It is in our nature as a woman to want to feel cherished by the man we love. We want to be wooed and pursued, to be made to feel special, adored and to be treated like a princess. The question is how far would a man be inspired to satisfy our primal needs as a woman?

He's Really That Into You, If Only You Knew How to Inspire Him to Pursue You

Women in general tend to cling especially to people/things we cherish that are receding from us. It's our survival instinct at work because we have the innate fear of abandonment. However reacting on instinct rarely works. It only hastens the disappearance of our object of desire and affection.

We want a man who courts us, who shows consistency and interest toward us, who shows up as a man throughout the dating process. Often though women don't inspire that desire in a man through our over eagerness and over functioning. We often are taking over his role and become the man in relationship and of course that leaves us unsatisfied and uncherished.

The reason why one shouldn't be more invested than the other in relationship is it will create imbalance and dynamics that isn't healthy in relationship in which one becomes more clingy and the other looks down on him/her because he/she is put on the pedestal. Pushing and pulling by both parties are the natural part of all relationships in any stage to bring it to equilibrium in which both parties can maintain a semblance of equal interest in the relationship and each other in the long run. We all want to be in relationship with our "equals," i.e. we are as attracted and interested in them as they are with us.

Bottom line is men deep down really want and respond to women who "play hard to get" because it triggers their hunting instinct. They realize they need to work for our devotion or someone better will snatch that away from him. A woman who understands this will be in an "equal" relationship with a man of her dreams.

So if you feel that you are in the position that you are way more invested than your man, act quick to reverse the situation and get your relationship back to equilibrium in which both parties are as attracted and interested in the other and the longevity of the relationship.

How can a woman do that?

The Timeless Art Of Conquering A Man's Heart

Increase your level of difficulty. Playing hard to get is hard to do when you don't have options on how to live your life when you are not with him. When you rely on him as the only source of your emotional fulfillment and happiness, you are putting yourself in the "one-down" position while you are putting him on a pedestal from which he looks down on you with resentment or pity, or guilt at best.

It is a situation no woman would ever want to find herself in.

One of the problems a lot of women face that put themselves in this "one-down" position is the fact that there are so many emotionally unavailable men out there. Most of my female clients are facing this hurdle and it's very heart-breaking when you find yourself deeply invested in one of these men.

I wrote this guide on how to deal with this situation:

Falling For Mr. Unavailable? Follow These Rules

To learn further about what compels a man to be close to a woman and claim her before any other man will, check this link below:

Seven Traits of A High Value Woman That A Man Needs to Commit

Author's Bio: 

This article is one of the breakup series I write. Please check my author page for more articles on the subejct or join me in my ex-back support group and relationship forum for more tips on how to deal with your breakup and how to get yourself on the path of getting your love and your life back. Please also follow me on facebook: for my daily nuggets of reflections/insights/advice and tips on attracting and maintaining a lasting relationship and fixing a broken one.

Katarina Phang is an author, love/life coach specializing on reuniting couples and curing troubled relationship. She founded a free ex-back support group and relationship forum