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- Things or Experiences: Which Do You REALLY Want? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsBy Noah St. John, Author of The Secret Code of Success The new car, the big house, a million dollars. Once you have all those things, then you’ll be happy. Right? You sure? Remember that last possession you just “had” to have? It’s probably sitting in your home or garage somewhere. ...
Views: 564(2 votes) - Thoughts Manifesting Lickity Split! - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThere were a couple of points in Maureen Moss’ latest World Puja newsletter I thought worth sharing. I’ve excerpted and highlighted my favorite parts below: On this past solstice of June 21, 2009 a major doorway opened and supported a massive leap in consciousness to those who were ...
Views: 1025(4 votes) - Three Ways to Understand Dream Symbols - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsA reader asked: “Can you tell me what a burning tree signifies in a dream?” Dream interpretation can be interesting, tricky, multidimensional, revealing and difficult. When trying to interpret a dream, the most important thing to remember is that dream symbols can mean many things, all at the ...
Views: 2797(2 votes) - Tied in Knots: The Journey of Release - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWhen we become overwhelmed and things are not going as planned, it is natural to hold tighter to our goals and try to force things to go our way. In the process, we tie ourselves in knots, tensing our shoulders, jaws, and muscles throughout our bodies. Our mind tells us that this is how to get a ...
Views: 603(2 votes) - True Food: A Love Poem - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAs headlines swirl and climates whirl And Wall Street finds its feet There’s one refrain that doesn’t change “Mommy, what’s there to eat?” Well listen child, I’ll tell you what, That’s no small query there. Come over here, and sit right down, In fact, pull up a chair. Your question, ...
Views: 1243(2 votes) - Use What’s Falling On You - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI heard a great story the other day that goes to the heart of how we need to deal with the challenges of our lives. A farmer had a mule. One day, that mule fell into a deep well. He was swimming as fast as he could, but the farmer couldn’t get him out. He knew that not only would the mule die, ...
Views: 510(2 votes) - We Teach People How to Treat Us - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI think Dear Abby said this a long, long time ago. I've always remembered it and I use it frequently in therapy. "We teach people how to treat us." How do we do this? By the way we treat ourselves. If we treat ourselves with respect we will be treated with respect. Likewise, if we ...
Views: 2892(2 votes) - What to Do When Something is New and Challenging - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsHave you ever tried to do something new and realized that it was A LOT harder than you thought it was going to be? Because while I was doing yoga with a friend of mine this weekend, I helped adjust her yoga pose and she blurted out: "This is much more difficult than the way I was doing ...
Views: 523(2 votes) - What's Your Number? Understanding The Enneagram - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsFifteen or so years ago, I sat through a dinner party where the discussion at the table went something like this... "Well, as a three, I felt like I really needed to finish the 10k in less than an hour," said the perky blond. The whole table cracked up, but I missed the joke. "I'm a two, ...
Views: 1547(2 votes) - When Can a Special Diet be Tax Deductible in the U.S.? (A Little-Known Must-Read for Everyone in the USA!) - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsDid you know that many of your medical expenses are tax deductible? That's right! The government will actually reward you for taking proper care of yourself. And with April 15 right around the corner, now is the time to get your records in order so that you can maximize your health-related ...
Views: 1405(2 votes) - When Your Gerbil is Missing - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2009 from Intent.com Authors“Age does not protect you from love, but love to some extent protects you from age.” Jeanne Moreau While walking around in Santa Monica the other morning, I saw a “Missing Pet” sign on the Whole Foods bulletin board. I walked closer expecting to see an image of a missing Shih Tsu or ...
Views: 1472(2 votes) - Your Body Speaks Your Mind - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIn Woody Allen’s movie, Annie Hall, Diane Keaton wants to know why he isn't angry. "I don't get angry," Allen replies, "I grow a tumor instead." Deb recently had a burst appendix and she is immensely grateful for the medical intervention that saved her life. We know that illness is real, that ...
Views: 1017(2 votes) - How to Lose Weight Doing Yoga by Enlightening Your Physical, Spiritual, and Mental Load - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsYoga has long been known to increase flexibility and reduce stress while uniting your body, mind, and spirit. But does all that “OM”-ing and bending have a significant impact on weight loss? Losing weight is simple in theory, but much more challenging in practice. To lose weight, a person ...
Views: 1538(5 votes) - Residing at the Helm - Being Your Own Village - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsSimple survival requires us to be in possession of many skills. The pursuit of dreams requires many more. Most individuals rely on the support of a village, whether peopled by relatives or community members, to effectively address the numerous ways we need assistance. This can mean anything from ...
Views: 862(5 votes) - What to Say to Someone Who is Grieving - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWhat do you say to someone whose life comes crashing down around them; whose life, as they knew it, is forever and profoundly changed? The first thing to really recognize is that when someone experiences the death of a loved one, the loss is so pervasive, the pain so excruciating, that ...
Views: 6236(5 votes) - Conceptualizing Conscious Capitalism - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI spent the past two days (May 28 – 29) at Bentley University outside of Boston attending the first Conceptualizing Conscious Capitalism conference, which is intended to be a precursor to the Conscious Capitalism Institute. The event, produced by Professors Raj Sisodia of Bentley (co-author of ...
Views: 741(8 votes) - 10 Tips to Build Heart-Healing Love - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsLearn to love yourself. This may take time and practice. As I tell my clients who are clearly struggling with self-love (and, who isn’t at some point?) write down 10 things you love about yourself every day. Be creative. Here, I’ll help you get started, “I love how I try to improve my health by ...
Views: 784(3 votes) - Become a More Creative Leader — Think Small - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWhat kind of leadership do we need now? This was the question I asked last week at the beginning of a day-long workshop attended by a group of senior-level women at a major technology firm headquartered on the west coast of the US. And I’ve been asking this question of thousands of other ...
Views: 632(3 votes) - Confidence is Everything - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsYears ago when I was a vice president of corporate development, I created a system of evaluation for our employees that was used to determine everyone’s yearly bonus. I told my boss that I found it curious that when the employees were measured against the standards of the system I’d developed, ...
Views: 638(3 votes) - Dinner with Monica Lewinksy -- 6 Reasons to Forgive Yourself - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWhile we were recently in England we were invited to a dinner party that was also attended by Monica Lewinsky (yes, that Monica!). She struck us as being a beautiful, intelligent and confident woman, having attended the London School of Economics. As we left we thought about how tough it can ...
Views: 753(3 votes) - Falling Forward - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsOnce I got an email from a woman who had just read my book on patience. She had just had a miscarriage and had discovered she had to wait for a few months before trying again. At first she was distraught and impatient. But she came to trust her body’s timing. She wrote, “Now I feel incredibly ...
Views: 1425(3 votes) - Family, Finances, and Fear - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsFear. It’s the four-letter word that infiltrates our families, our job market and even our economy.. And while few of us enjoy fear, it is actually a very powerful and beneficial emotion. Why? Fear shows us that we need protection, and it outlines a coming threat – be it real or imagined. The ...
Views: 957(3 votes) - How I'm Saving Money in a Bad Economy - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI'd like to share some tips on livin' the good life even in a bad economy. 1. Instead of Take Out...Take In There's this great outdoor café in Santa Monica called Urth Café. It's kind of pricey so on Tuesdays and Fridays (when I'm in town), I'll pack a lunch and enjoy it in Urth Café's ...
Views: 743(3 votes) - How Many Times Do You Smile A Day? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsA few years ago, I stopped to complement a 20-something friend who seemed to smile more than most people. His response startled me, and offered me a new path to follow. "When I wake up each morning, before even opening my eyes," he said, "I start to smile. I know that if I wake up smiling, ...
Views: 3858(3 votes) - How to Develop Key “Life-Line Relationships” That Will Change Your Life - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsNone of us can achieve the success or the validation we deserve alone. In this troubled economy, more than ever, we need the input, the feedback, the support and the feet-to-the-fire accountability of a few deep, trusted relationships in our professional and personal lives that we can count on, ...
Views: 1014(3 votes) - Key to Successful Relationships: Put Yourself First - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsBefore you can have successful relationships with others, you must master your relationship with yourself. Here’s a radical challenge: Make it a goal to fall back in love with yourself. When I say that to a roomful of people in my seminars, I usually hear lots of nervous giggles. Even the ...
Views: 2853(3 votes) - Mindful Not Eating - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsHave you ever found yourself standing in front of the refrigerator, looking for something to eat? You look and realize there is nothing in there you want and leave the kitchen, only to return maybe ten minutes later. You open the refrigerator again, look around, close, and repeat ten minutes ...
Views: 612(3 votes) - Morning Motivation: You Are Supported! - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsOne of my favorite movies is “About a Boy,” in which a teenage boy decides that the social support shared by only two family members (the boy and his struggling single mother) is not enough. If something happened to one of those family members, what would happen to the other? Through the rest of ...
Views: 505(3 votes) - My Mind Is Like My Mother - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI recently finished a ten-day meditation retreat, a deeply enriching experience and one full of all kinds of insights and breakthroughs. But of all the many things that struck me during those powerful days of silence and stillness, one in particular really hit home … and left me privately ...
Views: 627(3 votes) - Opening Your Heart with Yoga - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThe ancient wisdom tradition of yoga offers practices that prepare the mind and heart to release what is not useful and to open to that which is. Since body, breath, and mind are intimately connected, practices that enliven one dimension influence the others. Therefore, we want to begin with a ...
Views: 1820(3 votes) - Reflection on the Rewards of Discipline - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI began the week with a blog posting on the principle of Discipline. Given that I was away from home, in Vancouver on business, traveling with my daughter Meryl Fé, and staying with a friend whose internet service was out of order the first few days, exercising discipline was essential to moving ...
Views: 736(3 votes) - Relationships as Reflections of the True Self - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: I have read so many books...many of them yours. All say that relationships are your Self reflecting back to you. I have never had a healthy relationship with a man. I had a childhood that seems to have left me feeling unlovable. Abuse and no real concern expressed for its impact ...
Views: 763(3 votes) - Simple Serenity: Navel Meditation - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsJourneys of lifelong evolution often begin simply. No matter how complex the goal or desire we have nurtured in our souls, the first steps we take are nearly always basic and uncomplicated. Navel meditation, a creation of the Taoist tradition and the oldest form of meditation recognized in China ...
Views: 1403(3 votes) - Staying on Track: In Line with Spirit - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIn a world where we have routines for nearly everything—our route to work, our physical fitness regimen, and our weekday schedule—it’s amazing how many people forget to create a routine for meeting their spiritual needs. We run around in an attempt to be at our many appointments on time and meet ...
Views: 894(3 votes) - The Power of Belief - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThe minister, enough Vitalis in his hair to lube a Buick, places his palm on the forehead of the afflicted. “Praise the Lord—you are healed!” As if on cue, the afflicted obeys gravity and falls backward, stricken with the spirit, into the arms of the good reverend’s assistants. Then, she walks ...
Views: 1123(3 votes) - The Puppy Moment - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAshton Kutcher recently released a video on his fan page telling the story of a woman's experience during the Holocaust. She and her little brother boarded a train as they were told to do. Her brother lost his shoes somehow and she continuously called him stupid throughout the trip. Well, turns ...
Views: 773(3 votes) - Thinking and Speaking with Love - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWhen we think positively and speak lovingly, everything changes. If we understand that everything is simple and tell our loved ones how much we care for them in time, it follows that our relationships will be truly harmonious and full of love. But unfortunately, much of the time, it is only when ...
Views: 560(3 votes) - To Forgive, Correct the Fundamental Attribution Error - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWillingness to forgive is dependent on our explanatory or attributional style, on why we think people do what they do. People are scientists by nature: when we observe an event, we attempt to make sense of it. Making sense of the world is adaptive, necessary for survival. The more we understand ...
Views: 2647(3 votes) - Transforming Through Challenge - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsSome of the challenges we face in life can be handled and sorted through easily, dissolving not long after they pop up. But there are some that knock us off our feet when we least expect it – and these are not always so easy to shake. While everyone deals with life’s challenges differently, I ...
Views: 760(3 votes) - Yoga Tip of the Week #3: Balancing Your Opposites - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsImagine your body and mind like the string of a cello. An energetic pull on that string from it's base to its scrolling top, will make lovely music. Same with you! If you have energetic balance in your yoga, someone could run a bow along you, and your sound would be rich and full. If you are ...
Views: 1077(3 votes) - 8 Great Ways to Keep Your Family Organized - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI have confessed in the past, to loving organization in all its forms. At work, at home, on vacation... it just makes me feel good. So, without further ado, here are 8 great organizational tips for the whole family. 1. Set an intention How do you want your family life to be? What would ...
Views: 1132(8 votes) - Dharma as a Tool for Spiritual Transformation - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsDharma is a Sanskrit word with no direct literal translation into English. Etymologically it means that which sustains, upholds and supports. It should be understood as the most evolutionary impulse in Nature as she expresses herself in her infinite creativity diversity abundance and continued ...
Views: 1081(4 votes) - Facing Your Fear to Allow Forgiveness - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsRecent research has supported the benefits of forgiveness, especially its health benefits through the reduction of stress and negative emotion. So why do we often hesitate to forgive? Often our resistance to forgiveness is based on fear. What do we fear about forgiveness? Some of my students ...
Views: 1676(4 votes) - How Giving Back Can Change Your Life - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI grew up in the South. As a result of that I helped my mom make a lot of casseroles and salads for those who were sick and in need. It was just what you did. We belonged to a Presbyterian church and every Sunday we picked up Mrs. Browman, a woman who lived to be 100, every week so she could ...
Views: 1507(4 votes) - Looking Good while Doing Good: 5 Beauty Tips for the Giving Heart - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2009 from Intent.com Authors1. Make an effort to look good. Because when people look good and know it, they tend to feel good. When you are feeling too self-conscious about your baggy jeans or the stain on your shirt, you have less mental energy to focus on other people's needs and concerns. On the other hand, if you ...
Views: 1331(4 votes) - Morning Motivation: Listening to Our Feelings about Balance - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsEvery day, our body reminds us about balance. The body thrives in a temperature that’s not too hot or too cold, with just enough food and water (not too much or too little), just enough light (not blinding or pitch darkness), just enough oxygen, etc. We know that our body has reached a basic ...
Views: 574(4 votes) - Objectified - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI took two of my sons to see the new documentary on industrial design: Objectified. (Yes, that would be a big night out for the Pieris.) It was created by Gary Hustwit, who also created a scintillating (I am dead serious) film on type design, called Helvetica. You don’t have to be design ...
Views: 644(4 votes) - Real Self Empowerment - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsOrdinarily, we don’t see from a non-dual perspective. That’s what’s eluding us, and that’s what we’re yearning for. We’re yearning to be closer to truth, closer to reality, to God, to nature, to our true nature, to our self, to others. It’s as if we’ve frozen our self into a solid chunk of ...
Views: 688(4 votes) - The Job of a Leader - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsLeaders have many jobs. But ultimately, business/leadership and life's all about people. The best leaders never miss an opportunity to SHINE A LIGHT ON PEOPLE. Each day, walk into work - and out into the world - with a singular mission: to evoke THE BEST from everyone you meet. People ...
Views: 864(4 votes) - The Wisdom of Sharing - Stone Soup - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThere are many variations on the story of stone soup, but they all involve a traveler coming into a town beset by famine. The inhabitants try to discourage the traveler from staying, fearing he wants them to give him food. They tell him in no uncertain terms that there’s no food anywhere to be ...
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