WHAT IS IT THAT YOU WANT?
Take a moment to think about what your ideal outcome would be in any situation that is taking up your thoughts and time at the moment. Really sit a second, and try to get a clear picture in your mind, or on paper, what being unstuck would look like before continuing.
Options – Now that you have a better idea of what you want, take a look at the below questions, and answer at your leisure:
What specifically have you done so far? What worked and what didn’t?
What do you have already (skills and resources) that could move you forwards?
What research could you do to help you find the first (or next) step?
What do you need to do before you do anything else?
Who else could you ask for help in achieving your goal?
If you were at your best, what would you do right now?
What would you do if you were an expert in (the area of your goal/problem)?
What would you advise your best friend to do if they were in your situation?
What would your best friend advise you to do?
What would (someone who inspires you) do in your situation?
If you had a choice what would you do?
What if you had as much time as you needed?
What if money were not an issue?
Imagine you’re fully confident in your abilities, what could you do?
Imagine you’re fully confident that others will support you. Now what could you do?
What other angles and options have you not thought of yet?
What is an impossible option?
What is the decision you have been avoiding?
If you (secretly) knew the answer to getting unstuck, what would that be?
Action – With all the great ideas and scenarios you answered above, you now have an amazing list of options to put into play:
What would be the smallest or easiest first step for you?
Which options or actions grab you?
How could you make the tasks/actions more enjoyable or fun?
Who else could help you in completing your action/s?
What’s one action you could take in the next 10 minutes?
What are three actions you could take that would make sense this week?
Let’s imagine you have found a magic lamp. You pick it up and absent-mindedly begin to stroke it. What’s that? I think it’s talking! Now, as you listen, I wonder what action it tells you to take?
Commitment – Do something now! Take any action, even if it is just reciting what you will do this coming week to move towards what you want:
When specifically will you do your action/s? Include the day AND time.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely are you to complete each action?
– If it’s below an 8, then ask what is stopping you from completing the action – and make this your first action.
How do you normally sabotage yourself – and what will you do differently this time?
Who will you tell about your actions (to support you in completing them)?
What specifically will you ask your supporters to do for you?
How will you reward yourself when you complete your actions?
Be mindful that you can tweak the above questions, and make them personal to you. You can also take a day or few to answer the above questions in the most truthful and helpful way for YOU. Also, focus on the outcome first, what you want second, and what steps you are going to take NOW to get THERE!!
I wish you the best, if you have any thoughts you would like to share, or helpful suggestions for other readers, please do, as I welcome your input
Sending smiles,
Lori Snyder
Lori Snyder is the outspoken creator of the recently launched “The Female Challenge” a core workout for mind, body and soul, focusing on the five cores of empowered success. She also wrote and facilitated the very powerful seminar/workshop “How to Stay Sane Before, During & After your Divorce” which helped many successfully move through this very transitional life change. Also being published soon, is the much awaited book “The Goddess Effect-Revealed” which acts as not only a book, but a seven week empowerment program, promised to rock your world into success mode.
As a Speaker, Author, Occasional Cable TV Host/Anchor, former Dale Carnegie Consultant, and Certified Transition, Business and Lifestyle Coach, Lori is an expert in helping others discover their greatness. She is known for being on target in her coaching practice, and has a gift for being able to tap into her client’s essence after knowing them for a short period of time.
Lori’s focus is on integrating all core dimensions to help each person move into their most powerful, productive and successful state of well-being. She helps guide each person through the very things that are holding them back from achieving a life they love, and the happiness, success and joy they deserve.
Lori has been featured in More Magazine, where she was interviewed on her practices and thoughts toward achieving a healthy lifestyle, along with supreme balance to achieve optimal body, mind and soul.
She was also sought after by Wellness Magazine to act as their Life Coach for a six-month feature, where she was the exclusive Life-Stylist Coach for six participants. Lori helped them create a life they loved through a six-month transitional journey, focusing on the individual needs of each person.
Lori has also written for many publications, both on and offline, including Generations Magazine, where she helped Senior’s with transition. Lori enjoyed a seat on the board of the Long Island Professional Women’s Association, and had an ongoing column in their monthly publication.
With a degree in Sociology and Anthropology, Lori has extensively studied psychology, sociology, philosophy and anthropology. She is also accredited and certified, both as a Certified Professional Coach (CPC) and an Energy Leadership Index™ Master Practitioner (ELI-MP).
Lori has a natural passion and love for her work. She enthusiastically helps her client’s re-discover, re-define and re-create their life. she helps them to focus, establish and implement a plan of action, that will accept nothing less then their success.
Lori believes that the way one cultivates and cares for a relationship with themselves and with others is very important, along with how they nourish their body, mind and soul on a daily basis. She feels that each person holds within them powerful inner strength, that when tapped into can help them to create powerful, positive results towards making their lives an extraordinary on