Love; How To Find It And Keep It Solid

No matter who you are, how old you are, where you live or what your yearly income you have something in common with everyone else on the planet... we all want to love and be loved.

Not terribly profound, I know, but if it is such a basic need, why do so many people struggle to find love and to keep it when they do find it? What is the secret to finding and keeping love?

Well, believe it or not, it's really not nearly as hard as we make it. It can be boiled down to a few basic concepts. Once you have these concepts understood (and under control) you will not only have a much easier time finding that perfect person for you, you will also have a much better chance at keeping your love alive.

Here are a few points you must understand and accept:

1. If you are flawed you will attract / fall in love with someone else who is flawed. Now, don't get me wrong, none of us are perfect. But I am talking about the deep seated issues that many of us have.

In many cases we aren't even aware of what those issues are, but we can recognize that something is going on.

If you always seem to have "bad luck" it is because of your underlying issues and beliefs and the choices you make because of those beliefs. That's it, whether you believe it or not. Change your underlying feelings and beliefs and you will begin to change your outcome.

It's as simple as that but just because it is simple, doesn't mean it will be easy. Identifying those limiting beliefs will be the first challenge and then learning to let those unhealthy and incorrect beliefs go will be challenge two.

2. Once you are a "whole" person who isn't perfect but have gotten rid of most of your issues, you can find another "whole" person to love. The truth is that most relationships fail because we pick the wrong person. Simple.

Again, we do this because of our own issues and feelings of worthlessness or that we need to be punished for something.

These beliefs can come from anywhere and we all have them. They could be something that got passed down (accidentally) by your parents or something you learned from friends or family.

By going through step one and identifying what issues you have buried... and dealing with them until they are gone, allows you to get rid of all the limiting beliefs that have held you back.

Take away that limiting belief and you can find someone who is worthy of you and someone you can spend a happy lifetime with.

So, don't give up on your hope of finding and keeping love. Just look inward first. Making yourself the best version of you that you can be will actually make it easier for you to find a great love and increase your chances of keeping that love when you do find it.