When I see someone post about how “not all fats are created equal”, I don’t just think about dietary fats; I think about BEING fat. There’s this stigma with being overweight that we just can’t seem to shake as a society. It’s all over the place, and I’m wondering, “When will enough be enough?”
Maybe you can relate: You’re in the grocery store waiting to check out and you see a magazine on the rack with a picture of someone’s cellulite under the heading, “Who’s Fat in Hollywood?” I mean, honestly, is this really something that’s necessary? Is this really going to improve the lives of people? If anything, it’s going to cause the average person to go, “Well if they think SHE’S fat then I must be some kind of obese. Ugh.” Personally, I don’t think that’s very healthy for the self-esteem.
Why do we even give a shit about what size someone is? Certainly you can say that you’re looking out for their best interests by pointing out how unhealthy their weight is, but is that honestly why you’re doing it? If you ask the average American, they’re going to tell you that being fat is not a good thing, is not desirable, is not healthy, is not attractive, or something along those lines. In fact, USA Today shared the results of a poll that stated that half of women would rather give up sex than gain weight.
I’ve written before about how we’re not serving people by pointing out how fat they are. I’ve also written about how there’s a reason for being fat. If you haven’t read those articles yet and you’re feeling badly for being fat and/or currently judging others for being fat, might I highly suggest you take some time to read those posts.
We are not helping others by judging them. We are not helping others by focusing on their weight instead of focusing on their heart. Instead of looking at what’s going on the outside, let’s start taking a peek at what’s on the inside. What does this person care about? What is her character like? What is he interested in? How does she present herself to the world?
The more you care, the more you will find to love. Weight becomes something that just is, instead of being ALL that is. Open your heart to people, regardless of weight. I promise you will find that there is more than meets the eye.
Have you ever been judged for your weight? How did it feel to be in that position?
Shannon Lagasse, Self-Love and Emotional Eating Coach, teaches women struggling with low self-esteem and an unhealthy relationship with food how to love themselves, love their body, and love their life. By coming from a focus on pleasure and getting to the heart of their issues, Shannon’s clients are empowered to find freedom from food fears and create the life they’ve always wanted.
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