We all come to make decisions in different ways. Some people pass judgment very quickly. There are others who are black/white thinkers and see things as two distinct and polar extremes. Some people seek perfection, who mourn the loss of anything that happens in their world that doesn't align with their idea of perfectionism. Of course, we can't forget those individuals who "should" all over people, as in "you should do this, you shouldn't do that".

Some of the most critical communication errors are made when absolute vocabulary choices are made such as: most, least or just; all, every or none; best, worst; always, forever, never.

Rather than using words that create defensiveness in another because they create the absolute situation. Better word choices might include: some, may, might, seems, can, could, probably, almost.

Learning how to communicate assertively is one of life's most challenging and difficult tasks as a human being. It is one of the few things in life that is totally necessary in order to develop, sustain and maintain a relationship.

Those who struggle with good anger management often describe their communication as problematic and if they don't, it is easily identified as such by a qualified professional. While most people will never "unlearn" a communication pattern that is problematic, they can certainly learn a new approach to supersede an existing way that caused problems.

How does a person gain new and improved skils in communication? Despite what you might think, anger management can be learned by taking an anger management class. These classes can be taken online or in person, depending on what your preference may be. Get out of the nightmare of being an absolutist! Get help for anger management and gain good communication skills before it's too late.

Author's Bio: 

Ari Novick, Ph.D. is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified anger management provider for both adults and adolescents. Dr. Novick is also an adjunct professor of psychology at Pepperdine University's Graduate School of Education and Psychology.

He is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified anger management provider for both adults and adolescents.

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