What drives me to write my books and my blog is a consistent reaction I have when I see the eyes of people who think they are imprisoned by their lives. Mind you, these folks almost never say that they are imprisoned and I suspect that most of them would vehemently deny it if you asked them out of the blue. Yet, it is this sense of imprisonment and a corresponding disappointment with life that drives the emotions of “quiet desperation” that secretly dominate the hearts of the vast majority of people I run into.
Certainly life has its beautiful moments. The problem is they are usually fleeting. Perhaps their main effect is to remind you of the joy you one enjoyed as a child but that now seems as distant as your childhood.
I feel driven to awaken these folks to what can be ,now not “later,” once they’ve accomplished the laundry list of prerequisites to happiness they have imposed on themselves – got to make money; got to get a promotion; got to get this next sale; got to get my kids through college, bla bla bla.
That is all a bunch of bu** s**t.
Getting through to these folks is like trying to get the attention of a freight train as it flies by you. They just aren’t paying attention. They are so completely submerged in their own little boring worlds that they hear and see only what they expect to. My message is definitely unexpected or is rejected as a bunch of good feeling hooey. So I keep talking and tweeting and delivering my message to as many people as I can. If only a few take notice that is an accomplishment.
Practically the entire Earth’s human population is my targeted audience. I am only one guy but I don’t have some agenda or particular path that I insist you must take.
My mission is a simple one – to get your attention and then to get you to seriously consider one question – what is that hole in your heart that used to be filled? Then consider these questions: Was your ex-spouse really the cause of all of your miseries or just a convenient scapegoat? Do you really know your children? Is this the life that you always dreamed of? Are you prepared to settle for the rest of your life? Do you really have a choice?
Have I gotten your attention yet? If so, great!
Now don’t be afraid. Keep asking the questions. Don’t fear being depressed by the answers.
There is a way through this maze. It doesn’t require abandonment of your existing life and most that do choose to abandon their life and start over – call them “human bankruptcies” – just end up creating another life that mirrors their old one.
If you are still with me; won’t you stay with me? Do some research. The light at the end of the tunnel is there and it’s not really so far away. We all just need a guide to get there.
Hugh DeBurgh, The Passionate Warrior, has dedicated his life to the achievement of the ultimate family lifestyle. You can find him writing about Creative Family Lifestyle Design over at his blog, The Way of the Passionate Warrior. Currently he is on the second leg of a worldwide travel adventure with his wife and four young children. His blog is at http://thepassionatewarrior.com .