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- ***Never Go To Bed Mad At Each Other - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. On the Today Show a remarkable segment aired. It was remarkable not because it was good or enlightening, but because it wasn’t. In fact, it was downright misleading and irresponsible based upon the research evidence, and we want to comment on ...
Views: 4848(26 votes) - ***A Guide to Finding If Mr. Right is Right for Me - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. How will I know when I find Mr. Right? What if I am making a big mistake? Is he really the ONE, or should I walk away? These are critical questions women must ask themselves when they try to decide whether to move on with a serious relationship ...
Views: 4004(50 votes) - ***What are the Warning Signs of a Failing Marriage? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have studied marriage around the globe for three decades. And while our focus has principally been on successful marriage, we have interviewed a lot of folks whose marriage was in trouble – whose marriage was falling apart. There is nothing ...
Views: 10836(22 votes) - ***Love Someone Today - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Dear Friends: Tomorrow, we celebrate our 45th Wedding Anniversary! We got married at the Lutheran Church of the Master on Santa Monica Boulevard in Santa Monica, California in 1966. It is amazing to realize that so many years have passed so ...
Views: 3325(24 votes) - ***What Are the Myths About Marriage in the USA in 2011? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. First, here are the facts. If you get married before the age of 24 in the USA, you have a MUCH higher chance of getting divorced than those who get married at 25 and beyond. The divorce rate for those getting married after the age of 25 is ...
Views: 3739(23 votes) - ***Should the rules of marriage be re-written? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. There are times when we just want to retire to a remote island in the South Pacific! Why, you ask? Simple, really. As marriage researchers for nearly three decades, we have learned a lot about what makes marriage and relationships work. And ...
Views: 3393(23 votes) - ***How to Deal with Money Problems in a Marriage - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. While times are tougher than normal in the country today, the best marriages and love affairs will sustain the test of tough times for all the right reasons – during good or bad times the best loving relationships find ways to survive and ...
Views: 3737(23 votes) - ***How to Fight Fair in a Marriage - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are often asked this question – “Is arguing healthy for a marriage?” The simple answer is, “Yes!” When a husband and wife argue, they are engaging in a perfectly normal and expected part of what it means to be married. In fact, disagreement ...
Views: 3438(20 votes) - ***Can You Imagine Life Without Your Spouse? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. At the end of every interview we conduct with happily and successfully married couples we ask the most powerful question of our interview protocol – “Can you imagine life without your spouse?” The question always draws tears to the eyes of the couple ...
Views: 4928(19 votes) - ***How Will I Know If It Is True Love? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As our many readers know, we have been studying successful marriage and relationships for nearly three decades. And frankly, one of the most important questions we get asked is, How will I know if this is true love? The answer is simpler than you ...
Views: 6367(25 votes) - ***Only Liars and Cheats Think Infidelity is Acceptable - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In a recent article, we discussed the “infidelity” of Arnold Schwarzenegger. The former Governor of California had a 25-year marriage with Maria Shriver. In our article, we pointed out how our three-decades of research on successful marriage on six ...
Views: 4606(19 votes) - ***Arnold and Maria – Infidelity Always Leads to Bad Consequences - by Submitted on May 22, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Hard to imagine. People seemingly happily married for 25 years suddenly and surprisingly seek divorce. At 25+ years, divorce is, in the scheme of things, very unusual. Twenty-five years is a very long time for humans! It comprises about a third ...
Views: 4065(17 votes) - ***The Current State of Marriage in Italy - by Submitted on May 03, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. This week, we are on another one of our “love excursions!” As marriage researchers and writers (We have be engaged in this work for nearly three decades now!), we absolutely love to travel around the world and interview successfully married couples. ...
Views: 3988(15 votes) - ***The Current State of Marriage in Italy - by Submitted on May 03, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. This week, we are on another one of our “love excursions!” As marriage researchers and writers (We have be engaged in this work for nearly three decades now!), we absolutely love to travel around the world and interview successfully married couples. ...
Views: 3988(15 votes) - ***Prenuptial Agreement - Is it for Prince William and Kate Middleton? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Prince William and Kate Middleton have dated each other since their days at the University of St. Andrews in England. However, some divorce lawyers say the second-in-line to the throne of England would be “well advised” to seek a prenuptial ...
Views: 4599(16 votes) - ***The Risks of On-Line Dating - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The on-line scams are numerous and recurring. Most of them cost you money. And worse! Just today, someone co-opted a friend of ours by using a fake email address similar to his and sending it to a zillion people asking them to wire him money. ...
Views: 3339(44 votes) - ***Love is Colorblind to Those in Love - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzReal Love Is Colorblind By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The romantic 1955 movie, Love is a Many Splendored Thing, tells the story of an American reporter who falls in love with a Eurasian doctor. And as you might have guessed, they encounter prejudice from both of their ...
Views: 3842(21 votes) - ***Words and Phrases You Hear in Great Marriages - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have been engaged in marriage research for nearly three decades around the world and have never been asked this question until recently – “Are there words or phrases you listen for when you interview the best marriages around the world?” This is ...
Views: 4387(20 votes) - ***Learning About Love From Your Dog - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. You can learn a lot about love from a dog. Over the years, we have learned much about the essentials of a loving relationship by observing our dogs. We are proud to tell you that our Louie is truly a Wonder Dog. He is loving, caring, intuitive, ...
Views: 3185(21 votes) - ***Humorous Nicknames for Lovers - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Over our 44 years of marriage we have met thousands of couples that deeply loved each other. We have interviewed many, many of them for our several books on successful marriage. In nearly every case, successfully married couples have an ...
Views: 6516(13 votes) - ***What is the Best Valentine's Day Gift? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. It is said that some 200 million stems of roses will be sold in the USA on Valentine's Day 2011. Imagine that! That’s a lot of expressions of love don’t you think! We Americans love Valentine’s Day. We relish the opportunity to express our love ...
Views: 3988(19 votes) - ***Will Marriage Improve With Time? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In our many travels around the world conducting our marriage research, we are often ask this question – “Does Marriage Improve With Age?” The answer is, YES! Here’s why. We have interviewed successfully marriage couples on six continents in 45 ...
Views: 4544(21 votes) - ***Can You Trust Him? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. All too often in life, people fall in love blindly. They refuse to make note of how the actions of another person define them. They pay too much attention to words and way too little to actions. Here is an undeniable truth about people – actions ...
Views: 4339(15 votes) - ***Anonymity Versus the Truth about Marriage - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Often we wonder, silently and out-loud – why have so many good folks fallen prey to the lies and distortions about marriage in the USA promulgated by so many uninformed people or people with some kind of political agenda? Many times, they have an ...
Views: 3348(15 votes) - ***The State of Our Unions: Is Marriage in Trouble? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In Middle America, marriage is in trouble! So say W. Bradford Wilcox of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia and Elizabeth Marquardt of the Center for Marriage and Families Institute for American Values in New York ...
Views: 3257(14 votes) - ***Debunking the “Hormone of Love” - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Have you ever heard of the so-called “hormone of love” called Oxytocin? This hormone has been promoted in some circles as “promoting long-term attachment” between two people who purport to love each other. Some have even suggested a ...
Views: 4270(23 votes) - ***Where have my civil liberties gone? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. My wife and I had a wonderful trip to the Los Angeles area last week. We enjoyed the sun and fun – even rented a convertible. The ocean off Malibu Beach and Santa Monica was grand and glorious – resplendent in sunshine. We got married on ...
Views: 3689(14 votes) - ***Couples Want to be Alone Together - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Over the past several days, we have been in sunny southern California conducting interviews with selected celebrities including a former priest and his wife and couples with very famous last names. Tomorrow, we tape a segment of the television show, ...
Views: 4205(25 votes) - ***There is No Recovery from Infidelity - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Frankly, if we hear yet one more person talk about infidelity in a relationship as if it were okay, not a big deal, and forgivable, we are going to get angry! We have studied the best marriages for nearly 28 years and we know this – the best ...
Views: 6869(25 votes) - ***Jolt Your Relationship from Negative to Positive - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. With our fast paced society and the ever increasing demands of everyday life, more and more couples are finding that negativity is taking over their relationship. An abrupt interject of positivity into a relationship is the only way to change the ...
Views: 3906(22 votes) - ***Keeping Your Marriage Strong While Raising Children - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Kids! We love them. We cherish them. They bring joy to our lives. When we have children in a marriage, we understand finally, and once and for all, what eternity means. While we are not immortal, we learn the meaning of everlasting life when we ...
Views: 6914(26 votes) - ***Marriage and the Empty Nest: Five Strategies for Rediscovering Your Spouse - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Okay, the children have all left home. You and your spouse are finally alone after two decades of marriage. Now what? How do you cope? What lies in store for the two of you? These are questions faced by millions of married couples worldwide ...
Views: 10782(21 votes) - ***Love in the Pyrenees: Five Ways to Lasting Love - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Our current European trip is part of our continuing search for great marriages around the world. This time our travels have brought us to the tiny principality of Andorra. Following our interviews in Prague in the Czech Republic three days ago ...
Views: 5296(18 votes) - ***From Prague with Love - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Here we go again – interviewing successfully married couples around the world! This time we have made a return visit to Europe and are pleased to say that we have added two countries we have not been in before – Andorra and the Czech Republic! In ...
Views: 3667(20 votes) - ***Love is Alive and Well in Antarctica - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Every once in awhile you meet extraordinary people! We had that great pleasure recently in Long Beach, California. Our lives will never be the same! We looked in the faces of love and saw an extraordinary marriage! We have seen this look before, but ...
Views: 3227(24 votes) - ***Lie, Steal and Cheat Your Way to Love - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Okay, we admit it – our favorite new love-story movie is Leap Year (2010). We simply love the movie and have now watched it three times! The movie speaks to many of the research findings we have found over the three decades we have researched ...
Views: 5176(25 votes) - ***The 5 Things You Should NEVER Say to Your Spouse - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Just as important as saying the right thing to the one you love is to avoid saying statements that have the potential to destroy the foundation of the relationship. Saying just one wrong thing can negate an entire day of good statements and actions. ...
Views: 9211(34 votes) - ***The 5 Things You Should Say to Your Spouse - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzNegativism can easily creep into even the best relationships causing a pattern of negative actions and thoughts to overpower the marriage. The question often asked by couples is “How you can build positive interactions with each other on a daily basis so negativism doesn’t take hold of our ...
Views: 5982(28 votes) - ***Al and Tipper Gore’s Marriage – What Happened? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzLet’s face it, long time relationships sometimes end. And the simple truth is there isn’t always a compelling reason or reasons why. The separation of Al and Tipper Gore after 40 years of marriage is a good illustration of the “why” question – why did their love affair end after all these ...
Views: 7927(45 votes) - ***Love and Marriage in Ireland Today - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We arrived in Dublin, Ireland for a week of interviews on the Emerald Isle with successfully married couples. Our journey is part of our new "simple things matter in love and marriage" series and relates to our continuing search for great marriages ...
Views: 4388(32 votes) - ***Why do Some Find it Difficult to Make a Commitment to Love? - by Submitted on May 26, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Falling in love with another human being is easy, but making a commitment to love them forever is “up in the air” for many people. We like the term “up in the air” from the movie title for a whole bunch of reasons, primarily because it aptly ...
Views: 7221(34 votes) - ***Looking for Love in All the Right Places - by Submitted on May 14, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We believe that many folks are afraid of marriage because they read the dire predictions about marriage in the news, they watch way too much television where the focus is, more often than not, on glorifying sex and multiple relationships, and because ...
Views: 5672(38 votes) - ***Does Marriage Improve Your Health? - by Submitted on May 03, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzAmerica’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts Over the past decade there have been a number of research articles expounding on the positive virtues of marriage and good health. We have reported on them. And as you know, there are some very strong opinions that accompany the research findings – ...
Views: 4958(47 votes) - ***How is the Current Recession Affecting Marriage? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. For the past several weeks we have been pouring over as much data as we can get our hands on to answer a question we are often asked – “How is the current Recession affecting marriage in the USA?” The answer is complicated. Here’s what we do ...
Views: 4757(45 votes) - ***The Ten Essential Virtues of Love - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. This morning, a great friend of ours sent along an article that we were really taken with. For those who have read our book, Building a Love that Lasts (Jossey-Bass/Wiley 2010), you may recall a chapter entitled, “A Tribute to Lasting Love” (pp. ...
Views: 8761(47 votes) - ***The Fast Track to Falling in Love - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Falling in love does not have to be complicated. Sometimes it is as simple as meeting someone for the first time, falling head over heals in love with them and spending a lifetime together. It can be just that simple! Several days ago, we ...
Views: 3703(44 votes) - ***Open Marriage for Mo’Nique and Sid - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Just when you think you have heard it all, along comes Mo’Nique! Here is what she says about her marriage to Sid -- "Could Sid have sex outside of his marriage with me? Yes. That's not a deal-breaker," she says. "That's not something that would ...
Views: 5620(47 votes) - ***The Marriage Ref is an Idea Gone Terribly Wrong - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzRemember the television show, “Seinfeld?” Like you, we laughed ourselves silly over the antics of the show. It was funny and full of uproarious one-liners. When Jerry Seinfeld decided to promote the idea of a new show called “The Marriage Ref,” he and everyone else surely imagined that it ...
Views: 3194(40 votes) - ***Caring for Aging Parents While Keeping Your Love Alive - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Caring for an aging parent can take a very serious toll on your relationship with your spouse. What are the tips on how to help caregivers keep their love alive while caring for an aging parent(s)? What are the warning signs that your relationship ...
Views: 4375(42 votes) - ***Is time alone necessary for a great marriage? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. There is absolutely no question about it, great marriages require time alone – time away from each other! We have witnessed time and time again marriages in which one or both partners failed to understand the importance of being alone, not only ...
Views: 3824(39 votes) - ***Thank the Angels in New York City and Philadelphia - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are currently on an East Coast swing promoting our new book, Building a Love that Lasts: The Seven Surprising Secrets of Successful Marriage (Jossey-Bass/Wiley, 2010, available wherever books are sold). We have had multiple radio and TV ...
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