Eliminate stress eating to lose weight requires self love among other characteristics. The concept of an overweight person loving oneself is an alien concept and is sure to confuse. Why? It is simply because those suffering from being overweight have learned to "Hate" their overweight condition and their overweight bodies. They use the hate to justify the diet, yet long term the diet doesn't work as 95% of those who lose weight gain it all back.

Total success in losing weight and managing one's eating habits requires love of self. Yes, love of that spare tire around the tummy. Without self love it's practically impossible to master emotional eating.

The fear though is that if one loves his/her spare tire, then he/she won't do anything to get rid of it. The inability to resolve this dichotomy keeps millions overweight.

Why love? Look at those excess pounds as a child crying for help. And this isn't so far from reality for it's the child within each of us that gains the weight. The parent in us would keep us underweight, but the child indulges.

A lot is to be learned about the child from where the weight is stored on one's body. A child that lacks courage to deal with life's challenges will store weight in the stomach and abdominal area. Rather than get upset with the child, the best way to deal with a child is to nurture. So if you retain your weight in the midsection, it's more appropriate to look at your life situations where you are short on courage, acknowledge this as you goal (gain more courage in dealing with __________) and send love to your child and you now have the key to losing weight in your stomach region.

The child who stores weight in one's legs has a direction problem in life. Taking steps to achieve a goal/s is the issue, whether it be steps to end a relationship or steps to start a new career.

The child who stores weight in one's buttocks has a support issue--for instance, it could be a fear of asking others for support. They may feel that they are very much alone in this life.

The child who stores weight in the chest area has a compassion issue. This is the heart center and weight here blocks one's ability to experience compassion. And often it's compassion for self in that they are more demanding of themselves than they are of others.

The child who stores weight in the arms has an issue with reaching for and grasping what they want in life.

The child who stores weight in the neck area has an issue with flexibility of direction. It's like they have blinders on and can only look in one direction.

The child who stores weight in the facial area has communication issues with others.

If you get the gist of this, you will be far better off nurturing the child in building confidence, flexibility, compassion, stamina (oh that's the back area), support, options... than you will be with using self putdowns.

Send an ounce of love to those excess pounds and it will dissolve ten pounds. Do this and you'll be ready to embrace the emotions that contribute to the fears of being flexible, confident, compassionate, asking for support...

A progressive approach to eliminate stress eating involves asking important questions "What is missing here? Why are you not getting the results you've been promised?" It is clearly insane to keep dieting and using techniques to deal with change eating habit when the results are so poor. It's more important to gain a grasp on how to love oneself--every pound of oneself than it is to read the scale. Besides focusing on the scale doesn't empower you to be a better more enlightened person, whereas learning how to overcome emotional eating empowers you in all aspects of your life. If you're a sales person, you'll be a better sales person. If you're an assembly line worker, you'll be a better assembly line worker; a mother, a better mother... Overall, you'll build self worth and find that what you really want to eat is far more nutritious and less in quantity than you ever before imagined possible.

Author's Bio: 

Richard Kuhns B.S.Ch.E., NGH certified, a prominent figure in the field of hypnosis with his best selling hypnosis and stress management cds at www.DStressDoc.com and www.PanicBusters.com. His aim is to make it possible for anyone to manage emotional binge eating. For more information please visit www.dstressdoc.com/BingeEatingEbook.htm