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  • ***Healing Your Inner Cult - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D
    Submitted on Sep 16, 2015 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Heal your inner cult with the Six Steps of Inner Bonding. _______________________________________ What do you picture when you think of the word 'cult?' For me, what comes to mind is being involved in a community where you have to follow certain ...
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  • ***The Fear of Being Excluded - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Feb 01, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph. D. February 01, 2016 ___________________________________________________________ You CAN heal a fear of being excluded and rejected! ___________________________________________________________ Many of us grew up experiencing, in one way or another, the pain of ...
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  • ***Finding The Partner Of My Dreams - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 25, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Are you seeking the formula for attracting the partner of your dreams? Here it is! ________________________________________ Rochelle asks: "If I assess myself quite objectively, if I know my accomplishments as well as my drawbacks, is there a ...
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  • ***Do You Define Your Adequacy By Looks and/or Performance? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 24, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ What was valued and approved of in your family as you were growing up? ________________________________________ When you were growing up, how did you learn to define your worth? Here are some of the things my clients have said to me: • In my ...
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  • ***Relationship Advice: Resolving Conflict When Someone Is Closed - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 04, 2016 ________________________________________ Learn how to resolve conflict when your partner or another person isn't available for mutual conflict resolution. ________________________________________ Loving relationships create a safe arena in ...
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  • ***Is Unconditional Love Realistic? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Aug 08, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Do you have the expectation that you will receive unconditional love from a partner? Most of us would love the experience of being loved unconditionally by someone. This is the experience we needed when we were growing up, but most parents are not connected enough with themselves and ...
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  • Relationships: Loving Yourself by Taking The Sacred Pause - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 17, 2017 from Margaret Paul
    All of us have 'triggers' that set off our fear or anxiety and may lead to our reactivity - anger, defensiveness, withdrawal, compliance or resistance. We are especially triggered in our important relationships. Take a moment right now to think about what, in your relationships, triggers you ...
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  • ***Where Kindness Comes From - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Aug 15, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Do you allow your natural kindness to shine forth? "Kindness is an inner desire that makes us want to do good things even if we do not get anything in return. It is the joy of our life to do them. When we do good things from this inner desire, there is kindness in everything we ...
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  • Each Act Of Loving Yourself Is Healing To Our Planet - by Put Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Mar 13, 2017 from Margaret Paul
    When I was four years old, I had one of those snapshot moments that is clearly embedded into my brain. I was outside by our duplex – at that time kids were safe outside alone - and there were three boys poking a snail with a stick so they could watch it writhe. I was stunned that they could do ...
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  • How Often Are You Aware Of Your Intent? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Dec 26, 2018 from Margaret Paul
    Learn to practice awareness of intent, to move out of your painful feelings and into your inner peace. Those of you who have been practicing Inner Bonding know that the basis of the Inner Bonding process is the intent to learn about loving yourself and others. It is the intent to learn ...
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  • ***Why Can't I Commit? - by Dr. Margaret Paul
    Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Do you have problems committing to a relationship, or are you involved with someone who has a fear of commitment? Louis wrote to me: "I have been dating an amazing girl, but recently ended it because I am not sure if she is good for me. Our relationship has ...
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  • ***Do You Have The Courage to Love Yourself? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 31, 2017 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD January 31, 2017 Discover why it takes great courage to learn to love yourself, and why it's so important to make loving yourself one of your highest priorities. Loving Yourself"Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more ...
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  • ***Does Controlling Others Make You Feel Happy? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Nov 15, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    Are you aware of the feelings you cause yourself when you attempt to control others rather than love yourself? "I have never been able to conceive how any rational being could propose happiness to himself from the exercise of power over others." - Thomas ...
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  • ***Friendship: Connection or Neediness? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 02, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Do you have problems having truly connected friendships? Friendship is a big topic. There are people who always seem to have many friends, and others who can't seem to find the way to make friends. Some people have deeply connected friendships, and others have only superficial ...
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  • ***How To Reassure Your Inner Child - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Sep 05, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. August 22, 2016 Are you afraid that if you practice Inner Bonding, you will have to feel painful feelings that you have been avoiding your whole life with your various addictions? Most people who have done even a little bit of Inner Bonding know the power it has ...
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  • ***Loving Yourself When Public Speaking - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 16, 2017 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. January 16, 2017 Has giving talks or presentations been scary for you? Discover why and what to do about it. Michael, one of my clients, asked me for help in one of our phone sessions: "I have to give a presentation to my boss and others on our staff on Friday. ...
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  • ***Managing The Heartbreak of Not Being Seen or Heard - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 02, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. May 02, 2016 _________________________________________________________________________________ Learn to manage the shattering heartbreak of when someone doesn't grok you – doesn't see you, hear you or understand you. ...
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  • ***Do You Believe You Are Worthy of Love? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 23, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Do you sometimes find yourself resisting receiving love because you believe you don't deserve it? Have you ever heard yourself say, "I'm not worthy of love," or "I'm not worth loving," or "I'm unworthy of God's love"? I frequently hear this from my ...
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  • ***Relationships: When To Let Go and Move On - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 10, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Are you staying in an abusive relationship because you believe you can change it or not be bothered by it? ________________________________________ The question of when to leave a relationship comes up over and over with my clients and with the ...
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  • ***Intimacy With Others Starts From Within - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Nov 01, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    Have you wondered why you may be having a hard time connecting with others? "Intimacy begins with oneself. It does no good to try to find intimacy with friends, lovers, and family if you are starting out from alienation and division within yourself." - Thomas ...
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  • *** Over-Talking: The Need to Talk Too Much - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jun 27, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Are you aware of needing to talk too much, or have you been with people who go on and on? There is a good reason for this. I have found over the years of practicing Inner Bonding that the more I listen to myself, the less need I have for others to listen to me and hear me. Not that ...
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  • ***Relationships: When Is It Okay To Call It Quits? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Oct 11, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. October 10, 2016 Do you feel ready to leave your relationship but wonder whether or not this is the right time to call it quits? Many of my clients struggle with knowing when it's the right time to end a relationship. Mary asked me: "I married my first ...
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  • Loving Yourself When Your Partner Is Needy - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Mar 13, 2017 from Margaret Paul
    Are you an empathic person who feels others' pain and then takes responsibility for their feelings in an effort to alleviate their pain? Is it hard for you to feel others' pain without trying to fix them? Often, empathic people become caretakers to try to alleviate others' pain so they don't ...
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  • ***Are You Hard On Yourself? 9 Reasons to Love Yourself Instead - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 31, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    If you are hard on yourself, do you believe that this is helpful to you? You might want to re-evaluate this false belief. Are you hard on yourself? Do you think this is a good thing? Do you believe this motivates you to do better? Think again. If you are doing well, it's likely in ...
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  • ***How To Be A Loving Advocate For Your Inner Child - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Sep 29, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. September 27, 2016 What does it look like to be a loving advocate for your inner child? Learn how now! What does loving self-care really mean? Our wounded self and our loving adult have totally different concepts of what self-care really means. The wounded ...
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  • ***Loving Yourself Fiercely and Relentlessly - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 23, 2017 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD January 23, 2017 How fiercely and relentlessly devoted are you to wanting to love yourself and wanting to learn to treat yourself lovingly? Gerard sat opposite me at one of my Inner Bonding Intensives. "My body hurts and I feel irritated," he complained, in a ...
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  • ***Are You Relationship-Avoidant? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 10, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Do you believe that you want a relationship but never seem to find the 'right one?' ________________________________________ Most people say they want to be in a relationship, yet they consistently do things that keep them from achieving this. If you ...
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  • Loving Yourself Rather Than Giving Yourself Up - by Margaret Paul
    Submitted on Jan 09, 2018 from Margaret Paul
    Marina asked: “I often go out of my way and do different things for my fiancé. For example if he wants me to stay and do something with him, I cancel what I have to do and stay with him. But he never does the same. He takes care of whatever he feels he needs to. Then I’m filled with ...
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  • ***Relationships: Hanging in Through the Hard Stuff - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Oct 25, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Do you have the courage to hang in through the hard times and do the learning and healing we all need to do to create a loving relationship? ________________________________________ Are you committed to working through the difficult and painful ...
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  • ***Embracing Panic - by Margaret Paul
    Submitted on Jul 03, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Discover how to manage panic in a way that allows it to dissipate rather than escalate. "That's the strange thing about panic – when we lean into it, it loosens it's grip on us." Daniel Siegel, M.D. "The power of reflection allows us to approach, rather than ...
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  • “I Keep Attracting Narcissists” - by Margaret Paul
    Submitted on Feb 05, 2018 from Margaret Paul
    Seema asked me this question during one of my webinars. It’s a question that I‘m often asked. “I seem to attract men who are often narcissistic, selfish, cheating and abusive. As much as I try to not repeat this pattern and learn my lessons and grow, I still find myself with this type of ...
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  • ***Loving Yourself When in Conflict - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Nov 07, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. November 07, 2016 You have a much better chance at conflict resolution when you are loving yourself rather than trying to control the other person. One of the questions I often receive is about how to manage conflict. If you think back to the role-modeling you ...
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  • ***Does Your Life Feel Alive And Meaningful? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jun 20, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    Do you find that nothing really excites you or holds much meaning for you? Does your life lack aliveness, passion and purpose? Vera sought out counseling with me because her doctor advised her to discover the emotional causes of her chronic fatigue. Vera, a successful stockbroker, was in a ...
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  • ******Filling Up Emptiness From The Inside - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    For many people, inner emptiness is a big problem. They believe that they can fill their emptiness from the outside, which is a false belief. The cause of inner emptiness is a lack of a loving connection with your inner child - your essence, your true Self, your Being, which then results in ...
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  • ***Does Your Partner Judge You In Front Of Others? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Apr 08, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Do you get stuck not knowing what to say or do when your partner treats you disrespectfully? ________________________________________ Louise asked me: "Do you have any suggestions on what to say when my husband says unloving words to me in front ...
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  • ***"Is There Hope For Our Relationship?" - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Feb 28, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Discover what you can do to give your relationship a chance. ________________________________________ Lauren asks: "I have been married for 12 years, our marriage has always been a struggle of various forms. I have gotten to feel so empty and ...
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  • ***Developing The Habit Of Loving - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Like anything worth learning, developing the habit of loving takes practice. As you practice Inner Bonding, your brain develops the habit of loving. "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." ~ Aristotle All of us develop ...
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  • Loving Yourself Can Heal Fear - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Mar 27, 2017 from Margaret Paul
    "I believe that anyone can conquer fear by doing the things he fears to do, provided he keeps doing them until he gets a record of successful experiences behind him." ~Eleanor Roosevelt I know from my own experiences that what Eleanor Roosevelt said in the above quote is very true. - I ...
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  • Loving Yourself When Feeling Overwhelmed - by Margaret Paul
    Submitted on Jan 16, 2018 from Margaret Paul
    In our stressful society, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. It’s easy to feel inundated with all we need to do, and besieged when too much is coming at us at once. It’s my experience that overwhelm comes from two different places: -If you are a highly sensitive person – which means that your ...
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  • ***Loving Yourself When Feeling Engulfed and Controlled - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Nov 15, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD November 15, 2016 What do you do when someone is trying to control you? Do you give in, argue or resist? Discover how to love yourself instead of abandoning yourself. Loving yourselfMost of us have had the experience in our relationships of someone trying to ...
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  • ***Are You Stuck in One-Way Relationships - by Margaret Paul
    Submitted on Nov 13, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Do you sometimes feel trapped with some who wants to be listened to but doesn't want to listen to you? ________________________________________ One of the common complaints I hear from my clients is that they listen well but they end up just listening and never being heard. This is the ...
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  • ***Making Peace With Lost Time - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jun 13, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Do you sometimes look back and feel as if you have wasted your life caretaking others or trying to get others to take care of you? Very often, in my work with my clients and with people who attend my workshops and Intensives, once they understand that they have been abandoning ...
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  • ***Accessing Great Thoughts From Your Spiritual Guidance - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Dec 27, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD December 27, 2016 ________________________________________ Have you discovered what connects you with your spiritual Guidance and supports you in downloading 'great thoughts?' ________________________________________ "All truly great thoughts are conceived ...
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  • ***Are You a Trash Can for Others' Negativity? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. July 11, 2016 Do you allow others to dump their negativity - their complaints, judgments, anger, self-centeredness and sense of entitlement - onto you? Carmen, a client of mine, told me at the end of one of her sessions, "I'm no longer willing to be a trash can ...
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  • ***Do You Compare Yourself to Others? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 09, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ How often do you feel one-up or one-down in comparison to others? ________________________________________ When you were growing up, did your parents compare you to others? Were you compared to siblings or other family members? Did your parents ...
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  • ***Do You Have Patience? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Oct 18, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    Has having patience been a challenge for you? Discover an underlying cause of impatience. Some people seem to be naturally patient. I'm not one of those people. I think I was born impatient. I have spent a lot of time cultivating having patience and trying to understand what triggers me ...
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  • ***Loving Yourself in the Face of Others' Expectations - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Feb 07, 2017 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD February 07, 2017 How often are you stressed and frazzled in trying to meet others' expectations? You can learn to love yourself instead! I was staying at a friend's house on one of my teaching trips. I walked into the kitchen early one morning to find my friend ...
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  • ***Manifesting Your Next Year - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 17, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ There is no time like right now to get clear on what you want to manifest in the coming year. ________________________________________ What do you want in the coming year? One of the things I've done for many years is to write down what I want for ...
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  • ***The Gifts Of Laughter And Tears - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. May 23, 2016 When you do not allow yourself to express yourself with laughter and tears, physical pain, due to stress and a lack of passion for life, may be the result. Ron grew up in a household where laughter and tears were never expressed. Anger was the main ...
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  • ***"If I Move Into My Power, Will I End Up Alone?" - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Do you have the common false belief that the better you feel about yourself, the more alone you will be? Yolanda asks: "What is coming up for me is -- if I completely move out of self-judgment and fully take the responsibility to actualize the deepest yearnings of my Soul, I ...
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