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- Anatomy of Betrayal - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2011 from Adele McDowellA face reader once told me that I had kind eyes, a strong jaw, a good forehead, in fact, an excellent forehead, an emotional nose, and, more pointedly, that I absolutely could not handle betrayal. Really, though, who can handle betrayal? Its very name conjures up deep hurt and heartache. ...
Views: 9957(2 votes) - Gratitude, it's good medicine - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2014 from Adele McDowellGratitude is not a one-serving meal relegated to Thanksgiving and plates full of yummy traditions and comfort. Gratitude is an all-round accompaniment, perfect for gatherings, holidays, and quiet solitude. Gratitude travels well. It works in all kinds of weather and is never out of season, too ...
Views: 1451(1 vote) - Help, it's Dark in Here - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Adele McDowellDo you ever have one of those days, weeks, or, even, years when it feels nothing is going your way? There is no break from the gods. In a word, you would say that your life stinks, and it stinks out loud. I have recently had a number of conversations with folks who are finding themselves, ...
Views: 3977(4 votes) - St. Germain and doing the "Up Spiral" - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2015 from Adele McDowellThis piece was written with through the generosity of St. Germain. All of us would all agree that life is going faster and faster by the minute. We can’t stay on top of everything, much less get everything done. And there is change everywhere. Much of what we have been taught as real is ...
Views: 1391(1 vote) - Too nice? Have I lost my edge? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2014 from Adele McDowellI have been called nice – a lot – frequently. I know people mean well, but nice can be…er, well…nice. It is so fluffy, so sweet, so damning with faint praise. There is no bite in nice – and that is precisely the point. Nice is toothless and gummy. It leaves no marks. Nice lacks gravitas. ...
Views: 2132(1 vote) - Five Ways to Deal with an Emotional Hangover - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2011 from Adele McDowellEver have one of those weeks when there is palpable, anger-inciting tension between you and a family member? Or you have had a crushing misunderstanding with one of your dearest friends? Or there is an incident at work that has had you mumbling obscenities under your breath and double-checking ...
Views: 8582(5 votes) - ***Five ways to deal with today’s chaotic energies - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2011 from Adele McDowellCan you feel the energies bumping up against you? One minute, you feel pushed; the next minute, pulled. One minute, you’re ok, and the next minute, you’re not. It’s chaotic out there. Our world is in flux; nothing feels normal anymore. Disasters are becoming way too familiar, and terra ...
Views: 3568(2 votes) - Take god care - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adele McDowellIt started simply enough, a run of the mill typo. Instead of signing off with my usual “Take good care,” I had missed an “o” and written “Take god care.” I noticed right away, but opted not to correct my mistake. This was fun and, besides, I look for messages and meanings in almost everything ...
Views: 2924(2 votes) - ***A psychologist’s suicide - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2011 from Adele McDowellThe word came last week that a friend and colleague, a clinical psychologist, had committed suicide. She had suffered a hammering of profound losses and fell into a deep hole of depression. She had placed herself in good professional hands, was hospitalized for two weeks, and released with ...
Views: 5460(1 vote) - ***PAST LIFE REGRESSION THERAPY OFFERS HOPE - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2012 from Adele McDowellThe new A&E/Biography channel documentary series, The UneXplained is taking a look at past-life regression therapy. New York City psychic, Joan Pancoe is featured this Saturday, September 15 at 10 p.m. EDT in an episode entitled “The Weight of My Past.” You will watch Joan doing past-life ...
Views: 1800(1 vote) - ***Redemption in Joplin - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2011 from Adele McDowellHome again, home again, jiggedy jig. I am back in Connecticut after three weeks of Red Cross deployment in Joplin, MO. I arrived in Joplin eight days after the tornado. Everything was still chaotic -- and my repeated response to viewing what was termed “the footprint,” the 6 x 1 mile area of ...
Views: 2365(1 vote) - 10 Everyday Ways We Can Help Prevent Suicide - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2014 from Adele McDowellSuicide is a global epidemic. We are all connected. What can we do to make a difference? Here are 10 ways to tip the scales in a more favorable direction. Our every action, intention, and belief counts. 1. Be neighborly and reach out to decrease loneliness and isolation. 2. Become ...
Views: 1394(2 votes) - And the signs say, "Don't Push" - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2011 from Adele McDowellI am a woman who believes that there are messages in everything. In other words, everything is symbolic to me. So, what am I to think when 10 days before I head to my long-awaited, greatly-anticipated trip to the UK, I fall into a small well on uneven pavement – a hole, if you will – after ...
Views: 2663(2 votes) - Attention: Hell and High Water Ahead - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2009 from Adele McDowellI have recently been working with a wonderful, young woman who has been struggling mightily with her recovery from addictions. She had relapsed after some good, solid sobriety. Relapse is like any kind of breakdown on the path. It is where things fall apart; traction is lost, and chaos ...
Views: 2505(1 vote) - Soul Survivor: The Reincarnation of a World War II Fighter Pilot - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Adele McDowellDo you believe in reincarnation? Past lives? A regular, hard-working, church-going couple, Andrea and Bruce Leininger were faced with these very questions when their two-year-old son, James, began have unremitting nightmares and shouting the words, “Plane on fire! Little man can’t get ...
Views: 4196(2 votes) - Stalled? Change One Thing - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2014 from Adele McDowellStalled, stuck, and procrastinating? Take heart, there is always a new day. There is always a new door to try. We, humans, want to be our better selves, we really do, but sometimes we get in our own way. Or we are just too comfy to let go of the old patterns. Or, like shiny things, everything ...
Views: 1366(2 votes) - Are you Jesus? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Adele McDowellI didn’t realize it at first, but they happened on the same day. On Saturday morning I am taking a walk with a friend. We cover our familiar route, knowing the circuit automatically in our steps. We are on the home stretch of the walk, moving down a country lane, all green and leafy. Out of ...
Views: 3954(1 vote) - ***Challenges for today’s brave lightworkers and healers - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2014 from Adele McDowellWe are rapidly moving forward with ping-ponging planetary activity. Our world course is hurtling towards a new consciousness. These shifts, changes, and transformations on both the micro and macro levels have not always come easily. Change can sometimes feel counter-intuitive, wrongly timed, ...
Views: 1797 - ***Got hope? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2012 from Adele McDowellHope … it’s a wonderful four-letter word. Hope offers possibilities; hope suggests that the good will prevail. It makes us happy. It fills us with expansiveness and can make our tight, constricted worlds crack open with a little wiggle room for the good stuff to find its way. Hope has us ...
Views: 2127 - ***How are we changed by devastating loss? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2013 from Adele McDowellIt is a tender day here in Connecticut. My eyes well with tears at the memory of the senseless shooting of beautiful, bright-eyed first graders, teachers, and staff at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, CT. Loss is never easy. Loss of a child is especially traumatic. Loss of so ...
Views: 1303 - ***PORTALS OF INITIATION FOR TODAY’S BRAVE LIGHTWORKERS AND HEALERS - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2014 from Adele McDowellWe would all agree that the world is fast, frenzied, and chock-a-block with sensory stimuli, challenges, and change. Where is terra firma, we might ask as we bend on our knees, take deep breaths, and straddle that big balancing board called life. We attempt to stay upright, but life does ...
Views: 1130 - ***Six struggles and coping strategies for the motherless and unmothered - by Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Adele McDowellBeing without a mother is special kind of club. Only those that share the experience understand the profound ache for once what was or could have been. Mothers are lost for a myriad of reasons - be it childbirth itself, accident, illness, poverty, circumstances of family, culture, or fate, ...
Views: 2268 - ***The Forgiveness List - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2013 from Adele McDowellThere are days I feel like I am treading as fast as I can and barely can keep my head above water. Glub, glub, glub. Technology is wonderful, and, equally, it can be exhausting for me. My email in-boxes are full of great things I want to read and way too many good intentions on my part to ...
Views: 1911 - ***The Suspended Animation Blues - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2013 from Adele McDowellHave you ever felt that you are simply hanging in the middle of the time and space continuum? You have plans, an agenda, goals, deadlines, places to go, and people to see, but you find yourself stuck in an energetic void where nothing -- as in zippidy-do-dah -- is happening. You want it to ...
Views: 1688 - ***The wandering brain finds happiness - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2011 from Adele McDowellThose trusty researchers at Harvard University -- and elsewhere -- have been busily exploring what makes us happy. It is called the neurobiology of happiness and speaks to what lights up our brains. The researchers are also examining the plasticity of our brains – how we can re-pattern our ...
Views: 3534 - ***The “Holy Yes” and the “Hell No” method - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2013 from Adele McDowellThis world of ours is fast-paced and challenging. Time is elusive; personal energies fluctuate, and a healthy sense of self can get battered in the mix. Needless to say, we want to be happy, feel less stressed, have more satisfying relationships, get in better shape, have more adventures, feel ...
Views: 1394 - ***Word for the Year: congruence and resonance required - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2014 from Adele McDowellThe holidays have passed and we have settled into the new year. Might I suggest a focal point for your intentions and energies? I am not talking about the oft-forgotten resolutions. We all mean well and, at the time we announce our resolutions, we think this is the year. We are going ...
Views: 1245 - But What About the God in Me? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Adele McDowellIt’s late at night. All around me is quiet and dark. I strike a match; the friction is amplified by the stillness. The match sparks with the wick in a bubble of flame, and shadows dance on the ceiling. The room fills with soft, yellow light. My eyes adjust, and I can make out the edges and ...
Views: 2991 - Fatherly thoughts - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2015 from Adele McDowellOver eight days in June, there is the trifecta of Father’s Day, my father’s birthday, and the anniversary of his death 36 years ago. If alive, my father would be 101 this year. This particular trio activates memories of a father who graduated a Jesuit college as a philosophy major (and, boy, ...
Views: 1384 - Got Stress? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2008 from Adele McDowellDo you have a monkey mind that has run amok? Is there lots of chatter ricocheting around your cranium? Is there so much clamor and internal conversation that it’s standing room only in your head? Like the deli counter, do you need to take a number to discern which inner voice has taken over ...
Views: 2926 - Hey, it's scary out there - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Adele McDowellEating tranquilizers, pounding Jack, inhaling carbs? Do you need to be sedated before you watch the evening news? Do you come home from work black, blue and bedraggled, feeling as if you have done a few rounds with the great Muhammad Ali? Has your relentless job hunting evolved into ...
Views: 3217 - How do you make sense of a sudden death? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2010 from Adele McDowellThe question, itself, must be a Zen koan, because, really, there is no answer to sudden death. There is no making sense of the unreal, surreal, or unbelievable. Yet, it happens, day in and day out. Unfortunately, this week, I have had two poignant reminders of this very fact. In the ...
Views: 8038 - Let's Talk Alternative Healing - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2008 from Adele McDowellI recently returned from an international conference on shamanism and alternative healing. This particular conference has been going long and strong for 25 years. As with most things these days, it made me think. I wondered why we, and I include myself in that “we,” are so resistant to other ...
Views: 2418 - Nine tips for a dealing with the quickening pace of 2015 - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2014 from Adele McDowellAre you too tired… too stressed …too everything? Are you filipendulous (hanging by a thread)? Do you frequently want to curl into a fetal position from overwhelm? Welcome to 2015, where the pace will be quicker. Y-e-s, quicker, so, hold on, lovies. Here are a few tips to help you ...
Views: 1200 - Opening our awareness to suicide - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2015 from Adele McDowellHeretofore, suicide has been a taboo topic. Now, it is so headline-making and societally embarrassing that clinicians and researchers are madly looking for answers and trying to quantify criteria. Why has suicide become so rampant? There are those that end their life by suicide from hearing ...
Views: 1680 - Relationships Are Our Greatest Spiritual Teachers - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Adele McDowellYou cannot escape relationships. They are everywhere. They are the connective tissue of life. Be it friend, spouse, child, sibling, coworker, or neighbor, life is filled with relationships of varying dimensions, connections, and intensities. Each of us is a product of some kind of connection. ...
Views: 5014 - Review: Medical Renaissance Series: The Secret Code (DVD) by C. Norman Shealy, M.D., Ph.D. - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Adele McDowellHarvard-trained neurosurgeon and founder of the American Holistic Medical Association, C. Norman Shealy, M.D., Ph.D. has created a documentary film, “Medical Renaissance Series: The Secret Code.” It is well worth a viewing. Norm Shealy, often called Dr. Wizard by his colleagues given his 10 ...
Views: 4613 - Robin William's, the whole trip to Oz - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2014 from Adele McDowellThe shocking news of Robin Williams’ suicide has left us all heartbroken and reeling. Robin’s death seems so antithetical to the Robin we saw brimming with life. He took on the world with his cutting-edge humor and supersonic mind. He was a trip unto himself. We would stay up late knowing ...
Views: 1344 - St. Germain and doing the "Up Spiral" - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2015 from Adele McDowellThis piece was written with through the generosity of St. Germain. All of us would all agree that life is going faster and faster by the minute. We can’t stay on top of everything, much less get everything done. And there is change everywhere. Much of what we have been taught as real is ...
Views: 1125 - St. Germain and doing the "Up Spiral" - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2015 from Adele McDowellThis piece was written with through the generosity of St. Germain. All of us would all agree that life is going faster and faster by the minute. We can’t stay on top of everything, much less get everything done. And there is change everywhere. Much of what we have been taught as real is ...
Views: 1083 - St. Germain and doing the "Up Spiral" - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2015 from Adele McDowellThis piece was written with through the generosity of St. Germain. All of us would all agree that life is going faster and faster by the minute. We can’t stay on top of everything, much less get everything done. And there is change everywhere. Much of what we have been taught as real is ...
Views: 1177 - St. Germain and doing the "Up Spiral" - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2015 from Adele McDowellThis piece was written with through the generosity of St. Germain. All of us would all agree that life is going faster and faster by the minute. We can’t stay on top of everything, much less get everything done. And there is change everywhere. Much of what we have been taught as real is ...
Views: 1214 - St. Germain and doing the "Up Spiral" - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2015 from Adele McDowellThis piece was written with through the generosity of St. Germain. All of us would all agree that life is going faster and faster by the minute. We can’t stay on top of everything, much less get everything done. And there is change everywhere. Much of what we have been taught as real is ...
Views: 1372 - St. Germain and doing the "Up Spiral" - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2015 from Adele McDowellThis piece was written with through the generosity of St. Germain. All of us would all agree that life is going faster and faster by the minute. We can’t stay on top of everything, much less get everything done. And there is change everywhere. Much of what we have been taught as real is ...
Views: 1426 - Stormy weather - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2008 from Adele McDowellThis week, the economists agreed we are headed for a long-term recession. No kidding, I think we are all up to speed on that. In other words, this global, economic melt-down is a marathon and not a sprint. As Bette Davis once intoned in some fabulous classic movie whose name I cannot remember, ...
Views: 2456 - The Goody Good Girl Syndrome - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2014 from Adele McDowellWomen of certain generations were brought up to please, aid, assist, and make life easier for everyone. They were trained to be the most excellent of handmaidens and helpmates. It was their raison d’être. They were not to stand out, stand above, or be noticed. They were to be the silent and ...
Views: 2587 - The Seven Essential Questions - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2015 from Adele McDowellIt's spring here in the northeast. The forsythia branches are showing their first spurts of yellow; the air is warmer; and the puppy dogs on the street are friskier because the world is a-w-a-k-e and alive and full of good things to sniff out and smell. These spring energies of rebirth and ...
Views: 1278 - The Tao of 007 - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2011 from Adele McDowellI like James Bond. I like him for all the obvious reasons. He is dashing, witty, intelligent, sexy, fun, etc., but it's his less obvious qualities that make me a hard-core admirer. This man is present. He is 100 percent focused on the here and now. A mystic couldn't do it any better; he is ...
Views: 3796 - V Is For Vulnerable - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2008 from Adele McDowellToday, my friends, we are spinning, spinning, spinning the alphabet wheel. Can you hear it whinny and whir through its multiple rotations of 26 choices? And after the occasional stutter and stumble, it eventually settles and makes its home on the venerable “V.” Ah … “V”; it’s a letter that ...
Views: 2549 - What Happened to My Epiphany? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2010 from Adele McDowellWhat happened to my epiphany? I just had it. I know it was here. It had lit up my mind and thumped my heart with excitement. It has been with me a mere few days, and, now, it is gone. It has vamoosed and high-tailed it out of my life. I am heart sick. I want my epiphany back. It felt so right. ...
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