The difficulty with quirks in a partner is that, by definition, they are peculiar and idiosyncratic and not commonly shared. This means you are dealing with a behavior, belief, or other trait you may not understand or relate to in any way, which tends to make acceptance of your partner all the ... Views: 4591
The science of nutrition includes the significant connections between food and our minds and emotions. The food you eat can affect your emotions. The same research also shows how feelings affect food choices. How does food affect your feelings and vice versa? The next practice allows you to ... Views: 696
Momentum is a powerful force.
Once you are in motion, the tendency is to keep moving. And your movements, especially when hurrying and worrying, can be in both body and mind. All you need to stop the momentum of mind and body begins with giving yourself permission to stop.
Try this practice ... Views: 885
Many people are cut off from what their bodies are feeling, unaware of how their emotions manifest physically. Whether you're aware of it or not, emotions often can be first detected in the body. Do you know that different people experience the same emotion differently? When you feel rage, ... Views: 937
The energy flowing between you, your body, and your connections with the body of the world can be consciously appreciated - if you pay close enough attention.
Let this practice of mindful listening to a larger body tune you in to the joy of the world.
1. The next time you are part of an ... Views: 1483
Do you worry about how other people perceive you? Do you consider yourself an excellent mind reader who knows what others think about you? Maybe you've thought, "He's disgusted by my weight" or "She can tell I feel bad about being short." The truth is no one can read others' minds, and it's ... Views: 907
As psychologist William James said, “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” To gain mastery over your anxiety, it’s very important that you learn how to challenge automatic thinking, such as catstrophizing and overestimating the ... Views: 5075
STRATEGY: PRACTICING THE POSITIVES
One way to stock your couple’s psychological first aid kit is to practice some of the strategies, like just being there, active listening, partner care, and identifying needs at low-stress, neutral, and even positive times. The benefits of practicing ... Views: 849
CHANGING PERCEPTIONS
As you gain more understanding of traumatic reactions, your understanding of how they affect your relationship will increase. Gradually your perceptions are likely to change. You may begin to take each other's reactions less personally and with less pain. For example, if ... Views: 1147
Stop right now and translate your restlessness into productive energy with five simple steps:
1. Stop; stand still and consider opening up to a new perspective. Take a few deep breaths, and put your attention on the feeling of restlessness.
2. Ask yourself, “Where in my body do I feel ... Views: 2293
If you’re restless and don’t know what to do with yourself, stay where you are. Just be still, be quiet. Let the eagerness to do something cool down. Let the pull of the outside world release its grip on you. Just as the sediment in a bottle settles to the bottom, so will your ... Views: 852
Emotional affairs might begin as friendships, but they don’t stay that way. The friendship becomes transformed, sometimes slowly, sometimes almost immediately, into a fundamentally different relationship. There are distinct differences between friendships and emotional affairs.
- An ... Views: 7886
A fundamental shift in humanity’s consciousness— our way of both perceiving and acting in the world has been developing over the past few decades and will continue to develop through much of the twenty-first century. The shift accompanies a profound rite of passage that the earth ... Views: 3477
DEFEATING PERFECTIONIST EXTREMES
In a perfectionist state of mind, you put yourself on a seesaw. You are up when you do well. You are down when you don’t. So, let’s look at how to clear this perfectionist tarnish from your window on life. Perfectionist thinking is vulnerable to ... Views: 2552
EATING BY THE MINDFUL
Portion control, the good old divide (the portion) and conquer (overeating) approach, is not without merit. But what if you redefine the portion size from how many mouthfuls you can have to how many mindfuls you need to feel full, if you shift your attention from a ... Views: 1103
A MINDFUL CHOCOLATE MEDITATION
Walk into any grocery store and there’s likely to be a Halloween aisle brimming over with candy. Those who struggle with mindless eating have already begun to wonder how they’ll stay clear of trick-or-treat sweets. Many people find that Halloween ... Views: 2789