Aloha! Q & A time again!

Q: What's so wrong about "The Golden Rule?"
A: Short form: It's tyranny! Surprised? Read further, please:

A: Longer elaboration:
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
Ok, so what if others prefer something different done unto them than what it is that you prefer?

Say, just for the sake of example, I like dark chocolate. So I proceed to have everyone under the sun partake of dark chocolate, because that's what I would have others provide me. Dark chocolate doesn't suit everyone's taste, though, does it?

Nor does everyone prefer the same type of treatment when feeling unwell, as another example. Say you are one who loves to be smothered with nurturing attention at the first sign of the sniffles. That makes you feel loved, warm, safe, strong. So you proceed to provide that type of attention, say, to a friend who desires nothing more than to be left completely alone to go inward in order to meet their healing needs. The smothering, then, takes on a more literal, unpleasant connotation. Not unlike a telemarketing call during dinner. Ick! Understand?

So, the more evolved, mature, considerate rule - let's call it a guideline instead, or maybe even responsible, compassionately detached standard of behavior, would be an upgrade to Platinum: "Do unto others as they desire to be done unto."

Yes, it entails a deeper level of active listening skills to receive what it is that others want in order to provide it. But isn't that more respectful? More deeply honoring?
To comprehend what others want - observe. What do you notice in their speech, their habit patterns, their entertainment preferences, their choices of how to spend their down time? Those lenses can convey valuable input.

Last but not least - ASK. Different people, different cultures, different personalities respond to different communication styles. The questions: "Do you need anything?" "Do you want anything?" "Can I do anything to help?" are different from, "What do you need?" "What do you desire?" "What can I do to be supportive?" See?

"Political correctness is tyranny, with manners." - Charleton Heston

I hope you are inspired to take it to the next level in all your relationships. Humanity is ripe for a booster shot of loving compassionate detachment. Stay tuned for more on that.

Miracles and Blessings,
Dr. Renee

T. Renee Richardson, DD
“The AmBadassador of Light!”

Author's Bio: 

T. Renee Richardson, DD, "The AmBadassador of Light!" author, “Try This at Home! A Four-Step Guide to Practical Intuitive Development,” author, “The No Brain, No Gain Fastkine Dating Guide for Men…,” author, “The B-Natural Self-Care & Maintenance Guide,” contributing author: upcoming “SoulFree,” and author of upcoming, “Fiddy Grades of Yay!” metaphysical erotica collection, is a well respected, professional, potent healer and clairvoyant with over 35 years of experience helping thousands of clients worldwide to effectively achieve their cutting-edge goals. She offers services via phone appointment for your convenience, and loves providing an accessible network of support to those experiencing life transitions, such as career change, relocation, business expansion, and retirement, helping individuals build joyous, loving lives of new vibrancy. Her dedication to her path and her accuracy, compassionate detachment, authenticity, positive attitude and sense of humor have made her a sought after healer recognized worldwide.