Mirroring

A weekend just past and the first client of day completed, and my head turns to a technique known as mirroring.
Funny, as I work with clients to bring out the talent within them, I find myself asking questions that I am, in part, asking of myself. It is true that we see ourselves in others. In coaching, we attract clients that are in a similar space to where we are at.
There is a great piece of prose "Man/Woman in the Mirror" that I like to hear. If anyone needs a good reminder, search it on the internet, it is readily searchable and is a classic.
For years, when working with people who say that want to start a journey to a new and more abundant life, I know from my personal experience that there is a real anchor point that must be accomplished to move forward. Very few reach a point where they really want change that have their self-esteem in tact, or are honest with themselves. One of the greatest teaching tools available is something we all have or have access to.... a mirror. When you look yourself in the eye, you see who is really there, and it is difficult to lie to that person.
Within all of us there is good. Often, we have lost sight of this. I am a believer in the power of affirmations, and the mirror as the best place to do them.
Lost sight of the good in you?
Ask the one or two people in your life who care about you what the good in you is that they see. Write these qualities on a piece of paper, and every morning, look yourself in the eye, and say "I am.......” It's shocking; this simple action in conjunction with other "recovery" and life balance steps really works. Over a short period of time you will realise that there is truth in the affirming statements. An anchor, a start point! Progress.
In what I ask others, or in times when I am critical, I look in a mirror. Frequently in my feelings or questions to and about others, I see inside of myself.
With a client this morning, we agreed that he must allocate specific hours each week to work solely on him, his own feelings about himself. If he doesn't take care of himself and grow, he will not reach forward with enthusiasm to reach his stated goals. Upon reflection, I see this to have relevance in my own life!
And it goes on. Too often if I find myself being negative about people, places or things, it is a reflection on where I'm at, and I am glad that most of the time I realise that in myself and take action.
This is just another form of mirroring.
As I move forward into a new week, I am going to treat the mirror as my teacher, and look for mirroring in my actions and deeds. I've got a lot of positive things to get done, and I will try to stay out of my own way and allow things to get done. I have the tools and a source of power at my disposal.
I appreciate the opportunities that weekend reflection and coaching others give me. I am glad to be reminder consciously of the importance of mirroring!