Finding the Light

Times are changing and with these changes life is throwing a lot of curve balls that make you feel like your personal world is ending. It is not. But you must also be able to find the light and lesson in your current situation.

Below are the first few steps that you can take to try to get your life on track again regardless of how disastrous it feels right now.

First find your peace. Really set boundaries with people and filter out the toxic relationships you have. Tell people they can't treat you a certain way and move on if they continue to do so. You cannot have inner peace if your outer life is filled with chaos. You, and only you, have the power to control it. But realize that all you can control is yourself and your reactions. Trying to change and control others is futile and a big waste of emotional energy.

Focus on the moment. Do the best you can to really spend some time in the now. This can be for 5 seconds or 5 minutes. Reduce the time you spend in the past or future. This is easier said than done I know. Avoid "future tripping" and having imaginary arguments with others in your mind. These not only create unnecessary emotions but also takes a physical toll on your body. You will be left emotional and physically depleted for what? No one else heard you. Instead look at living things. Find something beautiful. Recognize things, as they happen, that you are grateful for. When you feel yourself freaking out just go outside and look at a tree or pet your cat and just focus on that. This will help you find peace.

Listen to your inner voice. This is extremely important as you are being guided right now but you have to know it. It will tell you what you need to do to make yourself feel better and be in a better place. With listening comes trust. Once you hear it you must to listen to it without doubt. It has your higher good at heart and will not let you fall.

Trust and doubt. These are small words but biggies. You need to trust your heart and intuition and really stomp out the doubt that comes from your mind. You mind is your biggest enemy right now. Just try to separate what thoughts are coming from your mind and which ones are coming from your heart. You mind will keep you attached to the illusion because it likes it here. Your mind is nothing but a computer that replays programs installed by your parents, friends, bullies, naysayers. The thing is we all forget that we are the administrator of the computer but we continue to allow idiots log on and install viruses. All those "what if's" "But I can't" thoughts are doubt and useless to you. So shut your mind off for a few minutes a day and try to open your heart and listen to what it needs to tell you.

Know that your thoughts and feelings are not real. They are all part of the illusion too. They are all connected to the illusion and once you really observe that and state an intent to break some of that you will feel better. You don't have to "do" anything...just watch and notice when it happens. If your friend says something mean that hurts your feelings and you say something back...that is all part of the game. Your friend may have a self-esteem issue that makes her feel threatened so she tries to bring you down. You then respond by bringing her self-esteem down more thereby validating her belief. See the game? By responding you just agree to dance in her illusion that she is worthless. The thing is, now you are dancing and feel worthless too.