The Problem-Solving Parent: Boys ''Must'' Be Boys

How often have you heard the cliché "boys will be boys?" In the days when little boys were at home, running around the yard and neighborhood playing cowboys and superheroes and building secret hideouts, we saw the violent and energetic play of boys as a sign of strength, leadership, and future success. There are three major, consistent influences in the life of any child according to Montessori course are biology, relationships, and environment.

Biology
Brain research has discovered that compared to girls, boys normally mature later, are more lively and hostile, and require more physical space. Boys are better at manipulating objects, are more task-oriented, and are more likely to solve problems, but they are less spoken and more apt to have trouble understanding. In addition, boys have complexity identifying the emotions of other people.

Relationships
Mothers have always been expected to provide unconditional love and fostering for their kids and most mothers do just that. However, the mother who works outside the residence may have little time or tolerance with a noisy, troublesome boy at the end of the day. Fathers may have work everyday jobs that require them to be outside the home, or they may be missing from the home entirely. Boys need a strong, male role model to reveal the masculine version of understanding, softness, and strength of character, respect for women, bravery, commitment, and sympathy. This is how a boy becomes a man and, in time, a father to his own kids.

Environment
With most mothers in the work force, boys are spending more time in some kind of early childhood care, which in many ways is geared toward girls. In a child care situation, kids are likely to be compliant, fit into an chosen space, respond properly to verbal directions, convey themselves verbally rather than physically, and desist from rough, noisy, or noisy play when indoors. These limits may work well with most girls, but they cause huge stress for most boys. The result is "behavior problems."

How to Let Boys Be Boys
how can you improve the lives and futures of your sons? Here are some ideas.
• Boys need closeness as much as girls, but boys must learn intimacy; it doesn't always come naturally. Baby boys may not seem to ask as much cuddling as girls, but they still need it. Hold, carry, rock, make eye contact, sing to, and coo with your baby boy as much as possible.
• Teach your boy by showing him how to do things. When putting away his toys, be his colleague and do the task together. Get down to his eye level, take his hand, and direct him. Don't presume he'll react to vocal cues.
• Help your son learn how to convey his feelings in ways that are natural for him. Boys take their time expressing their feelings, sometimes repressing how they feel which leaves them with only one satisfactory emotion i.e. annoyance.
• Boys prefer to take charge and solve problems. Learn how to use the problem-solving approach so you can help your son make the most of his native skills. When there is an argument, ask both kids to think of ideas to resolve the problem. This is called cooperation and helps kids to use their thought processes and verbal skills in place of bodily force.
• Accept your son's level of physical activity. Give him space to run, jump, and wrestle, make noise, and be a boy.
• If your boy is in child care, choose your provider carefully. Search for an affectionate and fostering setting that offers plentiful physical activities when kids are inside as well as outside.

Conclusion:
Times have changed, and nowadays the behavior of boys has become a subject of national anxiety. Boys have a lower sense of confidence than girls, seek to do less in school, have complexity learning to read and write, and are often held back or placed in special education classes.