The mindset “not good enough” or “not enough” is blamed on our brain as if it is the brain’s fault. There’s a great reason why you want to take responsibility for this and not once again blame it on something you think you cannot control. The reason is you are not likely to change what you believe you can’t control. You can change your brain, your perception of how you see life.

“Who do you think you are?” is a phrase often used to attempt to put someone in their place. What place? Who’s to say that we have “a place”? Who’s to say you are not good enough? Who gets to make all of these definitions regarding what we can do, be, and have?

Think about it. You may just be giving your power away to someone who is really insecure and simply hiding out behind the mask of authority, whatever that means. Our brain is wired by our thoughts, feelings, and actions. Here are three truths you need to ponder if you want to create a mindset for success and stop sabotaging your own business and life success:

1. You are not your thoughts.
2. What you do is not who you are.
3. Your “Mental Me” self-image is flexible/changeable.

Number one, your thoughts are passing energy currents in your brain/mind that can ramble on and can even be just something you heard someone else say about you. Your thought is not the gospel truth. The question is will you accept it as true? There’s the True Self and then there is who you think you are, which are very different concepts.

Number two, what you do is an action, an activity, and an experience. When we first learn new skills, we make mistakes. We may not feel confident, but that still has nothing to do with who you are. What you do may reveal character, values, or even who you think you are; yet what you do is not equivalent to who you are. You can evolve your character and values with wisdom. You will free your mind tremendously when you get this one and stop judging your Soul/True Self identity by what you do or have. Your True Self is Core spirit, separate from mental self-image.

Number three, your “Mental Me” self-image is formed in your brain’s areas of autobiographical memory—the story of who you think you are. Since science reveals we are assigning the meaning to what happens to us, isn’t it time to realize we are making up our story line of our lives anyway? It’s not what happens as much as how we interpret what happens. We may as well start creating more happy endings, yes?

So today don’t focus on what is wrong. What did you learn? If you need to practice new skills, do it with joy instead of feeling shame. Now is your life; it’s not tomorrow. When you get “there” it will still be “now.” Start enjoying your life and your work. The quality of your life depends on it—now. What do you think right now?

Author's Bio: 

Valencia Ray, M.D. teaches business owners and corporate leaders how their amazing brain can actually hijack personal power -- not in the abstract, but in the context of integrating business and personal life. Dr. Ray, a board-certified eye surgeon and medical business owner for over 20 years before selling her practice, shares her own life changing process. By sharing her story, she helps others to expand their vision and learn that by living with purpose and confidence, it is possible to have a more integrated, healthier lifestyle – with less struggle, more inner peace and more abundance.

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