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- Dr. Romance Video: Holidays with Family and In-laws - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2013 from Tina TessinaClick Here for Video Dr. Romance on Holidays with Family and In-laws Marriage means relating to in-laws and extended family. This is what "cleave to each other, forsaking all others" in the old marriage vows meant: Once married, you are now each other's primary ...
Views: 1838(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: To this day I am not sure why he became so angry - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance: I hope you will be able to provide me with an insight.I was in a relationship with a man I genuinely loved and wanted future with. Our relationship was lovely to start with but after a few months problems started to emerge: another woman told me he was in a ...
Views: 1834(1 vote) - Attitude Adjustment - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2012 from Tina TessinaI have before about emotional hygiene and doing the necessary maintenance on feelings as well as your physical body and household. Health reminders tell us to wash our hands frequently to prevent transmittal of diseases. Did you know you can “wash” your mood, too, and give yourself an attitude ...
Views: 1832 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have a traumatic brain injury - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: A lot has happened in recent weeks that has wreaked havoc on my life. A friend of twenty years, Told me he did not consider me a real friend, although I've been spending many hours helping him with gaming for years. My sweetie pet hamster died. It was his time, ...
Views: 1827 - Dr. Romance Says: Lighten Up: Cures for Marital Boredom - by Submitted on May 24, 2012 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The old folk songs say it: Oh, love is handsome, love is fine Love is a jewel when it is new; But when love's old, it waxes cold And fades away, like morning dew. Folk wisdom says it: If newlyweds put a penny in a jar for every time they make love in the first ...
Views: 1826(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: Got a Tough Ex? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Tina TessinaRelationships: Three Tips to Dealing with a Really Difficult Ex-Spouse Dr. Romance’s three tips to dealing with a difficult ex. 1. Choose your battles. One of my clients once said “I don’t want to die on that hill.” She meant: that battle isn’t worth what it will cost me – I’ll ignore ...
Views: 1826(1 vote) - Asking for What You Want - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2012 from Tina TessinaIn my counseling office, I see a lot of damage done because people don't know how to ask for what they want, or don't think it's OK. Not asking for what you want means you'll eventually resent somebody, and that leads to a lot of strife. So today, I thought I'd give some hints about how to ask ...
Views: 1824 - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Let Him Go? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read "Letting Go Takes Love" and it really spoke to me. I am in a situation and I was wondering if you could give me quick advice. I feel the need to let go of someone because he basically doesn't know what he wants. We have been going back and forth with the issue over a ...
Views: 1824(4 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I do not want to have to choose between family and love. - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need some of your advice. You're the only one I could think of who would give me a sensible answer. Well, this situation might seem easy when viewed from the outside, but going through it myself really created stress for me. I DO NOT WANT TO HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN ...
Views: 1821 - Dear Dr Romance: he said I was expecting too much from this relationship - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr.Romance: I can't get over this man, he is 61, I'm in my mid thirties, he is Europe and I'm in North America, we started corresponding and we stopped I was suffering but time healed me after a year. This year we re started talking back, by facebook, and when ...
Views: 1818 - Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2012 from Tina TessinaLast month, I received the following letter from an old friend, Lloyd Barnhart. "A topic I would like you to cover/explore is that curious phenomena which permits otherwise independent women to be dominated…even abused…by males with whom they share some sort or relationship. Why is it that a ...
Views: 1816(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: Resolving Mother & Sister Fights - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2012 from Tina Tessina(To see the accompanying video, go here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XVCxndtpt0s) Often, the same quirks, reactions and behaviors that create problems between you and the female members of your famiy wouldn't be a problem if they was someone else's family. If your best friend's mom or ...
Views: 1814(3 votes) - Bet You Don't Know How To Apologize - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2016 from Tina TessinaAre you and your partner having a tough time getting over an argument? Here are some tips to help. 1. Surrender to your responsibility. When you become aware that you have made a mistake, admit it and apologize. Use it as an opportunity to learn and grow. You don’t have to be afraid of ...
Views: 1813(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Had to Pay for Everything - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance: I recently met a divorced Russian woman with her teenage old son while on vacation, we spent a lot of time together. I enjoyed their company very much. We keep seeing each other and I recently spent 4 days at her lavish home in the United States. I was really suprised to see ...
Views: 1813 - Dear Dr. Romance: I discovered he crossdressed - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:When I was 20, I met a man of 37. For many reasons, including what I thought was love, moved in with him 3 weeks later. After getting engaged to my partner, I discovered he crossdressed. I cried, but he said he did it cuz he was alone for so long before he met me. Flash forward ...
Views: 1809(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What type of dating safety precautions should one take? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one be sure that a person they met through a dating service is not disturbed in any way? What type of safety precautions can one take? Dear Reader: Love has a much better chance to be realized if you make some of your choices mentally, as well as by emotional ...
Views: 1806(2 votes) - Anger: Cleansing Squall or Hurricane? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2012 from Tina TessinaAnger is the emotional energy within each of us that rises up when something needs to change. If you act on the need to create change, your anger can be channeled effectively; but it’s not redirected to something effective, your frustration will build, sometimes to hurricane force. Anger ...
Views: 1805(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: on Dating as a Single Parent - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2013 from Tina TessinaTo watch the video click here: Dr. Romance's Dating Guidelines for Single Parents As a single parent, you probably have so little free time that dating seems an impossible task. Yet, single parents are dating in unprecedented numbers, so if you’re looking for another “head of ...
Views: 1802(2 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: How to Decide Whether or Not to End Your Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaTo watch video, click here Dr Romance: Should you stay in your marriage? Marriage can be frustrating and disappointing, especially if you don't have the skills to fix it. But giving in to the frustration and leaving may turn out to be the worst thing you ever did. Consider these ...
Views: 1801 - Dr. Romance on Learning Forgiveness - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance on Learning Forgiveness Dr. Romance writes: Learning to forgive those who hurt us is an essential life skill, because it helps develop inner maturity, frees us from emotional bondage to the other person, and helps us develop the ...
Views: 1799(2 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: How to Propose Marriage - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2012 from Tina TessinaIf video doesn't load, click here OK, guys, you're (gulp) ready to pop the big question. But you've seen those videos of lavish proposals that went wrong. How do you ask her in a way that's got an excellent chance of getting a happy ...
Views: 1798(4 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm struggling with dismissing bad behavior - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: You state in the Yahoo article "Signs You Must Move On": "Women often have a very hard time ending relationships, even if deep down they know they're unhealthy. They fear change, they fear being single or they think they won't ...
Views: 1793(1 vote) - You Can't Fall Apart Now - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Tina Tessina3 Tips to Maintaining Your Sanity During Divorce Dr. Romance’s three tips to maintaining sanity during divorce. 1. Know your rights: If you’re even considering divorce, spend the money for one consult with a reputable, good attorney (preferably, recommended by a friend who went through ...
Views: 1793 - Dear Dr. Romance: It makes me very very upset, angry, pissed-off, and sad. - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your article "Surviving Loss and Thriving Again" while searching for answers to my own issues. The 'loved one' I lost was myself. I loved life, loved adventure, travel, people, photography, mostly adventure! In 2 seconds my life was 'taken' away ...
Views: 1791(1 vote) - Do You Respect The EX? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaYou're divorced, but you still see your ex. How do you handle it? Here are three tips to help. 1. Treat your ex as politely as you treat your friends or co-workers. Don’t be as familiar as you used to be. A little less familiarity will generate a little more respect. Say “Hello”, ...
Views: 1791(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Divorce-Proof your Marriage - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2013 from Tina TessinaFor Adult Children of Divorce, 3 Tips for a Better Marriage than your Parents Had If you're an adult child of divorce in a marriage that's been struggling, you can learn good marriage-building skills to keep your relationship from going the divorce route. Here are three tips to help: 1. ...
Views: 1788(6 votes) - Technology and Love - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaTechnology can have a big impact on relationships. In my counseling office, I see many couples who are struggling over Internet and social media issues. The ability to work at home via computer and smart phone can mean arguing about how work spills over and absorbs relationship time. Secrets ...
Views: 1786 - Letting Go Takes Love - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2014 from Tina TessinaWhen you feel beset in your life, and people close to you seem to be difficult and uncooperative, consider that they may be reflecting back to you the behavior your own anxiety is creating toward them. Learning to let go of your obsessively trying to control others can free you to receive ...
Views: 1785(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Really Wish I Could Go Back in Time and Fix This - by Submitted on May 07, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I have read some of your articles and am very impressed. I am about to write about something that will probably be one of the most bizarre cases you have ever heard. About 12 years ago, I felt a strong attraction towards a girl who was in my high school. We both were in ...
Views: 1783(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother, and I feel I'm past my prime. - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a 23 year old single mother and believe me when I say my life has been crazy and very rough. I have no relationship with the father of my child. He's pretty much abandoned our four yearl old son after his 1st birthday. He doesn't help out, and blames everything ...
Views: 1783(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I Strange? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a university student majoring in English Translation in a Mid Eastern country. I find it difficult to attract other people's attention and it makes friendship nearly impossible. I love loneliness in a way that most of my friends don't ...
Views: 1778(1 vote) - Comforting the Little Orphan Girl - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2012 from Tina TessinaWhen life hands me a very difficult time, and I feel defeated and overwhelmed, I enter a hopeless and helpless state of mind I think of as The Little Orphan girl. This is the way I felt, as a teen, when I lost nearly my whole family, father, aunts and uncles, between the ages of 12 and 18. ...
Views: 1775 - Detox Your Life - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2012 from Tina TessinaMany of my clients come in with complaints about personal habits that feel toxic in their lives. Just as you can detox your body when you’re feeling sluggish, it’s also possible to detox your emotional life. Here are some of the most common ways your life can back up on you, and how to handle ...
Views: 1775(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Do I Surprise Her with a Gift? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I know I feel strongly about a certain someone. Do I surprise her with a gift or e-mail her with my recent feelings through a tough time? Dear Reader: It sounds like you're way ahead of yourself and her. I think a gift would be completely out of line at this point. ...
Views: 1774 - 10 Reasons For Not Falling in Love - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Tina TessinaAlthough you might think of “falling in love” as romantic; we all fall in love many times in life: with a new lover, a new friend, a particularly cooperative co-worker, an appealing movie or TV star, a caring neighbor, siblings, relatives and even pets. Any close relationship ...
Views: 1766 - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I move forward when I hit a setback? - by Submitted on May 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: When one hits a setback in life what are some healthy ways to keep moving forward? How can one build a healthy mental outlook when things go wrong? Dear Reader: The most important and uplifting thing you can do is look for what you can learn from the problem. ...
Views: 1763 - Dear Dr. Romance: Overwhelmed to the Point I Want Out - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read some of the things you stated about marriage and why people divorce. I am feeling overwhelmed lately to the point I just want out. I have been married for over 17 years. We have 2 school-age children together. I am in school full time and work full time and still have a ...
Views: 1756(3 votes) - Fair Fight Guidelines - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2012 from Tina TessinaThirty years of marriage counseling and twenty-five years of a second marriage have convinced me that fights are not necessary in a marriage. Married couples need to have discussions, they need to solve problems, and sometimes they need to disagree, but they don’t need to squabble, argue, ...
Views: 1751(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I Single? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr.Romance: My friends were joking that I have never been single, and I argued that I have - but they said my definition of being single was wrong! true, I tend to have long term relationships, but before I met my last boyfriend I was "single" for nearly a year. I define this as not ...
Views: 1750 - Dear Dr. Romance: How can we find low cost counseling? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am in a same sex relationship of a year and 3 months. My girlfriend Phyllis and I have a constant communication problem that we want to address. Neither of us are currently working. I do get unemploymnet but my bills out weigh my income. Do you know how we can find low ...
Views: 1748 - WHERE IS LOVE? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2013 from Tina TessinaProbably the most prevalent question I’m asked in my counseling practice is “Where is love?” Clients want to know why they can’t find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won’t respond as they would like, even why they don’t love themselves. In a perfect world, love ...
Views: 1742(4 votes) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Public Politeness - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: How do you feel when you walk into a public rest room and there are papers all over the floor, unflushed toilets, and wet toilet seats? How do you feel about drivers who tailgate, zip around the roads going over the speed limit, and hog the road? Most of us don’t ...
Views: 1738(2 votes) - Dear Dr Romance: How Do You Dump Someone without Hurting Them? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in a bit of a weird situation... Im 16 and I am engaged to a guy I only met 2 months ago. I thought he was joking so I just went along with it, and it was only when he gave me a ring and started talking about venues and dates that I realised he was serious. I only ...
Views: 1737 - Dr. Romance on Gratitude, Kindness and Happiness - by Submitted on May 23, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The founding fathers of our country saw the “pursuit of happiness” as an inalienable right – so important they embedded it in the DNA of the United States of America, by writing it into the Preamble to the Constitution. It was a profoundly new idea at the time. With it, ...
Views: 1737 - Dr. Romance: Make your Marriage Work - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2014 from Tina TessinaRelationships: Three Tips to Getting your Marriage Back on Track Every relationship has its ups and downs. Is your marriage struggling right now? If you're trying to get it back on track, here are tips to help. 1. Don’t hold a grudge. Talk about what’s bothering you in a rational way. ...
Views: 1734(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Need Something to Break the Ice! - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What to say in this situation? Okay, so there's this girl in my art class that I really want to talk to and get to know! Problem is she sits at a different table than me and I just plain don't know what to say to her! I'm a senior and she's a sophomore! What should I say to ...
Views: 1733 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Can't forget him after 10 years - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I live in Southeast Asia. I knew about you from the internet. I have a problem that I haven't found the way out till now. Before I tell you anything, first please forgive me if my english is not too well. I am in my late 20's and for most local people at that ...
Views: 1731(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: the thought of seeing him have sex with other women bothers me a lot - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a bipolar woman with emotional problems. These problems seem to manifest most lately with my boyfriend whom I tend to blame for everything. I feel super insecure when we are out and he notices other women. He taught me a lot about sexuality and commented constantly ...
Views: 1731(2 votes) - How To Create A Wedding Ceremony - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2014 from Tina TessinaMany couples are moved to write their own wedding ceremony: either because they aren’t comfortable with the traditional ones, or they don’t belong to a tradition that has a ceremony, or they just want to create something unique that expresses their love and commitment. To help you ...
Views: 1731(1 vote) - Single Parent Dating - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2012 from Tina TessinaAs a single parent, you probably have so little free time that dating seems an impossible task. Yet, single parents are dating in unprecedented numbers, so if you’re looking for another “head of household” to date, you’ll find one. As a responsible parent, you’ll want to be very cautious ...
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