For the days you feel blah...

There are those days when you wake up, you open your eyes and you feel like you don't have a clue of what you are doing.
Anyone knows what I'm talking about?

You lie in bed, staring at nothing, not knowing why on earth you woke up in the first place. It's called being human. No matter how successful you are, how great you are at mindset, anyone who says they have never had a day like that is simply lying!

Doubting yourself, having fears and questioning what you are doing is all part of our growth. Some people are better than others at moving past it and yes! We can all learn to reflect on our thoughts then move forward.

Nonetheless, when you get those mornings, it still sucks! Today it was one of those for me. Yes! You heard it right! Miss Kick-Ass Attitude having doubts? Not feeling 100%??

This is what I call honesty and transparency guys. The difference is that I am able to do that reflection in a much quicker time. I simply wanted to share it with you and let you know that it's ok to have a ' blah' morning or few hours. It actually helps you slow down and look at what you are doing. Sometimes we get so wrapped up into our daily lives that we go weeks and months without stopping to evaluate where we are going.

In the past it would have taken me a few days to get back to normal, now it’s just a couple of hours! I feel blah… I reflect on it. Then I give myself a kick-up the butt! To keep on moving.

Now I think of the rest of the world. Those who don't have the same mindset, those who are where I was before I found personal development. And if there is one thing I encourage everyone to do is to make personal development part of your life and share it with your friends and those who need it.

I remember when I was younger and I had this friend who was a really close friend, but we grew apart once I started developing a new mindset. We used to hang out a lot but not really do much. Then I started to grow and wanting to do more in life, go places, see things but all she wanted to do was sit in a couch in front of the box.

I remember going round to her place to watch movies but I wanted to do more, go out, and explore the city. But she became a couch potato always saying she was tired, that she just wanted to watch TV or rest cuz she had a long day at work.

Our other friends were more onboard with me, so we had to let her be which is a pity. Slowly we drifted apart and have not seen her in years.

When you are ready to move on in life, to do new things, and your friends don't approve or don't want to come onboard or support you… guess what…. time for new friends!!!

Friends and family will not live your life…. they will not pay for your trips, your dreams, your goals or what you want to do in life. So why would you allow them to slow you down?

As you’ve heard me say before, what you've done up until now, has gotten you where you are today. For things to change, you have to change. You have to let people go. Your life should be about finding what you are good at, becoming one of the best at it, then inspiring the world with your gift.

We are going to be dead a lot longer than we are alive, so wasting time in the little things it's simply not worth it. It is our right to be outstanding, to be extraordinary, to be the best we possibly can be, to be the leaders that inspire the generations to come, to be those who people say ' WOW, they did change my life' … because if you don't have a purpose or passion in life, you will never truly feel fulfilled.

Have I accomplished everything I want in life? Heck no!! And that's what drives me forward! You need to keep adding dreams and goals as part of your purpose so that you never stop.

It doesn't mean that you cannot have fun! It is incorporated into our life.

Surround yourself with those who are already doing what you want to do and get inspired by them. I still get some 'acquaintances' (I no longer call them friends), who still don't understand what I do or the first thing that they say is ' why don't you get a proper job? or ' are you still doing that little thing you were talking about? '

I simply smile, nod and don't even bother answering anymore because it is negative energy. In life there are two types of people. Those who hope and wish and those who actually do.

Those who simply hope and wish tend to never amount to much because they are not action takers. They are wishing for thin air to turn into gold. They make excuses and keep hoping and wishing.

I used to be one of them! Always hoping… always wishing…. until I realized that it didn't work without me taking action. You may fall flat on your face and make a fool of yourself when doing new ventures. But I rather fall a million times and get up a million and one, than just wish a million times.

And I see this all the time. I still have a few friends I talk to, that I kind of gave up on pushing them, because I got tired of the hopes and wishes. There are only so many times you can say to someone ' Take action! Stop feeling sorry for yourself' or tell them ' it will be ok' when the answer are always the same.

I no longer listen to the moaning over and over and over again. And I am very straightforward. I have told a few friends this is the last time I want to hear about this… you better make it a good moan, cuz this is it! You either move forward or I simply don't want to hear about it! What happens in life is that people become enablers without even realizing it.

And again, all of this is from personal experience! I have been one of those! As it is easier to say ' it will be ok, don't worry, keep wishing, there is always hope.' instead of being straightforward and honest with people.

Now, I go for honesty and transparency, and if you don't like it, then you don't have to listen. It's called constructive criticism and we should all be able to take it and grow from it. The challenge is that there are too many wimps out there who start crying the minute you call out a few truths.

' Poor little me.. Why are you so mean to me..' ' Poor little me… t's my parents…. ' … ' Poor little me…. you just don't get it…'

I've use all those excuses in the past, so there is nothing anyone can say that I haven't used before. But bottom line is, that no matter what people say to you, it will always be within you to stop feeling sorry for yourself and move forward.

Who has heard the saying.. ' If only you could see life the way I see it… If only you could have lived what I have lived through… ' We learn and grow from everything we have gone through...

I didn't have the best childhood in the world; in between 17 and 21 I saw and did things I never thought I would. A few years later I ended up sleeping in the streets because I couldn't even afford to go home at night. I've been beaten up, I've had black eyes, I've been put in hospital, I've had a broken arm from dealing with people I shouldn't, I had a good friend let me sleep in the park in the rain cuz he was too selfish to let me sleep in the couch when I was in trouble and much more that right now it's not relevant to share.

So when I have friends that I know have it easy and make excuses, I sometimes want to tell them, ' live what I lived through, then you might stop making excuses'.

Even when I got laid off, I never took a dime from the government. I couldn't even tell you what the steps are to claim benefits or where to go, cuz it was never an option for me. We all make choices that get us where we are today. All we have to do is find solutions. It is ok to ask for help, but don't play victim, don't abuse the system. Detach yourself from the negativity and learn from each experience you go through

Even at my worst moments in life, I knew things would get better, because I have me, I am in charge of me, and no one else is.

Look at the Paralympics as an example. They are driven no matter their challenges. And a lot of them have more drive and determination than we do. Their courage and thirst for life should be an example of how petty we can be sometimes. We moan about the little things in life when what matters is inside of us.

I will never forget the time a homeless guy came up to me and asked if I was ok. He was asking me!! It was one of the first nights I had slept in the streets. Of course I did not look like a homeless person. I was well groomed, I had a little suitcase with me, I was sitting on top of it, but it was really cold and I hadn't slept in 48 hours. I was shivering and I was a bit pale, when this guy came and asked if I was ok, he said I looked cold. That night changed my life. It made me reflect on everything I was doing, the situation I was in and for someone in a worse situation than me, to come and ask if I was ok, blew me away. That night even the street pastors (guys who make sure young people are ok in the streets) came to me asking if I was ok and if I needed a place to go. I remember feeling soooo ashamed that I was sleeping in the streets that I made up and excuse saying how I had missed my last train home and the next one was at 6am and that I was ok.

Made me realize it’s not about what we've got, but how we react to what you have. I look around and have all this little possessions that mean nothing. When you are in the street it's only what you can carry that matters.

We need to learn to be more humble, to serve others, to stop buying things we don't need and think of those who are less fortunate than us, because trust me, anyone could be on the streets, you never know what may happen in the future which is why you have to make the most out of today. Create your own economy, your own survival kit.

Life will throw you a lot of temptations, you will relapse, you will make decisions that are not the right ones, and that is ok! As long as you learn from them and grow from it.

I am quite reserved and don't share much, but I love to help others, I love the feeling you get when someone else says thank you, when someone looks at you and says you are an inspiration. That type of feedback is worth more than any money in the world.

But we need money to live in this world, so we need to find our passion, put value on it and make our lifestyle around it.

So here is my recommendation:

No matter what happens in life, how bad you think things are, remember that there is always someone else worse than you, and that it is within you to move on, to have the mindset and believe system that you will prevail, that you are worth every penny in this world and you are a truly amazing and inspiring human being.

Even if you don't believe it, I will believe it for you. I will help you find your passion.

Life is too short to regret, to hate and hold grudges. Enjoy the beautiful life you were given, the wonderful opportunity to change someone else's life. To inspire someone else be the best they possibly can be.