During my live practice as a mediator, I focused on bringing marriages back together instead of helping people get a divorce; approximately 50% of the calls I received were from men. Interestingly, men seemed to be more desperate and at the same time resigned to the reality that their marriage may end. There were two major groups of men who called. One group of men had cheated on their wives and their wives had found out. The other group of men discovered their wives were having an affair. There was also a smaller group of men who had just realized their marriage was falling apart because their wife told them they were going to get a lawyer and file for a divorce.

The situations where a wife was having an affair were very difficult because I only saw couples who both wanted the relationship back. Because a woman comes from the heart when she has an affair it is often too late for her to give her man a second chance. When small children are involved I sometimes reached the extra mile, sometimes successfully.

Men who think we can understand the mind of a woman are deluding themselves. I am not trying to be funny, just a practical. But men, you don’t need to understand them in order to love them and express your love and appreciation. It might be said the needs of a woman are simple and communicating those responses that a woman needs is also a simple. But men forget how they behaved when they courted. They forget to treasure the greatest gift in their lives. They forget to express love and appreciation continually. They forget to remember how sweet their life is when they treat their woman the only way that works. Always remember to tell your wife, “I love you.”

Author's Bio: 

Paul Friedman’s entry into the business of helping couples mend their marriages began with a very rough personal experience with divorce. Paul came out of an early retirement to become a mediator. His belief was that couples could easily work out the details of separation and get on with their lives. He discovered the truth from his clients:they only sought divorce because the help they found to stay together didn't work.

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