What’s It Going To Take?

“What did they do to deserve that kind of success?” folks
often ask about celebrities while watching TV or browsing
the magazine stands.

Not you… but other folks.

“They haven’t earned it, so they must simply be lucky.”

That’s kind of how it is, isn’t it? People have either done enough
to justify their success (according to our standards), or they just
got lucky.

Which kind of confines us to the same fate: To have what we
want, we are either going to have to get lucky (which we are
pretty sure we won’t do), or we are going to have to justify
achieving it by…

Hmmm… by what…?

What do you have to do – or be – to justify the success/
abundance you desire?

Here’s the deal – whatever that magic equation is in your belief
system, that’s what it is going to take.

People will tell you all kinds of things that you need to do:

“You have to work 80 hours a week!” (yikes!)

“You have to be born into it!” (rats!)

“You have to cheat!” (hmmm…do I have to?)

And so on and so forth – a long list of either unappealing or
even undoable requirements that leave us discouraged. Or
have us subjecting ourselves to painful ordeals.

We’ve been overly (and often mistakenly) programmed with
lists of such requirements – by well-meaning parents, friends,
teachers – even self-improvement gurus.

Where do they come up with these? Well, it’s usually what they
were told. And either they’ve been able to prove it through personal
experience – doing these things to justify their circumstances –
or they feel they’ve proved it by not doing these things, and thus
justifying their lack of what they say they would have wanted
if it were attainable.

The person who has worked 80 hours a week to achieve their
wealth will insist that such labor is necessary to justify that
kind of wealth. Because if they didn’t, how would they justify
that kind of labor – and the personal sacrifice it entails?

This is in spite of the evidence that there are plenty of people
with greater wealth working fewer hours. But the workaholic
will argue that something is fishy there. They have to. The
alternative – that they didn’t have to sacrifice so much - is too
threatening.

We may find ourselves requiring the same effort of ourselves
so as not to upset them. We want them to agree that our success
is justified.

So – what do you believe it will take? And are you doing it and
getting the results you want?

If you’re not doing it, you may not really want the goal. Fear
of success, maybe…?

If you are doing it and not getting what you want, you probably
don’t really believe that your actions justify the successful
attainment of the goal. There is likely an internal belief of
“It can’t be this easy.” If you say so.

This is not merely the case with being successful in one’s career.
I see it in the healing process as well. There is certainly a lot of
“It can’t be this easy” that shows up with EFT – at least upon
initial introduction. Especially if the person has spent years doing
other kinds of therapy, and feels a need (understandably) to justify
the previous expense of time and money.

A good percentage of potential clients ask me the million dollar
Question (and I don’t blame anyone for doing so): “How many
sessions will it take?” (Even when they haven’t defined a
quantifiable end result).

As I considered writing this article, it occurred to me that I might
start answering that question with, “Well – you tell me. How
many sessions will you have to do to justify the positive change
you desire?”

Funny thing is – at some level, the answer is probably in there.
And if the fear of success is great enough, the correct answer
migth be, “One more than I’ll be willing to do.”

Maybe we might define a miracle as some result that can’t be
otherwise justified…

We are pure energy. Seemingly unbelievable changes – in
character traits or financial status or anything – can occur in
the blink of an eye. We just don’t allow that unless we can
justify it as a reasonable occurrence according to our beliefs.

Fortunately, our beliefs aren’t as unchangeable as we might think.

Maybe we don’t need to do more in order to achieve success –
all we need to do is question how much is necessary to justify
success in our own minds, and reduce the requirement.

What if you could justify rapid change because it is possible
and has happened for others?

What if you could justify easy abundance simply because
abundance is all around, waiting to be experienced?

What if you looked at someone who has what you want, and
seems to have gotten it in an appealingly doable way, and rather
than labeling them as lucky you said, “Hmmm… maybe they
know something I don’t… I could probably do that.”…?

Could it really be that easy…? If you say so.