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- When the Wheels Come Off - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2009 from FSB AuthorsI grew up in the 70's and 80's when parents still told their kids to go outside and play. My friends and I would spend all day in the yard and when we got hot and sweaty enough we'd run to the back patio, open the water spigot on the side of the house and get down on our hands and knees so we ...
Views: 802 - Fallen Mann - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2008 from FSB AuthorsThe Mann Act, long relegated to the status of bawdy Frank Sinatra punch lines and literary asides—Lolita’s Humbert Humbert deplores the law as “lending itself to a dreadful pun”—was serious news recently for the first time in a century. In March, when Eliot Spitzer resigned as governor of New ...
Views: 791 - An Unnecessary Gamble: The Biggest Mistake In Retirement Investing - by Submitted on May 14, 2008 from FSB AuthorsOne of the most common mistakes made in the retirement investing world, particularly among 401(k) participants, is over-concentration in an employer's stock. In an analysis of more than 100,000 401(k) participants from companies offering stock in their 401(k) plan, more than 54 percent of ...
Views: 790 - The World's Biggest Pollution Factory - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2008 from FSB AuthorsThe coal that has powered China's economic growth . . . is also choking its people. -- Elizabeth C. Economy At the root of many of China's air-quality problems is its heavy dependence on relatively high-sulfur, low-quality coal for everything from electricity generation and industrial ...
Views: 783(2 votes) - What Do Your Children Need To Know To Succeed in Today's World? And What Can You Do to Help Them At School And At Home? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2008 from FSB AuthorsThe world is changing at an extraordinary pace. Twenty-five years ago, most young people who mastered the "3 r's" of reading, writing, and arithmetic and had a high school diploma were likely to be able to get and keep a decent job. Not so today. In research for my new book, I've come to ...
Views: 782 - A Rosh Hoshana Eid - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2008 from FSB AuthorsLast week marked the end of Ramadan, the Muslim month of fasting. I was particularly pleased that its end coincided with Rosh Hoshana. As a bonus, Eid, the festival following Ramadan, coincided with Gandhi’s birthday. It all seemed fitting, somehow, emphasizing our participation in an ...
Views: 781 - Tee-Time And Me-Time - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2008 from FSB AuthorsMothers live in a permanent state of guilt. How come men don't? Mothers are guilty not just about whether they work and how much they work and should they work and where they work. But they are also guilty about what they do with the few moments they can call their own. A classic example of the ...
Views: 777(1 vote) - John McCain, Postmodern Candidate - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2008 from FSB AuthorsOne night after the presidential election of 2000 in November and before the ultimate resolution of that election by the United Stages Supreme Court in mid-December, as I lay in bed listening to Nightline, I heard James A. Baker III explaining to Ted Koppel why it would be wrong to supercede the ...
Views: 775(1 vote) - Tuesday, September 13, 2005 (Wife In The North Excerpt) - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2008 from FSB AuthorsAbsent with Leave My husband left for London for two weeks. Let me see, how long have we lived here. Oh yes, three weeks. How pregnant am I? Seven months. How many children do I have? Two and a bit. Do I want to be here? No. Excellent. He has a deadline, he always seems to have a deadline. He ...
Views: 773 - Comrade Lenin: Alive and Well - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2008 from FSB AuthorsThe New Russia may have finally embraced free-market capitalism, but Vladimir Lenin, founder of Soviet communism and one of the great murderers of the twentieth century, still casts a long shadow across the Russian landscape. Indeed, when I journeyed to Russia with my family last summer to ...
Views: 771(1 vote) - Frequently Asked Questions - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2008 from FSB AuthorsIt's only been two days since I started breastfeeding and my breasts are killing me. Why? Once your milk starts to come. in, and the milk volume quickly increases -- which usually occurs sometime during the first week after delivery -- your breasts have a tendency to become overfilled, or ...
Views: 771 - Can Bad News (Really) Be Good News? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2008 from FSB AuthorsWe're up to our eyeballs in The Information Age. This certainly shouldn't be news to anyone given the fact that we can't seem to get away from the 24/7 world that technology has afforded us. There is news, views, and supposition coming at us from every angle, including on-line versions of ...
Views: 769 - My Father, the Witch Doctor - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2008 from FSB AuthorsOne day, back in the early 70s, my father suddenly discovered that he had the astonishing ability to talk to the dead and heal the sick (for real!). By day, he was a successful interior decorator with clients ranging from the Presidents of Cuba and Haiti to assorted mobsters and the illicit ...
Views: 769(1 vote) - Women: How To Stop Starving Yourself Of Success - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2008 from FSB AuthorsWhen we talk about starvation, or eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia, we’re normally referring to behavior relating to food. For example, when someone is said to have the condition called anorexia, we are typically describing a behavior pattern marked by an aversion to or pushing ...
Views: 763 - Secret To A Successful Divorce: Instead Of An Attorney Use Self-Help, Mediation Or Collaborative Law - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2008 from FSB AuthorsAs a family-law attorney for over 35 years, I can tell you that the secret to a successful divorce is to minimize your involvement with the legal system and to avoid using lawyers who work in it. Where one spouse is a controller abuser -- 5 to 10 percent of all cases -- this advice does not ...
Views: 762 - The Apostles Of Clean Fighting: Who Put The Rifle Into The National Rifle Association? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2008 from FSB AuthorsWhy is the National Rifle Association called the National Rifle Association? It seems an odd choice considering the organization's commitment to the Second Amendment, which refers broadly to "arms," not rifles, that require keeping and bearing. Wouldn't it make more sense for the NRA to call ...
Views: 761(1 vote) - Prologue - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2008 from FSB AuthorsWalter Martineck hardly knows Drew Peterson, a retired police sergeant in the Chicago suburb of Bolingbrook, but he's a good friend of Peterson's stepbrother, Tom Morphey. So it was that Martineck found himself unwittingly drawn into the events of October 28, 2007, the day Peterson's young wife, ...
Views: 760 - The Dangers of Radiation - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2008 from FSB AuthorsThe most serious problem with the widespread use of CAT scans is the radiation these devices leave in our bodies. CAT scans are not simple chest X-rays, which deliver only a small amount of radiation. Instead, they expose the patient to a significant amount of radiation, and radiation in ...
Views: 756(1 vote) - A New Context for Schooling - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2008 from FSB AuthorsEconomic survival is not the only factor that we must consider as we rethink education goals for the twenty-first century. To better understand how all of our schools must adapt to new realities, we need to explore three fundamental transformations that have taken place in a very short period of ...
Views: 750(1 vote) - Rejected? Throw A Party! - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2007 from FSB AuthorsYou’re going to be rejected in life, heck it happens to me all the time. And if you haven’t experienced much rejection, I’ll bet you’re not taking many risks. Without taking risks you’ll lead a safe, predictable, and somewhat boring life. So let’s learn how to ...
Views: 737 - Your Divorce: It’s About Time! (And Children) (And Money) - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2008 from FSB AuthorsTo have a better divorce, you need to take some time to read, think about and act on the advice in my book, Make Any Divorce Better, and the specific steps you can take. No matter what your situation, if you follow my advice, things will soon get better. As a family law attorney for over 35 ...
Views: 734 - A Tricky Treat . . . - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2008 from FSB Authors"Cemetery." Not a great way to start a conversation with a stranger, is it? Today all things deathly are impolite. But it wasn't that way in years gone by. Passing was something to be embraced. For two hundred years, urban American Christians were buried in churchyards. Then things got ...
Views: 733(1 vote) - How Is Sally Now? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2008 from FSB AuthorsMany people ask me, after reading Hurry Down Sunshine, how Sally is doing now. The book tells the story of Sally's first manic attack at the age of fifteen, during the summer of 1996 in New York City. My aim was to recreate the experience of Sally's astonishing leap into psychosis from both ...
Views: 729 - So Whose Fault Is It When Candidates Fudge On The Federal Budget? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2008 from FSB AuthorsYou may have the sneaking feeling that there's something the presidential candidates aren't telling you about the federal budget. And you're right. Here it is: Every expert who looks at the federal budget uses the same word to describe it: unsustainable. The federal government is $9.5 trillion ...
Views: 724(1 vote) - The Path of Unconditional Happiness - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2007 from FSB AuthorsThe highest spiritual path is life itself. If you know how to live daily life, it all becomes a liberating experience. But first you have to approach life properly, or it can be very confusing. To begin with, you have to realize that you really only have one choice in this life, and it's not ...
Views: 723 - Which Candidate Would Make The Better Pirate? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2008 from FSB AuthorsAmerica, in a ritual that it undertakes every four years, is about to elect a president. Our choices for the highest office in the land are a man who has done absolutely nothing in two years in the U.S. Senate, Barack Obama, and a man that has done too much for too long in the U.S. Senate, John ...
Views: 723(1 vote) - Broken: Book Excerpt - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2007 from FSB AuthorsPrologue October 1994 There was a sharp rap on the door, followed by a muffled but unmistakable command from a voice outside in the hallway. "We want the white guy, just the white guy. We know he's in there. He comes out now and there's no trouble for anyone later." I was the "white guy." I ...
Views: 722 - Divas, They're Just Like You and Me - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2008 from FSB AuthorsDo you demand only the finest 1000 thread count Egyptian Cotton sheets or require that your bath be drawn only with bottled spring water? Do you insist that your coffee be stirred only counter‐clockwise? If so, then, like many celebrities, you're a diva. Are you surprised to learn that you ...
Views: 713 - Focusing On The Essentials - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2007 from FSB AuthorsDo you think you know a leader when you see one? Most companies have the wrong notion of what a leader really is and does. Yet all the development efforts in the world can't deepen the leadership pool if they're focused on the wrong people to begin with. The brilliant strategist, the creative ...
Views: 702 - My Buddy's Candle - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2008 from FSB AuthorsWhen I finished writing this story two meaningful events occurred. One day while discussing this with a friend she told me she had the same thing happen to her. She watched her dog be run over by the school bus which was bringing her home from school. Sharing Buddy's story helped her to ...
Views: 701 - Advice From The Underbelly - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2008 from FSB AuthorsWhen I was pregnant with my first child, I had no absolutely no idea what to expect. I went about my business as if nothing was different. At work I'd occasionally glance down at my growing belly as thoughts of chubby, quiet, smiling babies dressed in all-white filled my mind. I had convinced ...
Views: 700 - But Don’t Forget Money - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2008 from FSB AuthorsIf people are Nice, Trusted, Proud, and Included, then the Recognition will certainly follow. And that doesn’t mean strictly dollars and cents. Our strong feeling is that money is not the main reason people choose where they work for life -- for a career. After all, money can’t compensate for ...
Views: 698 - Evaluating Your Options and Choosing Integrative Treatment - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2007 from FSB AuthorsIt may seem that we have a long way to go before most people have access to truly integrative cancer treatment. Academic medical centers have not yet sufficiently integrated CAM services into their conventional care models. According to research by Dr. David Eisenberg and his colleagues at the ...
Views: 698 - Not Just For Kids -- The Surprising Health Issues Of Midlife Women - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2008 from FSB AuthorsOne of the advantages of reaching midlife is that we are finally finished with all those issues that make childhood and adolescence such a pain in the neck, such as needing set bedtimes as well as regular dental and eye checkups; having to worry about using protection during sex and about ...
Views: 697 - Why I Wrote Hurry Down Sunshine - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2008 from FSB AuthorsIt was with a feeling of trepidation that I first sat down to write Hurry Down Sunshine. I don't think of myself as a memoirist in the usual sense of the word, and Hurry Down Sunshine is not about my childhood or my "awakening" or the "turning points" in my life. It's about a dramatic event that ...
Views: 692(1 vote) - 5 Keys To Fat Loss Success - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2008 from FSB AuthorsWhen it comes to losing fat, success doesn't happen overnight. Sometimes it doesn't even happen over a few weeks, a few months or a few years. Don't rush it, don't crash and don't expect too much of yourself too soon. Life is for the living; for the making of mistakes and learning from them. ...
Views: 691 - Hurry Down Sunshine Excerpt - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2008 from FSB AuthorsOn July 5, 1996, my daughter was struck mad. She was fifteen and her crack-up marked a turning point in both our lives. "I feel like I'm traveling and traveling with nowhere to go back to," she said in a burst of lucidity while hurtling away toward some place I could not dream of or imagine. I ...
Views: 690 - New Year. New You. New Nest Egg. - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2009 from FSB AuthorsBuild a better nest egg with 6 easy, sound strategies for 2009. The stock market lost 38% in 2008, but if you lost more than 20%, your problem wasn't really the stock market, it was the design of your nest egg. Storms occur in markets, as they do in the real world, but your home shouldn't be ...
Views: 689 - Healthy, Wealthy And Wise? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2008 from FSB AuthorsBy the author of Forgive Us Our Debts What two vital features of American national life are inordinately costly compared to any other country, no longer deliver world-beating results, are increasingly inequitable, are highly dysfunctional, and elicit growing anger from much of the ...
Views: 688 - When What You Want Is Stalking You - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2007 from FSB AuthorsWhen What You Want Is Stalking You You know that advice people give then you're dying to buy something, "Go home, and if you're still thinking about it in a few days, go back to the store and revisit it." Frequently one you get home you realize you don't really want the item over which you ...
Views: 688 - Spiraling Health Care Costs - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from FSB AuthorsAmericans are deeply unhappy with the country's health care programs and costs. And rightly so. As one author observed, "A recent survey showed that only 17 percent of respondents in the United States were content with their health-care system . . . Why the discontent? The superficial reasons ...
Views: 687 - Shrink Not -- Adjust the sail and seek The New Gold Standard of Leadership - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2008 from FSB AuthorsSoaring gas prices and the US credit crunch have many business owners scurrying to reduce costs and "do more with less." But this natural and reflexive approach to economic uncertainty is often the worst path a business leader can take. In fact, while researching my recently released book The ...
Views: 686 - Five Quick and Easy Recommendations for Career Women - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2008 from FSB Authors1. Know how to shake hands. Your grip must be firm and you must make eye contract. Smile and squeeze. Human contact is the first step in initiating a relationship. 2. Determine what you and/or your services are worth right from the start. Don't sell yourself cheap at the beginning just to ...
Views: 684 - Prologue (Walking on Walls excerpt) - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2008 from FSB AuthorsIt was late July. The summer mangoes had dropped from the trees and were lying rotting on the ground, ripped open by feasting bugs and birds. Their intoxicating, sweet smell mixed with the heaviness of the nightblooming jasmine. This languid perfume created a thick, rarefied atmosphere that at ...
Views: 679(1 vote) - Flinchlessness - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2008 from FSB AuthorsYou flinch . . . you lose. Imagine skiing at over 130 mph on skis and you catch an edge. One instinctive flinch to catch your balance and you lose any chance at winning the race. The challenge is overcoming the protective instinct to throw your hands out for balance while maintaining ...
Views: 678 - Parenting And Divorce: It’s About You! - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2008 from FSB AuthorsAs a parent, you are at the center of your child’s life, but first you are at the center of your life, and what your child needs more than anything is for you to be okay. Being OK will also improve your negotiations with your Ex over all issues. There are a lot of things you can’t change, ...
Views: 678 - Three Presidents And The Rifle - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2008 from FSB AuthorsThree of our presidents have been particularly fascinated by rifles: George Washington, Abraham Lincoln, and Theodore Roosevelt. But all for different reasons. Washington was what we would call an "early adopter" of rifle technology. As early as the French and Indian War (1754-1763), when he ...
Views: 671(1 vote) - Why They Talked, and What They Want - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2008 from FSB AuthorsA great gulf exists between American military and civilian societies. But paradoxically, it can be hard to tell young veterans of our wars in Iraq and Afghanistan from their peers who haven't served. As I wrote a book about West Point recently, I would visit with vets who had left the Army and ...
Views: 671 - America's Greatest Gunmaker?: Nobody You Know - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2008 from FSB AuthorsWho was the most important gunmaker in American history? There must be at least half a dozen -- and maybe up to a score if you thought hard about it -- leading contenders. Let me get into the spirit of things by naming, off the top of my head and in no particular order, Oliver Winchester, Samuel ...
Views: 668(1 vote) - Single at Holiday Time? The Ten-Step Recipe for Turning Holiday Stress into Joy - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2008 from FSB AuthorsThanksgiving is coming fast. Christmas. Hanukkah. Are you doomed to a miserable holiday if your relatives drive you crazy? What if you are just introducing your family to a serious date, someone who could be the One? Does Aunt Millie always cluck about what a shame it is that you are single ...
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