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- Quieting a Chaotic Mind - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsRecently, I received the following pointed inquiry from a pal: I need some advice on how to relax a mind that over-thinks. Hmmm. Let's see . . . Have you thought about illegal substances? How about gratuitous sex with strangers? Perhaps you might try copious amounts of good, old-fashioned ...
Views: 3688(1 vote) - When You Give, Do You Expect Something in Return? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsPerhaps you’ve heard this parable from the East: While visiting the temple one day, a young seeker approached a Zen master to ask him a profound question, "What is the difference between Heaven and Hell?” There is none, the master replied. “Really?” said the seeker incredulously, “I don’t ...
Views: 3657 - Taking Inventory of Your Current State of Happiness (A Quiz) - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThe fruit of emotional healing is happiness. When embarking on any journey, it is important to recognize where you are now and where you want to go, so that you can map out the best route for getting there. The inventory below is designed to help you assess your current state. As you engage in ...
Views: 3591 - The Palm Lines and Their Meanings: Locate and Interpret the Life Line - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThe key points to remember when looking at the lines on the palm are that lines shift and change and that the quality of a line is one of the most important indicators of a line’s meaning. Some authors state that they view the lines as energy power lines or as rivers as a way of understanding ...
Views: 3558 - Rumi’s Love Poems - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: Hello, this question is regarding your book the love poems of Rumi. I cannot express how important this question is to me. The most important thing in the world to me is finding my twin flame....it is why I breathe, it is what I painfully long for. When I used to read Rumi's ...
Views: 3526(1 vote) - Smell Like Sunshine: Chem-Free Perfume - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIt’s already allergy season—who wants to add an irritating dose of synthetic perfume to the mix? The data is adding up on perfume’s pesky chemicals: According to the National Institute of Occupational Safety and Health, the fragrance industry uses up to 3,000 ingredients, predominantly ...
Views: 3508(2 votes) - "Someday, You'll Miss Me" - by Submitted on May 21, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWhen I was a teenager, I loved to push my mother’s buttons; sometimes I was bored and sometimes I just wanted to clear my head after school with a good argument. My mother would often end it with a smile and say, “Someday when I’m gone you will miss me.” “That cheap guilt trick doesn’t work with ...
Views: 3495(2 votes) - Economics 101: Money Creates the Illusion of Scarcity - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI remember something from my community college economics class that economy had something to do with scarcity. All along I've been reading post after post about how to get what we want because all we need is available in abundance. Seems to me we need to abolish the monetary system. What ...
Views: 3467(2 votes) - Gratitude is the Key to Happiness - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsHappiness is not difficult. It's only when we let other things get in the way that it seems difficult to obtain. To me, the key to happiness is wanting what you have, rather than having what you want. What this means is that I am satisfied with what I have, what I do, who I associate with. ...
Views: 3376(8 votes) - Raise the Energy in Your Home with Smudging - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsSmudging has traditionally been performed by Native Americans and is the ritual burning of herbs to create smoke to clear and purify a person or space. Ceremonies may begin and end with the burning of these sacred herbs. Herbs such as sage, sweetgrass and cedar are generally used. Try to ...
Views: 3376(1 vote) - The Harmonics of Sound - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsYou have heard the term "harmonics" used in many different areas--from the Harmonic Convergence to many sacred science writings. I particularly like the reference to shifting the harmonic resonance of the Enterprises's shield on "Star Trek: Next Generation". Yet how many of you really known ...
Views: 3357(1 vote) - Welcome Back, 80's: Chemically Free Black Eyeliner and Pink Lipstick - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsForget everything you learned as an adult putting on makeup and think back to those teen and ’tween years when you lined your lids without smudging and sported traffic-stopping lipstick. Yes, ladies, the ’80s are back, according to Paige Padgett, the eco-makeup artist extraordinaire ...
Views: 3328(1 vote) - Ceremony of Welcome - Welcoming a New Member to Your Family - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsJust as our inner landscape is constantly shifting and changing in response to the world around us, the dynamics of the families we belong to evolve over time. When we welcome an individual into our family—whether that individual is human or animal—a transformation takes place, a shift in the ...
Views: 3301 - Find Your Passion and Stick To It! - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsLife brings with it so much opportunity, so many directions and so many interesting people. But which opportunity, direction or person do you choose? How do you know? When is the right time to do the right thing, to make that decision to choose passion over your current situation which may be ...
Views: 3288(2 votes) - Night Night, Sleep Tight: A Look at Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIn every story worth telling, there is a colorful beginning. This one begins with me… When my stepfather started caressing me, and lightly tickling my arms, legs, and back, it felt nice. I felt loved. I was often watching television when he would cuddle with me on the sofa. My ...
Views: 3288(1 vote) - The Power and Perils of Fear-Based Thinking - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI write a Tuesday column for the Huffington Post. In my most recent column about “Why rational thinking is not all it’s cracked up to be?” a reader commented that my example of a paranoid client was not a good one as paranoia is not rational. I did not say that it was, but used it in the ...
Views: 3288 - Combat Hair Loss Naturally - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsLooking in the mirror became a difficult experience for Janet. It seemed like every day her forehead receded further and her already thinning hair became thinner. Feeling like everyone might be criticizing her appearance she became embarrassed to go out and worried what might be causing her hair ...
Views: 3220 - Operating System Corrupted - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsOkay, so I’m no more exempt than anyone else. I’ve spent the past four days under a cloud of a corrupted operating system in my computer. According to Dell, they receive 20-30 per DAY about just the same problem. What it eventually meant for me was a restoration of my computer to the day it was ...
Views: 3188 - Hugs...The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWe all have crushes. Sometimes they are innocent...like when you're in 3rd Grade. And sometimes they are not as innocent...like when you're married and lust for another. Can you relate? In my book Yeah Dave's Guide to Livin' the Moment (which launched today--March 17), there's a chapter ...
Views: 3145(4 votes) - How To Serve A Homeless Person: Guide to Gift Bags - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWe can help a homeless person by serving him/her food, a blanket and/or necessary items. It's a pretty simple and wonderful thing to do. In this article, I would like to propose a way to share items with homeless people. This distribution method of serving an unhoused person has worked for ...
Views: 3123(3 votes) - Special Messengers: Reconnecting with Friends - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsEvery person that passes through our lives makes a contribution to our life stories. There are those who play large roles and make deep impressions, but sometimes a brief special appearance before life takes them in another direction creates a meaningful connection. It is a rare gift when they ...
Views: 3116(1 vote) - How often should you check in with a sick friend? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsA colleague recently shared a dilemma with me. One of his friends has been battling leukemia for several months, and he’s not sure how often or even how to contact her. “It’s always been a ‘who’s gonna call whom?’ kind of friendship anyway,” Dwight explained, “and Amy’s never liked to share a ...
Views: 3062 - Sacrifice Sexy for the Sake of Eco-Undies? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsFor ages it seemed that if you wanted to go green in the lingerie department you’d have to sacrifice all semblance of sex appeal and settle for organic cotton granny panties. Clean and green, or sexy and slinky? Sustainable Lingerie Fortunately, we no longer have to choose. Designers on the ...
Views: 3057(1 vote) - You’re Perfect Just the Way You Are - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsLife can be very hard and confusing. It often seems that when you take one step forward, you wind up taking five steps backwards, doesn’t it? It’s okay, and you’re okay. In fact, you’re more than okay. You’re perfect just the way you are because God loves you. That makes you perfect, and strong, ...
Views: 3047 - 7 Ways to Deal with Inertia-Based Procrastination - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsPeople commonly use seven phrases as an excuse to procrastinate. Each one of these sentences indicates the inertia trap – we can't be bothered to start the ball rolling. We'd rather avoid the hard work and just stick with whatever we do have rolling even if it's a ball we despise. Here are ways ...
Views: 3024 - How to Stand in Your Power - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI’ve been thinking about the word power lately and what it really means. This word can overwhelm us when we think of how power is used in a negative way to control and manipulate others and situations. I want to talk about power plays because they can wreck havoc on our emotions. Power plays ...
Views: 3006 - "Mood Stabilizers" and Bipolar Disorder - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2009 from Intent.com Authors"Mood Stabilizers" are medications which are commonly prescribed for Bipolar Disorder. They are a special class of drugs and are very serious medications with very serious health risks. Yet many times they are given to patients for "mood swings" or for "sleep". What are some of these ...
Views: 2944(1 vote) - The More We Give, the More We Receive - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThere’s something about giving that frees us. It releases a part of us that has been tucked away, yearning to be exposed and shared with others in ways that add meaning and value to their lives. And in so doing, we also add meaning and value to our own. Many of us are generous at heart, but get ...
Views: 2941(2 votes) - The Truth About Back Pain Revealed: What Happens When Your Back Goes "Out"? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWhen the higher incorporates the lower into its service, the nature of the lower is transformed into the higher. -Meister Eckhart When someone’s back “goes out” where does it go? My experience working hands on with thousands of people from over 50 countries has shown me that “out” is ...
Views: 2914 - 11 One-Ingredient DIY Face Masks for Perfect Skin - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWe love super-green DIY beauty. Because we know with greater certainty than store-brought things that we're not putting weird, unknown chemicals right into our skin pores. Because we're not costing the environment with even more fancy, non-biodegradable packaging than we already are. Because ...
Views: 2892(1 vote) - We Teach People How to Treat Us - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI think Dear Abby said this a long, long time ago. I've always remembered it and I use it frequently in therapy. "We teach people how to treat us." How do we do this? By the way we treat ourselves. If we treat ourselves with respect we will be treated with respect. Likewise, if we ...
Views: 2892(2 votes) - Friends: Gifts We Give Ourselves - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsGood friends enrich our lives in so many ways. Through a magical combination of similarities and differences, friends offer us the opportunity to know ourselves as we are and help us grow into who we want to be. Our similarities attract us to each other, comforting us with familiarity when we ...
Views: 2890(1 vote) - "Sleep,Thou that Knittest Up the Ravel'd Sleeve of Care...' - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsShakespeare got it right. Sleep, which Macbeth famously says he has murdered, is 'the death of each day's life, sore labor's balm'. It repairs, and knits up again that frayed sleeve of our minds that has been worn through during the labors of the day. But it's also much more than this. I've ...
Views: 2864(1 vote) - This Summer, Show Off in a Teeny-Weeny, Greeny Bikini (or One-Piece) - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWell, EcoStilettoistas, its that time of year again! Summer equals swimsuit season, the time of year when healthy organic eating and exercise finally pay off. How better to reward our toned and beautiful selves than with an itsty-bitsy, teeny-weeny, greeny bikini? There are as many eco swim ...
Views: 2860(1 vote) - Key to Successful Relationships: Put Yourself First - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsBefore you can have successful relationships with others, you must master your relationship with yourself. Here’s a radical challenge: Make it a goal to fall back in love with yourself. When I say that to a roomful of people in my seminars, I usually hear lots of nervous giggles. Even the ...
Views: 2853(3 votes) - Dehypnotize Yourself! - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Intent.com Authors“It is no exaggeration to say that every human being is hypnotized to some extent, either by ideas he has uncritically accepted from others, or ideas he has repeated to himself or convinced himself are true. These negative ideas have exactly the same effect upon our behavior as the negative ...
Views: 2851 - Using Your 5 Senses: Ancient Secrets of Seduction - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Intent.com Authors“Tantra” means “instrument of the body.” It sounds exotic, but it is actually very simple. Tantra teaches us to use all five of our senses consciously, because our senses are how we are connected with the physical world. And of course, it is with our five senses that we connect with each ...
Views: 2830(2 votes) - Finding Spiritual Fulfillment - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsSpiritual fulfillment is your destiny. It is your heritage. It’s the course of your life that is more than a potential. It is a given. Spiritual fulfillment will take place. However, you may not experience the completion of your spiritual fulfillment in your life. It’s something that works on ...
Views: 2825(1 vote) - Three Ways to Understand Dream Symbols - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsA reader asked: “Can you tell me what a burning tree signifies in a dream?” Dream interpretation can be interesting, tricky, multidimensional, revealing and difficult. When trying to interpret a dream, the most important thing to remember is that dream symbols can mean many things, all at the ...
Views: 2797(2 votes) - The Murder-Suicide of Sahel Kazemi and former NFL Quarterback Steve McNair - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsA former NFL football star known for giving back to the community is happily married with four children. He is found dead in his condominium with a 20-year-old Dave & Busters waitress he had been secretly seeing for the last six months, who was also found dead next to him. The man died of ...
Views: 2791(2 votes) - The Importance of Protein in the Diet of Boomers and Seniors - Part I - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWe get a bit over excited sometimes educating people about protein. It is not just because we have our own protein product either. There are so many implications to not having enough protein in our diet, particularly as we age, that people need to prepare now or pay the price later. As the ...
Views: 2782(1 vote) - The Invention of the Toothbrush - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2009 from Intent.com Authors“The first thing I do in the morning is brush my teeth and sharpen my tongue.” ~Dorothy Parker As I recall - the kid loses a tooth and it gets stuffed under a pillow before he or she drifts off to sleep. (Sometimes it’s stashed in a glass of water beside the bed...I’ve been told it’s ...
Views: 2770 - The Psycho-Physiology of Stress - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIn the west, stress has become a major contributing factor in the cause of disease with some authorities attributing up to eighty percent of disease to stress. According to Ayurveda, the cause of disease is attributed to “the mistake of the intellect1”, or Pragya Paradh. This is when the mind ...
Views: 2734(3 votes) - Sculpture and landscape - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThese two images are of ‘Ozymandias’, currently on show in the De Cordova Museum, Lincoln, MA - one of the finest modern art museums in this North East Corner of the US. As you can see the sculptures are huge - that’s the artist Douglas Kornfeld leaning up against it. Ozymandias? Well, you may ...
Views: 2727(2 votes) - Magic Mushrooms - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIMPORTANT NOTE: Magic mushrooms can be very dangerous to an unstable mind and I do not condone their use unless you are in a controlled, safe environment, or at an Allman Brothers/Widespread Panic concert taking place this summer. I was hangin' with this cool dude who came on my yoga retreat ...
Views: 2697 - Motherless Daughter's Day - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsEvery year, since l996, women who have lost their mothers gather to honor their Mother’s memory and to support each other through the difficult Mother’s Day weekend. When your Mom is dead there is nothing like Mother’s Day to remind you of just how much you have lost and how painful that loss ...
Views: 2679 - Take the Vow of Emotional Independence - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWhen you have emotional independence, you want for nothing because you have everything. Debbie Ford Today is the day to join me and millions of others in taking a vow of emotional independence. Emotional independence will give you the freedom to love and be loved, to give freely and to ...
Views: 2673(1 vote) - To Forgive, Correct the Fundamental Attribution Error - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWillingness to forgive is dependent on our explanatory or attributional style, on why we think people do what they do. People are scientists by nature: when we observe an event, we attempt to make sense of it. Making sense of the world is adaptive, necessary for survival. The more we understand ...
Views: 2647(3 votes) - Healing from Pornography Addiction - by Submitted on May 14, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAs someone that has spent nearly forty years studying human behavior, compulsion, mind body relationships and addiction, I have seen over and over again how addiction can be shattering to our hearts, self image, and sense of stability in the world. I am in the process of designing a program ...
Views: 2627 - A Question of Balance: One-Sided Relationships - by Submitted on May 28, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsOne of the most beautiful qualities of an intimate relationship is the give and take of energy that occurs between two people. In the best-case scenario, both people share the talking and listening, and the giving and receiving of support, equally. Occasionally, within any relationship, the ...
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