That’s a weird question probably. Of course not. You want to be free of them, why would you love them?
You probably spend your days somewhat frustrated over these dumb mental health issues going on in your head. Maybe you’re constantly telling your problems how much they bother you or how much you dislike them.
Maybe you push them to the side hoping that they will vanish.
What if I told you right now, that those feelings you are having towards them, are making matters worse? If I said that feeling angry or bitter over your mental health conditions made things worse, would you believe that?
By the end of this article, you’ll have a better idea of why that is the case, and how implementing the opposite emotion(which is love) can greatly improve your mental health.
Let’s first take a moment to define what mental health is. A quick google search will reveal the following:
A person’s condition with regard to their psychological and emotional well-being.
We can say that definition is the core of mental health, but there are many more aspects.
Mentalhealth.gov takes it further:
Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices. Mental health is important at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood.“What Is Mental Health?”MentalHealth.gov, www.mentalhealth.gov/basics/what-is-mental-health
I’d say this describes the matter more accurately.
I would like to now to ask you a question:
Do you believe that fear in all its forms:anxiety, depression, anger, hate, etc. could be a part of our condition as a newborn child?
Could we really exit the womb with the desire to harm someone(including yourself)?
Unlikely, and here’s why. All of those negative emotions we feel result from the thoughts that we think.
We have yet to gain the mind power necessary to even manifest these issues. As a newborn child, your brain and consciousness are too focused on studying and taking in the world around you.
If you’re not born with these problems, then they must be acquired. Even if very early on.
At certain points in your life, whether you consciously recall or not, you would have acquired these problems as a result of trauma you experienced.
The trauma will vary, of course. It can be anything from being laughed at in school to being abused by a parent. Some traumas are greater than others, but they all fall under trauma.
Take myself for example: I was a heavy kid, who only got heavier throughout his school years. This came with tons of bullying and insults about my size, not to mention the social awkwardness around it.(Shirts versus skins, anyone?)
I became very anxious to the point where I felt it non-stop.
No matter what I did, the anxiety was with me.
This stuck with me all the way until 2016, when I managed to heal the anxiety(mostly). The pain I endured in this way counts as part of my trauma.
Had all the other kids been more supportive, had invited me to happily be on their teams, and had treated me the same as “the cool kids,” the trauma would not have been inflicted,.
In fact, I probably would have felt way better about myself, and would have been less likely to gain all that weight. But that’s beside the point.
If I asked you to bring up trauma that you’ve experienced in your life, it probably doesn’t take you very long to think of a relative or a peer that did something mean or hurtful. For the most part, you probably could estimate when it happened as well.
What has been done to you is not right, no question about it. You experienced real mental and emotional pain in your past, and it is still with you today. It manifests as ugly emotions and wreaks havoc on your mental health.
The good news is just as you acquired this darkness at one point in your life, you have the ability to let it go.
What is a label? In our situation, it involves medical professionals slapping a disorder on your forehead in less than 5 minutes of talking to you.
If you’ve been diagnosed with a “condition” such as an anxiety disorder or depression (There’s quite a few types, I won’t list them all here) then you’ve been labelled.
Are you aware of the DSM (Diagnostic Manual of Mental Disorders)?
In short, it’s a big fat book published by the American Psychiatric Association. It contains all the mental disorders you can think of.
Here’s what I want you to understand:
This book is updated regularly.
There are “mental illnesses” in there that weren’t there 50 years ago. Or even 5 years ago. Why?
If you go on their website, they’re going to tell you it’s to help crackdown on treatment of mental disorders. Or to make a diagnosis easier for a doctor.
But why must we make a diagnosis? Why is it so important that we are labelled with a condition?
Do you ever wonder why none of these mental conditions seemed to exist in the past? Did they all just show up out of nowhere? After thousands of years of living on this planet, only in the last 100 years are all these mental health disorders a thing?
What I’m trying to get across here, is that this label is a control mechanism. By putting you in a box, taping you up, and saying “Depressed” or “Anxious” on the front, they can “rightfully” feed you whatever treatment they think is best.
NO.
You are a unique individual who has had particular life experiences that have manifested emotions inside of you that are causing you pain.
The first step to your self-healing will be letting go of this label.
I know prescription can alleviate the symptoms, but it isn’t the solution. You need to talk about your problems and be guided to heal them from within.
You have repressed emotions from the trauma you experienced, and those emotions are what you continue to feel on a daily basis.
No amount of prescription will ever heal your trauma. Yes, some of these pills seem to help people cope, and that it useful. But coping should only occur when you aren’t in the right place to heal.
Coping is a crutch. Stop coping, start healing.
Now I would like to step back a little bit and ask you again – do you believe you’re born with your mental health problems?
If your answer is no, then you believe that you acquired these problems throughout life. If you believe that, then I am here to tell you that you can be healed from your trauma.
If your answer is yes:
If we consider the well-known fact that our thoughts create our reality, how bad of a reality can a new-born create when he or she has yet to gain the ability to think bad thoughts?
And what I’m trying to convey to you – is that your “mental health” is perfect (or near-perfect) when you are born.
And what state or emotion is someone in who has perfect mental health?
Love.
You are born vibrating in pure love. It’s the experiences you encounter that chip away at this love. Every piece of trauma chips at little bit more.
Every experience you had where you felt unloved, unappreciated, or unwanted manifested corresponding emotions inside of you, such as anxiety or depression.
These emotions are just hanging out in there, waiting for you to let them out.
Any clue how you’re going to do that yet?
When you are living in a loving state, your vibration is high, you’re attracting great experiences to yourself, and life is generally easy.
Not because everything magically shifted into what you want (although it easily will with love), but because a person who stays in love doesn’t react to external surroundings and can diffuse negative situations.
Just by being present, a person who is vibrating love will make everyone in the room feel better. You’ve felt this haven’t you? You come across a super confident, loving person, and their kindness is almost intimidating. Everybody is attracted to him or her naturally.
Wouldn’t you like to be that person?
I can assure you if everyone else is attracted to his high vibrations, then he definitely loves and appreciates himself – The first step you must take.
Imagine if this person felt badly about himself? Do you think if he thought he wasn’t good enough, or felt angry towards the people around him, that people would be attracted to him?
Of course not. If he was vibrating in those low frequency emotions, we would hardly notice him.
He’s vibrating in love and positivity, and that’s what you’re attracted to.
Believe it or not, it’s as easy as saying “I love me.” It’s as simple as saying “I know I’ve made mistakes in the past, but I’m ready to receive love now, and I’m going to actively appreciate and love myself.”
It also includes forgiving yourself every day in everything you do.
Did you eat too much last night and feel regretful? “I forgive myself, I love myself, and I can do better.”
Mess up in a social situation? “That went fabulous. I’ll do better next time.”
This is about you no longer beating yourself up for everything. It’s about you extending the love and forgiveness for you own mistakes that you would extend others.
No matter how any situation goes, tell yourself you did well, and commit to doing better. Is there any healthier way to grow?
You know what else likes to be loved? Depression. Anxiety. Anger. (Insert negative emotion here).
I’m willing to be that if you suffer from any such emotions right now, you tell yourself how much you do not like having it and wish it would go away.
So let me ask you – Do you think all of this negativity towards your emotions (and thus yourself) are helping them heal?
Could we possibly consider that it might be making them worse?
If all the trauma you experienced (which left you with the fear-based emotions) is moving you away from your default state of love, the state you want to be in, would adding extra negativity and fear help?
I don’t really think so. I would think that doing so would take you further away from love, and deeper into those not-so-good-feeling emotions.
Which is not the direction that you want to go! Are you starting to feel me? The only way to beat the darkness you carry is by practicing self-love, which you completely have the power to accomplish.
The highest of them being love.
The path to healing is treating yourself the way you want others to treat you.
It’s showing compassion and love towards yourself in everything you do.
It’s not difficult, but it will take time. Remember one very important thing:
Any time you get the urge to cry, that is your pent up emotions saying “let me out!” And because you are bringing in love, you’re going to push out the fear. It has to come out somewhere, and that place is through your tears. This is how you know you’re healing.
If you’re lost in your thoughts and aren’t aware of what you’re thinking most of the time, it’s time to develop awareness. Every negative thought you think leaves its impact. The first step is take those negative thoughts off auto-pilot. I recommend that you start meditating(Learn how), first and foremost.
The practice gets you out of your mind and into the present. Once in the present, you are able to notice your thoughts. This is where you’ll be able to see all the thoughts you think about yourself. Once you can see your thoughts, you’re ready for the next step.
Now that you can see them, write them down. What are you thinking all the time? Do you constantly think you’re not good enough? Do you think your life is over because of your emotions?
Write it all down. Then on a separate sheet of paper, you’re going to transform those thoughts into something empowering. “I am worthy and can accomplish whatever I want,” “I have full control of my mental health and love the way I feel.”
Then you will want to do two things:
Take the one person you admire the most.
What are the qualities about him or her that you love? Completely describe everything you love about them.
Once you have your list of amazing qualities, start telling yourself you are those things. Repeat these phrases to yourself as often as you can, along with your newly positive thoughts.
Giving yourself 15 minutes in front of the mirror to tell yourself how amazing you are not only reforms your belief systems but more practically, is a huge mood booster. You get to say all the good things about yourself that you wish you always were.
Converse with yourself. Compliment the heck out of that person in the mirror. Show that person mountains of love.
Tell yourself how attractive you are. You get the idea.
You sort of get to lie to yourself by saying these things before you actually are them. But really you’re telling the truth, it’s a matter of seeing past all the layers of darkness and talking to the real, loving you.
In my experience, this is where you can do some very effective healing and let the tears flow.
All of your good thoughts, affirmations, and new empowering beliefs will serve you even further if you post them all over the house. This reminds you to think and say these words. What’s better is by constantly having these words in your view, even if you don’t consciously say or think the words, your subconscious absorbs all of it.
By surrounding yourself with reminders of love, you will naturally reform your beliefs system to be in a place of love.
This will accelerate the healing those fear-based emotions inside of you.
These are 4 ways from my own experience that I’d recommend. There are tons of ways to practice self love and heal your pain. The motto I stick by is to immerse myself so I don’t forget.
I have a dream board, I have affirmations on my wall, and I use an app on my phone to remind me to say great things to myself. Surround yourself with it, and you will be it!
Love heals everything. There’s no ifs, ands, or buts about it. You have pain inside of you consisting of emotions of not-love, such as anxiety, depression, shame, or guilt. These emotions are seeking only what we all are, love.
By changing your beliefs and actions to come from a place of love, everything that doesn’t vibrate at love’s frequency will be flushed out. It will take some time, and you will be expelling a lot of emotions.
The important thing is to open your mind enough to be receptive to this idea. I promise you though, once you have managed just once to heal by bringing in love, you’ll never want to stop.
If you’re looking to improve your emotional well-being and upgrade your mental health, look no further than bringing in love. It comes down to the simple act of letting yourself be all the things you currently believe you aren’t. It begins with you showing kindness and compassion towards yourself in every action you take, regardless of the result!
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