Reaching true potential is easier said than done. We’ve conditioned our brain and mind to trust outside of our self. Once I garnered the courage to color outside the boundaries of what I was informed from those around me to be true, I really began to grow. Here’s the catch: I had to learn to trust myself. It’s amazing for me now to notice just how much we are willing to let science or others dictate to us what works for us and what doesn’t. Actually, there is much trial and error going on, even in science. And then there is perception, meaning that one authority says X and one says Y about the same outcome.

So who to believe? I would believe my own experience before I would research — and, of course, research has its place. It does help the logical mind to process and put tangible structure to the concept. The lesson is to allow space for both, instead of either/or, black or white. We can better own our power, though, if we are willing to:

* Rest and renew our minds.

* Reconnect with our heart to uncover our core values — and recognize that we evolve.

* Reflect on new ideas. Does it fit our current model? Does our model need to evolve? Does it align with our values? Do our values still support and expand our genius, joy, and inner peace?

After all, science can’t even define or explain gravity. Yet it still affects our daily lives. Just because you can’t explain it intellectually doesn’t mean you will not hit the ground hard if you jump off of a tall building. Currently, most people are simply doing what the late psychologist William James said:

“A great many people think they are thinking when they are merely rearranging their prejudices.”

Go ahead, innovate, explore, discover — and in the process grow in self-trust. “Mis-takes,” like a movie director doing retakes, are just a way to learn to do it again. And as you learn, tap into higher qualities of your Self. You may miss the mark on the first try. This is not bad or good. It’s your thinking that makes it so, that assigns meaning.

The heroes and ‘sheroes’ are those who are willing to trust in their inner vision, focus on their vision with passion, and be willing to persevere to cultivate their own unique gifts to the world. This will require leaving the pack, the mindset that promotes doing too much. We need to pay more attention to both sides of our brain, our very Self, make time to reflect, and make time for “re-creation.” Learn to let your “doing” come out of your “being.” The opposite equation is only an illusion. What you do is an experience; it is not who you are. Be YOU, Magnificently! What about you? Are you willing to trust yourself and let go to grow?

Author's Bio: 

Valencia Ray, M.D. teaches business owners and corporate leaders how their amazing brain can actually hijack personal power -- not in the abstract, but in the context of integrating business and personal life. Dr. Ray, a board-certified eye surgeon and medical business owner for over 20 years before selling her practice, shares her own life changing process. By sharing her story, she helps others to expand their vision and learn that by living with purpose and confidence, it is possible to have a more integrated, healthier lifestyle – with less struggle, more inner peace and more abundance.

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