We all fall hard, difference is some people know how to handle the end of relationship better than others. It's not the depth of the falling-in-love that hurts the most but the height of the expectations. The higher your expectation is, the more you hurt when it ends.

And we all learn from how destructive expectations are the hard way. We just are realizing now that you have no control over other people's free wills. None whatsoever. The sooner you accept it, the faster you get to freedom. It's the ultimate liberation from all forms or neediness and the need to be in control which always leads to suffering.

Is He Pulling Away? Bring Him Back From The Brink

A lot of women go into relationship thinking the men will complete them. No man can do that for any woman. He will need two sets of brains -and balls- for that. You must complete yourself. The best he can do is to complement you as great partnership should be all about complementing each other. Aim high but keep your feet on the ground. You need both optimism and faith that everything will work for you in the end, yet a dose of realism won't hurt.

Realize that the less eager in the relationship will set its pace. Most men are slower than women in that regard so let him set the pace. You being too eager will cause him to withdraw further. The less you pressure, the faster it moves. It takes a lot of patience and self-mastery not to get frustrated, that's why you need to date several men at the same time.

When women feel adored, we'll release oxytocin that reduces our stress level and increase our well-being and as a result we will be less needy, more upbeat, positive and relaxed. You do whatever it takes to give yourself the priority. You will learn about self-love through dating around.

If you stop focusing on the other person on what you want him to do to make you happy, you will focus on your own efforts to start building your own happiness. That feels much more empowering and will make you a much more attractive person to be around, and your self-esteem will soar too in the process. What you focus on expands.

Men are simple when you know which button(s) to push and not to push, so don't waste time, claim the heart of the man that you adore and make him want to commit: What Is A High-Value Woman And How To Become One So He Can't Resist Committing To You? 

Finally, the good news is there is A SYSTEM you can easily follow that shows you how to push his: "Emotional Hot Buttons" to get him back & FOR GOOD!


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This article is one of the breakup series I write. Please check my author page for more articles on the subejct or join me in my ex-back support group and relationship forum for more tips on how to deal with your breakup and how to get yourself on the path of getting your love and your life back. Please also follow me on facebook: http://www.facebook.com/katarina.phang for my daily nuggets of reflections/insights/advice and tips on attracting and maintaining a lasting relationship and fixing a broken one.

Katarina Phang is an author, love/life coach specializing on reuniting couples and curing troubled relationship. She is finishing her 4th book, a self-help book/memoir on her experience of dealing with breakup and how to get on the reconciliation path. She founds a free ex-back support group and relationship forum http://gettheloveyoudeserve.info.