Dear friend, are you looking for a better life? Pain may sometimes be the reason why people change. Getting failing grades make us realize that we need to study. Debts remind us of our inability to look for a source of income. Being humiliated gives us the ‘push’ to speak up for ourselves to avoid further embarrassment. It may be a bitter experience, a friend’s tragic story, a great movie, or an inspiring book that will help us get up and get just the right amount of motivation we need in order to improve ourselves.

So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may want to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.

Imagine yourself as a Movie Screen. Everything and everyone else around you may become projectors, at one point or another. These projectors will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the better of you. So which projectors should you avoid?

Projector #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.

Projector #2: Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, gossip mongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to yourself improvement scheme.

Projector #3: Changing Environment
You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Change challenges our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Change will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve ourselves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.

Projector #4: Past Experience
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.

Projector #5: Negative World View
Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negatives of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of bad situations.

So there you have it, 5 ways to a better life. During the coming days, weeks and months, give yourself the gift of a new paradigm.

Author's Bio: 

Nigel St. Hill is a writer and a life and money management coach helping people who are ready to discover their path to love, happiness, success and abundance , so that they could live the life of their dreams. He is the founder of and author of the book, Money Management Caribbean Style and several ebooks including The Easy Cash Flow System, 12 Secrets to Creating Money and Abundance Caribbean Style, 8 Money Management Secrets for Caribbean Women, Creative But Practical Ways to Save money, 8 Simple Ways to Live a Healthy Abundant Lifestyle, and 7 Steps To Becoming An Empowered Single Woman .