When you are at peace with having a baby or not having a baby, then what will be, will be. You will either have one (as you were supposed to) or you will not have one (as it was not meant to be). Accept the fact that God has a plan for your life, which may not include children. If you don’t believe in a higher power, then call it destiny or fate that has a different plan than you do. Your plan for life may not be the best for you in the eyes of God. You may be on a destructive path, one that is not healthy for you or one that is leading you in a different direction than what is best for you. Trust in God or a higher power to lead you in the steps you need to take to get where you were meant to be and do what you were meant to do. For some people, this does not include children. Or it may not include biological children. God may have a child in his mind for you that is not one you birth--one that needs you more than one you would have bore.

Rid yourself of the anger, worry, guilt, unhappiness, sorrow, sadness, or any other negative feeling you may be having. When you do that, all that will remain is what is—and then God will show himself and you can make a clear decision in your life.

All worry does is waste energy that you could be using to live life. God did not design life for you to control every aspect of it. You can’t change anything anyways. It is hard for humans to accept that they do not control everything around them or in their environment. But, it is impossible. Would you really want to control everything anyways? Think about it. If you controlled everything, when would you have time to do what you wanted to do such as share a cup of coffee with a friend, have a date with your spouse, or go for a walk on a nice sunny day?

Babies are the greatest gifts from God. He entrusts you with His children and His legacy. It is a great honor to be a parent. Unfortunately, too many people take this for granted and never reflect on their precious children. It is only when you cannot have something that you realize how precious that something is when you do get it. It is like losing your car or house when before you took it for granted that you would always have one. Nothing in life is a given. Everything should be appreciated for what it is—a gift that is given to you for a certain period of time but can be taken away at any moment (even children).

I believe if we as humans lived more like everything was temporary, then we would be a kinder, gentler creature and appreciate every moment that passes. Too many people live for the future—a future that has no guarantees that it even exists. Nothing will be better in the future. Nothing will change. Life will not be more magical or greater. Only in this moment will the future change. Only in this moment will things change. Only today will life be magical and greater if you choose to make it so.

Babies enter our lives when God has deemed it time for them to enter our lives. They give us something that we need at that moment in our lives when nothing else or no one else can—and this something is different for each of us. It may be security, comfort, a need to settle down, a different direction in life, etc. They give us that which we need in order to progress our lives on this Earth.

At the same time, we have the Free Will, (earned in the Garden of Eden when Eve chose to eat the apple) to determine when to bring a child into our lives. Life is not about waiting for things to happen. Life is about making things happen now, in this moment, since there is no guarantee of a future.

As long as one understands the transitory quality to life, the gift that life is, and the fact that you only have now, you will experience peace in your life. Then babies will arrive when they arrive and you will be ready. Accept it for what it is and move on with your moments. What else can you do?

Author's Bio: 

By: Jennifer Dionne. Her website is www.loveofparenting.com, a comprehensive view of pregnancy and parenting. She is a stay-at-home mom who is passionate about helping other moms through the challenges of motherhood. If you are interested in more of her writings, ideas, and philosophies, her book “How to Have a Baby Your Way” (which is available through her website) will provide comprehensive information on preparing for a baby.