Self esteem are the set of values we place on our own personality. We can also see it as the mixture of capabilities we want to display to the world out there: family, friends, colleagues, and clients. But self worth also is the means with which we present ourselves to ourselves.
Self worth is the series of tales we tell ourselves about ourselves. And it is via those stories that we either manage to achieve our goals, or get stumped in a rut and flop to achieve our ambitions.


It is regularly said by many therapists that it's crucial for us to keep telling ourselves constructive tales about who we are. Affirmations during the morning shower, or while brushing your teeth, are regularly introduced as the finest way of upping your self-worth with your perceptions of yourself.

However, does that truly work?
 I don't think that. 
As long as we don't feel it, at the deepest level of our being, speaking with yourself in the mirror is not really going to change anything. At best it's like air brushing a very thin quantity of gold on top of a corroded piece of metal. The steel will continue to oxidize, and finally fall apart.

If a lack of self-worth is keeping you from really being all you might be, it is of paramount significance that you check out these perceptions which you carry about yourself. Where do they come from? What occurrences in the past (maybe as a boy or girl) help you to doubt your self worth nowadays? Which patterns in your life support such thoughts?

To gain these necessary insights will help you get means of bettering your self esteem from the source, and deal with the corrosion at the place where it's occurring. Every person contain a great piece of gold deep inside, kept in our soul, our "divine spark".

The most effective ways of making that gold come to the surface are by way of a long and fascinating journey through your own life. It can be a voyage best made with what I call "real friends": books, meditation, maybe even a counselor, long walks in nature.
It is only through tapping into your core morals that a person can find their true calling, their true character, their true identity and their particular true being. And once you're ready to tap into that, self confidence comes to the fore in an organic way.


Author's Bio: 

Aernout Zevenbergen is a journalist, author, speaker and counselor. His main fields of interest are men, masculinity and spirituality. His book "Spots of a leopard - on being a man" is available through all major bookshops.