The Problem-Solving Parent- How Parents Teach Independence

Kids differ in nature, maturity, and coordination, but parents can help all kids become more autonomous. The key to independence is attitude, and kids learn attitude from their parents. You are your kids’ role model, and he knows if you have confidence and a optimistic outlook on life. Take time to scrutinize yourself and your performance.

Modeling an optimistic attitude does not mean hiding your true feelings or keeping a continuous grin on your face. Being a role model, however, does involve teaching your kids that the world is naturally good, and that we can work to change what is not good. It is also essential that when you make a mistake, when a task proves to be annoying, or you feel disheartened, you describe those feelings. Talk with your kids about what you can do, and show him how you resolve problems. Kids need to know how to learn from mistakes, cope with failure, and resolve disagreements with friends.

Kids delight in being autonomous, and you can promote this independence with the following tactics suggested by Montessori course.

1. Know your kids’ abilities. Be sure that whatsoever you ask your kids to do is possible at his present level of skill. A new task should present a sensible challenge, not discouraging frustration.

2. Use encouragement. Sit next to your kids and give verbal cues. For example, when putting on their shoes, some kids “forget” to use their hands or fail to even look at their shoes. A verbal reminder to “use your eyes to see what to do next or “try pushing with your hand or foot is well again than doing it for your kids.

3. Get physical. Bend down to your kids’ eye level and make eye contact. This helps him concentrate. Place your hand on top of his to get the movement started for picking up and putting away.

4. Provide assistance. Let your kids know that you’re eager to help but not to do the task for her. Helping should be reliant on your kids making an effort. For example, “If you pick up the red blocks, I’ll pick up the blue ones,” or “One of us can pick up the square blocks and one of us can pick up the rectangles.”

5. Give information instead of orders. For example, “I see that your car is on the floor,” instead of “Go pick up your car,” or “Your jacket goes on the hook,” instead of “Hang up your jacket.”

6. Offer choices, especially if your kids are very strong willed. For example, “You can get dressed before or after you eat breakfast,” or “You can eat with a spoon or your fingers.” Only give options when you can agree to either alternative.

7. Allow your kids to experience the consequences of her actions. Consequences should not be pressured or punishment in disguise, but the natural result of performance. For example, a small toy left on the floor might vanish into the vacuum cleaner, or refusing to put on your shoes might mean absent some outdoor playtime.

Conclusion:
A planned course of action should be plotted by every parent to train his child so he will not feel he is dependent on society, but rather can make his own way, holding his head high and being his own man. In order to achieve this goal there are certain ingredient which are vital.