Beyond the professional intervention by marriage counselors, there are other things that you must do to get husband back before things get out of hand. But you must always remember that for your marriage to survive, both you and your husband must have an open mind and work towards a common objective.

Before you even make the attempt to get husband back, it is important that you learn and understand the following critical principles about healthy relationships.

1. There is no such thing as marriage made in heaven

Marriage is not a bed of roses. If you are looking at marriage as your escape from life’s difficulties and challenges, then you will definitely go through a series of frustrations and disappointment in your marriage. Perfect marriage is a complete myth. Don’t expect to have a perfect marriage for you will not end up with one. If you think that you have a perfect marriage, then you are living in absolute fantasy.

You and your husband have different personalities. You don’t see things in the same way. You also have different tastes and preferences. Ultimately, there will be clashes of opinions. Those things cannot be avoided. Conflicts and tensions will always be normal events in marriage, whether you like it or not. The challenge for you is not really on how to avoid them but how to handle them when they happen.

2. Keep an open and healthy communication with your husband

Good communication is essential to your marriage. If you fail in this aspect, then chances are there will be a lot of misunderstandings between you and your husband. You have to be transparent and open. Being direct is not being tactless. There has to be to a clear and open exchange of ideas and sentiments between you and your husband.

3. Belligerence has no place in marriage

If you want to get husband back, you have to keep an open mind. You have to be flexible and be ready to make compromises with your husband. If it means saving your marriage, then by all means relent. However, you have to remember that you can go the distance but will not go to point where you give up your self respect and dignity. Work out a middle ground with your husband. Both of you must be willing to commit and make sacrifices to save the marriage.

4. Marriage is a lifetime commitment

If you subscribe to this principle, then no issue is strong enough to destroy your marriage. To get husband back, you must always remember that you made a lifetime commitment to stay in the marriage. Marriage can be compared to a car. Notwithstanding the regular maintenance that you undertake, there will be instances that it will bog down. This doesn’t mean that you have to dispose of your car the moment it malfunctions. You have to do the necessary repair and learn how to prevent the same problem from happening again in the future.

5. Divorce is your last resort

At times, the situation between you and your husband may have reached its tipping point. Despite your best efforts, nothing seems to be working in your favor. If it has come to a point that damage in your relationship is irreversible, then the best thing to do is to accept what seems to be the inevitable. It is at this point that you will have to accept the reality and consider divorce as your last resort.

Author's Bio: 

“Keep your ring and be Always
Happily Married! It is not only easier; it is what you pledged to and
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Norman Csarni - Founder of Build My Marriage
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