask before ...
Views: 1380 - 10 PROLIFIC COMMUNICATE TIPS - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIt's difficult for a lot of people to communicate with each other effectively. Unless you're a recluse, communication is something we all do every day. Perhaps because I'm a motivational speaker, author, and radio host, I can talk ad infinitum. I actually find it enjoyable and relatively easy. ...
Views: 1707 - 10 Tips to Diffuse a Volatile Situation - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWe are living in a very volatile and dangerous age. Not only have issues of domestic violence, child and animal abuse, anger in the workplace and so on been more apparent, but we are definitely witnessing a rise of violence within our communities. Gangs and individual assaults seem to be taking ...
Views: 3307 - 10 WAYS TO STOP PEOPLE FROM ANNOYING YOU - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Janet PfeifferThey're like mosquitoes on a hot summer night - those irritating and annoying people. They can be found anywhere from our families or coworkers to drivers on the roadways to complete strangers we encounter while on vacation. Their quirky behaviors and annoying habits can ruin our day. Other ...
Views: 2277 - 13 Quick Questions for Clarifying Anger - by Submitted on May 21, 2014 from Janet PfeifferDo you ever wonder why it's so hard to break a habit? Whether it's biting your fingernails, the way you speak, or your reaction to drivers who cut you off on the highway, old habits die hard. The reason being is that behaviors, when repeated frequently enough, become habitual. We no longer ...
Views: 1715 - 14 Common Reasons We Get Angry and Their Solutions - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhile conducting research for today's show, I found fourteen of the most common reasons people get angry. Keep in mind, these are only the triggers. Outside circumstances are never the actual cause. There are three root causes - hurt, fear, and frustration - that prompt anger in us. Let's ...
Views: 1532 - 14 Common Reasons We Get Angry and Their Solutions - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhile conducting research for today's show, I found fourteen of the most common reasons people get angry. Keep in mind, these are only the triggers. Outside circumstances are never the actual cause. There are three root causes - hurt, fear, and frustration - that prompt anger in us. Let's ...
Views: 1647 - 20+ TIMES NOT TO SAY ANYTHING - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2017 from Janet PfeifferThere are so many times in our lives when we realize after the fact that it would have been in our best interest to have kept our thoughts to ourselves. Words are powerful and can make matters better or cause damage to others or get us into a whole lot of trouble. There is much wisdom in the old ...
Views: 1836 - 3 Keys To an Anger-Free Life - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2015 from Janet PfeifferHave you been upset about an issue that seems to make no sense and asked yourself, "Why did I get so angry over something that was relatively minor?" Oftentimes, our response is triggered not by the present issue but from an alternative source. Odd as it may seem, the past and future can hold ...
Views: 1455 - 3 Keys To an Anger-Free Life - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2015 from Janet PfeifferHave you been upset about an issue that seems to make no sense and asked yourself, "Why did I get so angry over something that was relatively minor?" Oftentimes, our response is triggered not by the present issue but from an alternative source. Odd as it may seem, the past and future can hold ...
Views: 1367 - 3 Must Have's That Resolve Conflicts - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2016 from Janet PfeifferConflict is a natural and even healthy aspect of life. It enables us to see another perspective of an issue, to creatively discuss and seek solutions to our differences, to learn to be open-minded and flexible, to practice the fine art of compromise or in some instances to graciously concede to ...
Views: 1485 - 3 R's That Mend Broken Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2016 from Janet PfeifferRelationships can be challenging, each with its own unique set of issues. Whether on the job with co workers who can at times be condescending, to social encounters with individuals who are overly critical, to our most personal relationships with family members who deeply offend us with hurtful ...
Views: 1871 - 4 SIMPLE RULES FOR A HAPPY LIFE - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2017 from Janet PfeifferMost people I know want to be happy. I say most because there some who are really miserable and seem content remaining that way. They resist every opportunity for joy and find excuses to stay stuck in their gloom. Although I believe that deep down inside every human being desires happiness, I ...
Views: 1596 - 5 QUALITIES OF NON VIOLENT FIGHTING - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWhen individuals disagree on a subject matter, whether it's politics, religion, home projects, budgeting issues or such, very often the discussion escalates into a full-blown fight. Tensions rise as each side tries to convince the other that their beliefs or ways of doing something are more ...
Views: 1863 - 7 Communication Strategies to Reduce Anger and Conflict - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Janet PfeifferWhy is it so hard to talk to one another? Unless you're a recluse, it's something we all do every day. Perhaps because I'm a motivational speaker, author, and radio host I can talk ad infinitum. I actually find it enjoyable and relatively easy. Yet there is a significant difference between ...
Views: 1786 - 7 Steps to Regret Free Decisions - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2015 from Janet PfeifferWe're all faced with making hundreds if not thousands of decisions each day. From choosing the time I get up to what I want to wear, whether I should have breakfast or not, how I'm going to spend my day, or what my attitude will look like - we make choices from morning till night that impact the ...
Views: 1337 - 7 TIBETAN STEPS TO LASTING JOY - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2016 from Janet PfeifferThere is something about the country of Tibet that has always intrigued me. Perhaps it's the beautiful landscape along crystal blue waters or the unique architecture of its oriental style buildings. Or more importantly a group of monks that call this country their home are known for their serene ...
Views: 1793 - A NIGHT AT THE RACES - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhen I was younger I must have fallen asleep for twenty years like Rip Van Winkle. Then when I awoke, somewhere in adulthood, I noticed a most unusual evolving phenomenon: in a world where only two distinct races existed (black and white) there were now Hispanics, Asians, Latinos, and others. ...
Views: 1308 - A No-Win Situation: What to Do When You're Caught in the Middle - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2014 from Janet PfeifferWe've all found ourselves in situations where we feel as though we're caught between a rock and a hard place. Faced with making a necessary decision, our choices are less than favorable and all options have potentially serious consequences. Your best friend confides that she's having an affair ...
Views: 3074 - A Year Unlike Any Other - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from Janet PfeifferI’m not much for New Year’s resolutions; I don’t make them at all. People have good intentions and initially put forth a valiant effort. But we all know as January progresses enthusiasm wanes and efforts diminish. By February, most are chastising themselves for being failures and vowing to be ...
Views: 1217 - ABCE: ANGER, BOUNDARIES, COMPASSION, ENABLING - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2017 from Janet PfeifferNo matter who we are or where we go in life, we encounter people who are struggling with personal issues and are not easy to engage with. They can prove challenging to deal for a variety of reasons. Often times, we feel ill-equipped to effectively deal with them. Some, feeling overwhelmed or ...
Views: 1794 - Achieving Self-Compassion - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2016 from Janet PfeifferAt times, human beings can be incredibly compassionate towards one another. A family member going through a difficult time is encouraged to take extra care of themselves. A teen struggling with adolescent challenges is given support and encouragement. We offer our assistance to a neighbor who's ...
Views: 1470 - Addressing the Primary Sources of Conflict - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2016 from Janet PfeifferConflict is a normal, healthy, and useful part of life. At its simplest, it means there is a disagreement or difference of opinion between two or more individuals. In life we can identify two types of conflict: internal and external. Internal conflict, the root issue causing discomfort and the ...
Views: 1484 - Adult Temper Tantrums: the Why's and What's - by Submitted on May 07, 2014 from Janet PfeifferEach one of my children threw one temper tantrum in their lives. As with all toddlers, overwhelming frustration can lead to a meltdown of epic proportions. I was not the kind of mother who would wait patiently until them calmed down. Not me! I walked right up to them, grabbed their shoulders, ...
Views: 2512 - Adversity, Anger, and Awareness - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2016 from Janet PfeifferI've never met anyone who didn't have to face adversity at some point in their lifetime. Whether in our personal relationships, professional lives, in regards to a health issue, academically or financially, hardships seem to be a standard component of life. Of late, many people have adopted ...
Views: 1367 - Aggression and Anger: the Human/Canine Connection - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2014 from Janet PfeifferI've been blessed in my life. I've had eighteen dogs, all of whom were sweet and loving. I've never had an aggressive dog with the exception of one - Huggy Bear. Huggy was a black Great Dane that came to us when he was just a pup. Big floppy ears, giant paws, and a single white spot on his chest ...
Views: 1464 - Alternative Healing Modalities for Anger - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2014 from Janet PfeifferWhen I was a child, my mom always utilized natural methods for healing. Fevers were treated with cold compresses to the forehead, sucking on frozen juice pops, and cool baths. Burns were treated with ice, colds with chicken soup. Rarely was medication given to restore health. Even when we ...
Views: 1618 - ALTERNATIVE RESPONSES TO ANGER - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2017 from Janet PfeifferLife doesn't always turn out the way we'd like. When situations take an unfavorable turn, we become upset, frustrated, or angry. When others don't agree with us, live their life the way we think they should, or act in a manner we find disturbing, anger is a typical response. With the exception a ...
Views: 2452 - An In-Depth Look at Anger - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2016 from Janet PfeifferAccording to psychologist Charles Speilberger, Ph.D who specializes in the study of anger, “Anger is an emotional state that varies from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. It's accompanied by physiological, psychological and biological changes. When you get angry, your heart rate and ...
Views: 1194 - Anger and Disease: the Connection and Remedies - by Submitted on May 07, 2016 from Janet PfeifferThere is no denying that the mind, body, and spirit are all interconnected. What impacts one affects all others. While the general public has become more health conscious in terms of eating healthier, dropping those unnecessary pounds, and exercising more, what often gets overlooked - that ...
Views: 1416 - ANGER AND POWER: THE CONNECTION - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWe all seek to be powerful. I'm not speaking necessarily about having authority over others but we certainly want to have control over our own lives. Yet even the most well-intentioned, enlightened person wants to control a particular situation or individual at times. Certainly, parents impose ...
Views: 1315 - Anger and Self-Pity: The Shortest Road to Misery - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2015 from Janet PfeifferI've never been one to feel sorry for myself. When bad things would happen in my life I never asked "why me?" I would, instead, inquire "why not me?" I learned early-on that bad things happen in everyone's life and I was not exempt so I developed a mindset of quiet self-resignation - I simply ...
Views: 1472 - Anger and the 2 "F" Words - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2016 from Janet PfeifferNo, I'm not speaking about that "F" word. I'm going to address two different words beginning with the letter "f" and how they influence the decisions we make, our responses in any given situation, and how the outcome adds to or subtracts from our happiness and/or contributes to our anger. Those ...
Views: 1432 - Anger in the Workplace - by Submitted on May 14, 2014 from Janet Pfeiffer"One of my coworkers is so annoying! She's always making personal calls when she's supposed to be working. Then when she can't finish her work she asks me for help!" Recently, one of my clients (a mechanic) complained about missing tools. "We are all responsible for our own tools. I keep mine ...
Views: 2224 - ANGER: FIRE OR ICE? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIt doesn't take much to anger some people. Even the most innocent comments can cause some tempers to flare. Innocuous situations can be misinterpreted leading to screaming matches, cursing, or physical altercations. In an instant, violence can erupt where calm once existed and destruction of ...
Views: 1707 - Anger: How Much is Too Much? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2015 from Janet PfeifferJesus got angry. He was troubled by the many injustices he encountered while on Earth. At times, he expressed his dismay to those around Him. Anger, as with all emotions, has a place and purpose. But how does one know if there is too much anger in their lives? Here are ten warning signs to ...
Views: 2476 - Anger: Incident or Issue? - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Janet PfeifferIn the years that I facilitated my support group for estranged families, I primarily worked with older parents whose adult children had severed their relationship with them. The parents were perplexed: "I was a good parent", they declared. "I gave my children the best of everything. There is no ...
Views: 1456 - Anger: The Bigger Picture - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2015 from Janet PfeifferHave you ever found yourself in a situation that was somewhat confusing, uncomfortable or perhaps even dangerous? Sometimes it's hard to understand why things happen or why we must participate in particular activities. We don't often understand why certain people enter our lives or why they ...
Views: 1453 - Anger: The Bigger Picture - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2016 from Janet PfeifferHave you ever found yourself in a situation that was somewhat confusing, uncomfortable or perhaps even dangerous? Sometimes it's hard to understand why things happen or why we must participate in particular activities. We don't often understand why certain people enter our lives or why they ...
Views: 1303 - Anger: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2016 from Janet PfeifferAs a child I was taught that anger was a bad emotion but I've have since come to understand that there are no bad feelings. All emotions have purpose and value as they teach us about ourselves based on how we react to external events. We assign value to each depending on how people act them out. ...
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