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- Self-Control: Who’s in Charge Here? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2014 from Tina TessinaWant to be powerful in your relationships? Learn emotional self-control. Learning to take charge of your emotions means you can’t be “set off” by someone else. You control your reactions, they don’t control you. When you’re too reactive to your partner, he or she ...
Views: 1151 - Solving Problems Takes Equals - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2015 from Tina TessinaThere is a pervasive myth that somehow happy couples just agree on everything automatically all the time. Believing this myth, we enter relationships convinced that whatever problems or differences we have with our partners will be easy to solve. But, in reality, the individuals who make up a ...
Views: 1336 - Surviving Loss and Thriving Again - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2015 from Tina TessinaNone of us wants to think about it, but the standard definition of a totally successful relationship is the old, traditional “til death do us part.” Any time we love, whether it’s a life partner, a dear friend, a child, a sibling, a parent or even a beloved pet, we are risking ...
Views: 1079 - Tapping Your “Inner Mentor” to Create New Meaning in Your Life - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2015 from Tina TessinaSooner or later all of us question the meaning of life. The sooner we get to it, the better chance we have of finding a satisfactory answer. As a therapist I watch many of my clients pass through stages of personal growth. Once they work through the issues that have held them back, they often ...
Views: 1424 - Technology and Love - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaTechnology can have a big impact on relationships. In my counseling office, I see many couples who are struggling over Internet and social media issues. The ability to work at home via computer and smart phone can mean arguing about how work spills over and absorbs relationship time. Secrets ...
Views: 1786 - The Colors of You - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaAs life develops, many of us have an urge to focus on the deeper issues—our dreams and goals, and our emotional and spiritual development. When this happens, life gradually becomes more about meaning and satisfaction and less about obligations and accomplishments. As you mature, you can focus on ...
Views: 1290 - The Fine Art of “Squirrel Hunting” - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaThe most frequent problem I hear from single clients is that of how and where to search for a partner. Many of them have been searching for a long time, without success; others have been afraid to go out and search at all. Most of the horror stories you have heard about dating occur when ...
Views: 1457 - The Nail in the Fence: Healing Wounds - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2013 from Tina TessinaI received the following in an email: “There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into ...
Views: 1923 - The Power of Politeness - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaFor quite a while now, we’ve heard many public figures, like Rush Limbaugh and comedian Bill Maher express scorn about people who are politically correct. Maher even gave his show the very funny title “Politically Incorrect.” Terms like “the PC police” were used to ...
Views: 1379 - The Power of Purpose - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2014 from Tina Tessina“Whatever your age, if you learn to listen, your inner voice will speak to you about your path,” writes oncologist Dr. Bernie Siegel in Peace, Love and Healing, your ‘job on earth.’ This wisdom that is directing you from within is your birthright... an inner message, an ...
Views: 1523 - The Right Way to Love - by Submitted on May 14, 2014 from Tina TessinaThere’s a pervasive myth in our society that there is a right and a wrong way to love. However, there’s not much clarity about what the right might be. We all have difficulty with relationships and difficulty with love. Therefore, we’re liable to draw the uncomfortable ...
Views: 1443 - The Road Map: Why Writing Down Your Goals Works - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2014 from Tina TessinaWe see a lot of advice to write down your goals and dreams, but does it really help? Actually, it does. For one thing, it helps you get clear on exactly what you want, and makes the goals more imaginable. They seem more real when you have thought through them clearly and written them ...
Views: 1696 - These Decisions Can Increase Your Happiness - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2014 from Tina TessinaWhen you use smart decisions and self-awareness to shape your life, it will reflect your deepest aspirations and your fondest dreams. 1. Make your life your own. Decide to re-decide. Re-examine your goals and dreams. Don't just assume that what you wanted yesterday is ...
Views: 1280 - True Beauty: Honor the god or goddess in you. - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2014 from Tina TessinaExtreme makeovers are all the rage these days, with botox injection parties, and reality shows. Plastic surgery is on the rise. Many people are trying to match the extraordinary measures actors and actresses go through to look perfect on the screen. These are shortcuts taken to try to ...
Views: 1456 - Turn on Your Charm - by Submitted on May 16, 2014 from Tina TessinaEver wondered how con artists can get away with all they do? They know how to charm people, and they have mastered the art of looking as if they belong. Because they have no feelings of guilt about misrepresenting themselves, they can pull it off. But you don’t have to be dishonest and ...
Views: 1685 - Turnaround Time - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2014 from Tina TessinaSolstice is the day near year end when the sun is furthest away from the Earth, and immediately begins to come closer again. Solstice marks a celestial turning point, and it’s no coincidence that we celebrate the end of the old year, and begin a new year of birth and renewal at this time. ...
Views: 1325 - Watch Out for Bad Relationship Habits - by Submitted on May 10, 2015 from Tina TessinaI often write about good relationship habits, so this month, I thought I’d explore some of the bad habits I see in my counseling practice that lead to strife and struggle in relationships. Hopefully, if you recognize any of these habits in your own relationship, you’ll work ...
Views: 1234 - When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2014 from Tina TessinaMany people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?” Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and work together ...
Views: 1346 - When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2015 from Tina TessinaMany people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?” Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and work together ...
Views: 2609 - Year of Peace - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaHappy New Year, everyone! This is the time when a lot of energy is spent on making resolutions, most of which we don’t manage to keep. So, this year, I propose a different kind of resolution. Will you join me in resolving to create a year of peace? Peace begins inside yourself. When you ...
Views: 1476 - You Can't Fall Apart Now - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Tina Tessina3 Tips to Maintaining Your Sanity During Divorce Dr. Romance’s three tips to maintaining sanity during divorce. 1. Know your rights: If you’re even considering divorce, spend the money for one consult with a reputable, good attorney (preferably, recommended by a friend who went through ...
Views: 1793 - Your Primary Relationship - by Submitted on May 10, 2013 from Tina TessinaMost of us put a lot of emphasis on our relationships: family, friends and significant others. But, did you know that the relationship you have with everyone else is based on your relationship with you? That’s right, the closer you get to other people, the more you treat them the way you treat ...
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