***Controlling Pain That You Feel

The issue of pain as it exists within in our minds – either consciously or subconsciously – and in our body seems to be a fact of our existences as thinking, feeling and living creatures on this physical plane of existence. It is one of the objective conditions which tend to define us as human beings, in fact, and some types of pain are a needed adjunct in the process of growth.

And it is in learning about controlling pain that you feel that you can do the most for your personal growth, both psychically and spiritually. Throughout the ages, the body of knowledge about pain control has been added to in a gradual fashion through experimentation and observation until we can say with certainty that there really are things a person can do to control feelings of pain.
The first thing people need to do when seeking to deal with and control their pain is to be honest with themselves about why the feel pain of mental or even physical origins. They have to ask themselves why they feel separateness, which is probably the single largest contributor to inner pain. In order to succeed, they’ll need to take stock of their lives on a physical, emotional, psychic (or mental) and spiritual level.

Believe that all those inner longings and whisperings going on are there to inform you of this need to take stock, and then being to remove the mask that’s been constructed that hides away and nurtures all the pain. This first of all requires that some time be found that can best be described as “me” time. Normally 2 to 3 hours will work well in at least laying the foundation for future activity. It’s always helpful to prepare music that’s a personal favorite and to have it playing softly in the background.

Additionally, prepare or obtain a favorite food or range of foods. Make this session something that will be enjoyable on physical and emotional levels. You might also want to have something like a favorite DVD or indulge in a guilty pleasure such as a really nice bubble bath. All of these actions help to relax a person so that barriers and masks can be dropped and true pain can be spoken of to one’s self and to trustworthy others, such as a loved one or a significant partner such as a spouse, for instance.

For people who aren’t yet comfortable in expressing themselves to others in such a fashion just yet, things like a diary or journal or log – in which innermost thoughts and feelings and hurts and pride and all the things that have been bottled up within us – can be quite helpful. It is recommended, at least initially, that anything written down be done so in the form of a story told in the third person. An example would be “There was once a little boy who felt betrayed…”

These storytelling sessions can be a highly effective way to deal with pain, yet deal with it through allegory, which is the representation of an abstract or spiritual meaning through a material form like a story. Be sure to explore the pain, embrace it, examine it and decide what the pain is and isn’t and how it can be dealt with effectively. It might be helpful to think of this process as an initially-painful lancing of a festering boil.

It is after the writing session (or the telling session if being done with another) that the treat of good food, music or enjoyable “guilty” pleasure can be doled out. Once these sessions become habit, it becomes much easier to surrender or give away, for good, that pain. Use light meditative techniques – which are very easily learned in just a few minutes and will become more effective with time and practice – to help in this surrender.

Things like the ‘candle of pain’ technique and practicing physical binding of pain that’s been written down on paper and then planning on entering dream states that night of sleep, in which the pain will finally be dreamt away, can do wonders. Learning that pain emanates, at heart, from spiritual separation from love and a higher Supreme Being or consciousness is the single best thing we can do to wrap it all up and deal with that pain.