Releasing The Old, Welcoming The New

Releasing the old from your life can be the hardest thing to do. Maybe it came to the point that it was necessary, but it can leave a deep suffocating feeling that makes you want to undo the releasing. But know that the pain is only temporary and it is important to mourn the ending of your relationship with the old. Don't just gloss over it. Grieve and give it a proper burial. You are moving on from a part of your life that had played a major role in your life. So it is important that you grieve the passing of the old, so can begin to celebrate the entrance of the new.

To really welcome the new, which is your new life, it is important that you release the old things from your life that no longer serves a purpose. You have learned all the lessons that you needed to learn and now you are making way for the new-ness of life to enter your life. After you have released the old, know that you may not be in a mood to celebrate or feel that there isn't anything to celebrate about. That feeling will intensify and magnify a hundred times when you're involved in a particularly unhappy situation. But as you move through that situation and begin to welcome a new life you will realize that your life is to be always celebrated even during the seemingly bad times.

Recently I had to release someone from my life who was causing a lot of pain and havoc in my life due to their unsupportive behaviour. I have been going through a difficult time for awhile and I was not receiving the proper support from this individual and as a result the situation escalated to the point where my health got substantially worse. I found myself putting aside my pain to focus on this individual’s selfish and unsupportive behaviour. I did not have the strength before to walk away from this individual as I was in a lot of emotional, psychological and physical pain. It took a lot of strength out of me to motivate myself day by day, a lot of crying and I lot of writing in my Journal to release the pain out of my body so that I could get to the point where I had the strength I needed to walk away from this individual. I also realized that maybe the purpose that we had both served in each other’s life had been served and it was now time to go our separate ways. I know that my life is now opening up to new things, people and situations.

So how can you know when you need to release your old life? While each person’s timetable maybe different, the overall feeling is the same. You will begin to feel uncomfortable for no apparent reason. Things that use to appeal to you, now makes you feel miserable and unhappy. The people that you use to love hanging around no longer give you any pleasure or it maybe a single individual. Everything and everyone begins to annoy you. Maybe you are in an intimate relationship. Everything about your partner annoys you. No matter how you may try to work things out you still feel unhappy within yourself. Now all those feelings can make you feel fearful of leaving the very situations or people that makes you unhappy. You know you want something more, but you are afraid of leaving the “comfortable” environment that you have become attached to and use to. Fear of the unknown can make you feel even worse than the situation that you want to get out of. So bad that you may stick with the ‘familiar and uncomfortable” situation that you have become accustomed to. If we don’t find things in our new life to celebrate it is easy to fall back into the old things that had previously made us unhappy.

However, to step into the new life that awaits you have to be willing to leave the old behind and close the door on that chapter of your life. But remember, as you move into your new life, remember to mourn your old. After all, it has been with you for a very long time. As you release the old and welcome the new, it is important to trust that things will work out. This is not about making choices, choosing your life and living with your choices or consequences. That is a very robotic way of living. Instead, it’s about feeling that feeling that comes from so deep within you that it pushes you to make the changes necessary to step into a happy and new life. It means jumping off of a figurative cliff and trust that you will grow wings on the way down. You maybe feeling nervous and unsure of yourself right about now. But be patient, your life is unfolding and even though you may not see them, know that the new is coming to your life. You may want to return to the old life, but hold on and trust the process because it is a process. Your life will not happen overnight. Each day will bring new revelations, new opportunities that you would have missed had you stayed in the old situation.

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