Dear Dr. Romance:

I am new to the entire single scene. Recently I met someone and after a couple of dates, he started to email me with a lot of sexual inquires. I ignored some of it and sometimes I would put a little tease in the reply.

When he started getting more vulgar I want this and I want to do this...I emailed him back and told him I was very uncomfortable and wanted to take time to get to know him better.

From a phone call every other day to a dead end. I am thankful to weed this one out of my future potential partners.

Dear Reader:

I'm so glad you got rid of him, and I hope you learned to do it quicker. When a guy doesn't respect you in the first few dates, he never will.  We all hate to be unkind, but when you encounter someone who does not honor the social contract of respect and politeness, sometimes being blunt is the only option.    "You Be The Judge"  will help you understand that using your judgment is a good thing.  "How to Avoid Loving a Jerk"  shows you the signs of emotional blackmail to watch out for.  There's no point in wasting time with a guy who won't respect or care for you.

Dr. Romance's Guide to Finding Love Today will help you find a more reliable and loving guy.


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Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.