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- Siblings of Troubled Children - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2012 from Kate CarltonA parent has an obligation to take care of their children to the best of their ability. No one gets perfect children, and there is always one that is more difficult than the others. That child generally requires more attention than the “well” child. Unfortunately, I have met many of those ...
Views: 1488 - Trust - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2012 from Kate CarltonI attended a lecture tonight on “TRUST”. It involved a great deal of audience participation. Many people felt that those who didn’t trust others, did not trust themselves. Some were scarred by relationships where infidelity was involved. I believe trust is the essential ingredient in ...
Views: 1145 - Divorcing the Family - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2012 from Kate CarltonMy nephew got married this weekend. Or should I say my ex-nephew? When you get divorced do you lose all the people who were your family for over 20 years? My husbands older sister was diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor at age 34 after the birth of her 3rd child. Strangely enough, her ...
Views: 1047 - Forgiveness - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2012 from Kate CarltonA patient once asked me “how do you forgive someone who has hurt you?” In order to go forward, you must come to terms with your past. Some of what has happened in your past, we must forgive. Whether it be a parent, sibling, or significant other, bad things can happen that are difficult to move ...
Views: 795 - Forgiveness - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Kate CarltonA patient once asked me “how do you forgive someone who has hurt you?” In order to go forward, you must come to terms with your past. Some of what has happened in your past, we must forgive. Whether it be a parent, sibling, or significant other, bad things can happen that are difficult to move ...
Views: 1297 - Loneliness - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Kate CarltonHolidays are particularly lonely for me. Even Hallmark Holidays- those are the ones that card companies create just to make money. I don’t know if it is because I am single, have a very small family (most of whom do not live here), or holidays are made for couples. Although, I must say, when ...
Views: 1288 - Facebook – is it really a solution? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Kate CarltonFacebook, the most popular social media in the country. People get to invent themselves in all different ways and portray the pictures of their lives in just the way they want to. And what about your children? The best, most beautiful, smartest kids ever. Where posting SAT scores has become ...
Views: 1119 - Infidelity - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Kate CarltonInfidelity is a huge problem in marriages and occurs within 30-60% of marriages at some time. It does not JUST happen. It is a symptom – not a cause. Cheating can occur for a number of reasons. Depression, boredom, lack of sexual intimacy, and need for excitement, are a just a few reasons that ...
Views: 1295 - Women and Men as friends: Is it possible? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Kate CarltonAll of my life, I have had an abundance of friends. I am a giver, a loyal friends and attract people easily. I am well liked and was always in the “popular’ group at school, but never one of the “mean girls.” Of course, acquaintances and friends are obviously different, and the true blue ones ...
Views: 1231 - Aging Parents - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Kate CarltonMy mom has always been as sharp as a tack. She is 84, and aside from my 2 children, she is the only family I have. Her memory is excellent, she is incredibly well groomed, and is great to be around. She has had a difficult life, with the loss of her son at age 32 (my brother), and her husband ...
Views: 1114 - Unemployment and depression - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Kate CarltonToday is the start of a new day. You wake up in the morning and the first thing that hits you is the fact that you don’t have a job. With the huge amount of unemployment and layoffs, you are not alone. But, in this case, “misery does not love company.” Most people are now hit with a feeling ...
Views: 1160 - Coping with cancer - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Kate CarltonMy ex-husband described it as the 3 words you never want to hear. “You have cancer”. Somehow, what follows that, is what I will refer to as an “out of body” experience. It is almost like a whir of a fan, or a low pitched siren. When I received my call after a lumpectomy due to breast ...
Views: 1091 - Dealing with eating disorders - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Kate CarltonAt 12 years old, just at the beginning of puberty, my father mentioned how repulsive I looked. He called me “fatback” (referring to fat that people get on their backs), and told me I was ugly and stupid. The solution would be the beginning of a whirlwind romance with “diet doctors” that lasted ...
Views: 774 - I have been reading quite a bit about people accepting what they look like -specifically their body types. - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Kate CarltonI have been reading quite a bit about people accepting what they look like -specifically their body types. I have gone to several 12 step programs where people are trying to learn to love themselves as they are. One of the affirmations in CODA (co dependents anonymous) is “I love my body ...
Views: 1470 - Empty Nest -2nd part - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2012 from Kate CarltonPreparing for the "empty nest", is a huge transition for most people (see blog post on Toy Story 3 and Afraid of the empty nest). Preparing for the return of those who created the empty nest is somehow more devastating. We, who have experienced this, have been able to adjust quite happily ...
Views: 679 - "Marrying the Family" - by Submitted on May 16, 2012 from Kate CarltonThere's an old joke that says "what are the 3 biggest lies?" The check's in the mail, I can't remember the second, and the 3rd is sexual. Well, the truth is- there is another one. "When you marry someone, you don't marry their family." Yes, you do. I bought into the idea that I would get ...
Views: 968 - Going Home Alone: A tale of survival in neo-natal ICU - by Submitted on May 16, 2012 from Kate CarltonWe all prepare for having our first children in different ways. Many superstitions and religious beliefs help us prepare ahead of time or wait until after the baby is born. Some parents want to find out the sex of their baby as soon as they are able to, and some want to be surprised. Some ...
Views: 1017 - The Surviving Child - by Submitted on May 16, 2012 from Kate CarltonI lost my brother before any of the people I know experienced any type of loss. I was 31, he was 32. He came home on October 20th, and after having a meal at my parent’s house - my mom, dad, husband and brother. Stuart said he wanted to tell us something. My father was reluctant to sit down, ...
Views: 710 - Toy Story 3 and the Fear of the Empty Nest - by Submitted on May 16, 2012 from Kate CarltonA patient of mine has been spending many of his sessions speaking about how quickly his 3 girls are growing up. He is already thinking of how time is flying and soon they will be in college. His oldest will be turning 8 in May. He is in his early forties, just celebrated his 10th wedding ...
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