Have you ever been in an activity where you gave it all you have, and then felt disappointed, depressed or let down when it ended? It could be a show that you were in. A championship game if you were in sports, or maybe you were the organizer of the office holiday party, which kept you busy and excited for two months.

In order to understand this, I have divided the events into three stages. First, there is the preparation stage, then the performance stage, then the aftermath.

When you are in the preparation stage you prepare for the event. You can experience excitement, nervousness, overwhelm, determination and drive. Often you devote so much time to practice and organizing that other things in your life get neglected. You have a sense of purpose in your life. For example, if you are in a show your purpose is to give everyone the best performance that you can. If it is a championship game you want to beat the opposition and bring honor to your school, town or city. Both the actor and the athlete look forward to the applause they hope to hear.

Perhaps ironically you also have a voice in your head that keeps you company. The voice reminds you that it's time to practice, or that you need to improve something in your game or presentation. It guides you through the preparation phase.

Anxiety and excitement are closely related emotions. Many actors and athletes have shared that when they were ready to take the field or the stage they felt nervous. This is a fear of making a mistake, but it is also contained excitement that the big moment is imminent.

Then there is the actual performance stage. During the game or the show the performer often becomes ecstatic. All sense of time goes away and they have no awareness of anything outside of what they are doing. It is a great feeling.

After the performance the performer continues to feel good for the rest of the day or night. However, when they awake the next morning they often feel depressed. Newlywed brides have described feeling a letdown after their wedding that has lasted from a week to several months in some cases. For one day they had all the attention and everything they like presented to them. Then it's over. For performers they no longer have their goal to strive for, the voice keeping them company, and they can't look forward to the event any more..

What do you do to avoid the letdown? It is helpful to spend a good chunk of time looking at pictures and reminiscing with people whom you did it with. You can do this often for the first few days and you will find that you need to do it less as the days go by. Call old friends whom you may not have seen for a while, spend time with your family if you neglected them, and do activities that make you feel good. You will realize that you have many ways to feel good and one event is not the only thing.

This article is a great recourse for people who perform in shows, play sports, or tend to get so involved in an activity so that it is a letdown when it's over. There are good practical tips for helping yourself avoid the letdown. Parents who have children with this problem will benefit from learning how to help your children avoid a letdown. To learn more about healing from a good or bad memory go to my website www.phenomenalmemory.com

Author's Bio: 

Frank Healy is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Life Coach. He is one of about 50 people who have been classified as having Hyperthymesia by the University of California. Frank participated in their reserch studies because he remembers every day of his life since he was six years old. He is now 53. His memory of each day includes the day of the week, the weather in his locale, news events and personal experiences. Recalling so much in his life had it's advantages and disadvantages. The advantages include recall of every happy experience he had with friends, family, school, and his wife. The corollary of that is that he remembers all of the negative things. Bad days at work and school, slights from people, bad days at jobs, romantic breakups etc. Before he began his own journey he would recall bad memories with the same emotional intensity as if he was experiencing it now. He had learn to let go of the feelings. He now counsels and coaches people to heal from the ill affects of their own traumatic and unpleasant memories. This can help people be happier and move on to a successful present and future.

Frank lives with his wife in Dennisville, New Jersey. He is in private practice at Associates For Life Enhancement in Northfield, New Jersey. Frank enjoys going to the beach, reading, writing, playing quizzo with friends (It's a trivia game) and playing ball wth his grandsons.