How to Stop Being a Part of the Lonely Women’s Club

Lonely women can do one of two things to shed the feeling of loneliness: stop complaining about how lonely you are and decide to do something about it. Look around! Everywhere you turn there are people, some may feel lonely walking among crowds of people. You may be experiencing the same thing. Think about where you are in your feelings. Why have you labeled yourself among the lonely women? We all have moments in our lives where we host a pity party.

Why are lonely women bemoaning their state of being alone? Know this, you are here because you have given up and decided to stay lonely. You have made a decision for whatever reason to imprison yourself. It could be that a situation happened, where you went into isolation and before you knew it you were trapped in this jail called loneliness.

You didn’t intend for it to happen but it did. Perhaps you were feeling sad about something, or feeling sorry for yourself, and your solution was to isolate yourself only to find little comfort. How you ended up a part of the lonely women’s club doesn’t matter. You are not alone.

Enough said. You are tired of being one of those lonely women. The first step to change: admit you are lonely and you desire the company of others. Before you began to look elsewhere for company consider this: your thinking goes up and down, controlled by your feelings, but this has gotten you no where. You are off track. You are the victim of wrong thoughts that condemn rather than build you up.

At this point you have a choice: you can keep holding on to what got you in this spot,
or you can begin to take charge by not ignoring people around you when you are out and about; look at them; connect with a smile, or do some act of kindness. Be aware of their presence. Start looking for opportunities to serve others. Get out of the house. The power is in your hands to stop being a part of the lonely women’s club. Speak to people whether they speak or not. Do something kind for your neighbors. Call family whom you haven’t spoken to for awhile on a weekly basis. Write notes to friends, family, and even neighbors.

Imagine what would happen if you applied the choices given above, and conducted yourself the way God instructs: “Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you’." (Hebrews 13:5)

This is something to think about, that you may not have physical company but you have the company of the one you can’t see every day, any time, but He is with you. Lonely women suffer because they focus on what they don’t have compared to others, rather than taken the lead to make something happen.

You can lead an exciting, action filled life.

25 Ways I keep My Life Exciting:

1. Shopping for perfumes, lipsticks, etc.
2. Bubble Bath
3. Bible Devotionals/Meditation
4. Listening to music
5. Date Thursday with hubby
6. Take walks
7. Learn something new everyday
8. Cuddle up in recliner with a book
9. Journal thoughts daily
10. Shop for bargains on books for personal library
11. Try new recipes
12. Sight seeing in local community
13. Play card games with family
14. Collect unusual nicknacks
15. Send cards or notes to family and friends
16. Make friends
17. Try different hairstyles
18. Thrift store shopping
19. Gardening
20. Read book from personal library
21. Try different styles of dress
22. Look for ways to serve others
23. Keeping in touch with friends and children
24. Baking treats for grandchildren
25. Watching classic movies